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1:28 AM

Please when answering here do not be condescending or rude, even in jest which is how I think you intended your answer to come across. Other users may find it off putting and it is not really helpful. I have edited your answer to fit in better with site guidelines. Hope this helps. — Chad Apr 1 at 11:55

^^^ Well it was April Fools Day.

A: Can hire benefits vary by manager

When accepting a new job it is important to realize that everything is negotiable. This is true of everything from salary, vacation time, sick time, and other perks like a company car, or smartphone. Some things are much easier to get depending on the position. The phone and car are pretty eas...

^^^ +1: Excellent answer.

The most important point is this: Forcing smart people never works. You can't treat your highly intelligent team members like children and expect them to not complain, fight back, and resent you for it (case in point; I'm not directly affected by any of this but I still find it hard not to take personal offense at how the OP is trying to manage his team). Technical employees are generally about as smart as their managers (if not more so), so the only effective way to approach them is as peers, not as mindless underlings who should do what you say because you said it. — aroth Jul 12 '12 at 23:50

^^^ +1

@jmort253 Oh yes. I remember those days well. Stackoverflow has made life enormously better for developers.

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RhysW

6:43 PM

@Chad ah man, rabbits are hilarious

Alex M.

7:33 PM

eyy, what's up

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enderland

9:06 PM

I'm glad I did not choose to run for moderator here as it seems my perspective on "what types of answers are considered good answers for The Workplace" is not embraced by the majority of the community

Alex M.

I'm glad I managed to get my SO rep to be fourth in my top rep sites list

now, to take it out of that list entirely

enderland

@PaulDonny also realize that you can edit things you find offensive and remove things

enderland

9:27 PM

I want to add that as an active user here, if you feel people specifically (which your post strongly implies) are being disrespectful you should say something. I read most of the content on Workplace, meta, and chat, and cannot recall a single instance (other than this thread) raising any "hey this seems disrespectful" perspective, ever. — enderland 1 min ago

Many of us spend the majority of our answers basically saying, "talk with your boss/coworker" because in most cases that is the first step to conflict resolution. Passive aggressive answers like this one are never a good solution, nor is "woe is me, I hope someone else helps fix the problem I'm aware of." You are an active member of this community and have a lot of rep - if you feel the community is heading in the wrong direction because of specific people/trends, all the answers you provide towards coworker interactions and "talk with your boss/coworker" applies just as much here. — enderland 14 secs ago

Jim G.

9:58 PM

I agree with a lot of your post here enderland. And while you touch on a lot of the correct points you seem to in a lot of ways attempt to be making a justification for disrespect. As for the strict standards to questions, that works amazingly well to a Q&A board where there is solidified answers to nearly all situations. Since the workplace is about dealing with humans and not software, there is no single answer for any given situation. As such, I might know a good course of action for someone but I can not actually say 'This happened to me June 5th 1991 and I did this'. — PaulDonny 23 hours ago

"No one here is intentionally being disrespectful." I have to respectfully disagree. If you search for "lemming" in Chat, and then follow some of the conversations, I think many would come to a different conclusion. — Joe Strazzere 11 hours ago

^^^ @JoeStrazzere: Actually, I've seen this too, and I'm gonna start flagging it. Big time.

enderland

10:13 PM

@JoeStrazzere I don't know if you want to have a chat via comments on your meta post or not, but I really do think that if you see things (or people for that matter, especially active chat/meta regulars) which negatively affect the community here, you should point them out (gracefully, obviously there are good/bad ways to do this)

Stack Exchange

11:07 PM

Q: What should the "Back it up" policy look like for The Workplace

Nearly two years to the day since "back it up" was introduced to Workplace, there seems to be a lot of confusion regarding what the principle looks like on The Workplace. Here is all our on-topic says about this: Please note that answers should be backed up either with a reference, or expe...