@rumtscho Not surprising, honestly. I occasionally leave this chat for a while because every time I talk about a vegetarian recipe I get pushback about my diet choices and have to defend them, or "jokes" about how nothing vegetarian can taste good.
@BESW Oh :( I was just going to mention that we cannot always notice when it stops being cool for the other side, but if you explicitly mentioned it instead of bearing with a smile and hoping that it will stop, then that's worse than I thought.
As I slipped my finger slowly inside her hole, I could immediately feel it getting wetter and wetter. I took my finger back out and within seconds she was going down on me. "I really need a new fucking boat," I thought to myself.
Textured vegetable protein molded into a chicken drumstick strikes me as silly fake-meat and I might crack a joke about it without meaning to be hurtful, but veggie soup, quinoa and rice pilaf with chickpeas or broccoli stir-fry is just food - with or without meat.
I've not flagged any of your "jokes" at my expense because I don't know this chat's culture; my introduction to it tells me that sorting people into worthy and unworthy based on their personal likes and dislikes is a funny thing here.
I assumed it was all in good fun when it was just pop culture stuff.
@Jolenealaska Oh, I totally agree; most fake meat that's trying to be real meat should just stop and be proud of itself on its own merits.
Sadly, there are some chat rooms whose cultures I'm just not able to mesh with. EL&U likes using debate tactics in casual conversation, for example; SF&F really enjoys arguing for its own sake; and lots of rooms are more vulgar than I'm comfortable with in casual conversation (that latter one crops up here occasionally too). These are my boundaries and I don't expect other rooms to change their culture for my tastes.
I know it can sometimes be annoying when the same kind of joke at your expense is made again and again, even though it was intended in a light-hearted way and even though you found it funny the first couple of times.
@Cerberus Yeah, like @rumtscho says, first impressions are important. My first impression of EL&U was that I was having an interesting chat about intercultural semiotics when suddenly the other primary participant was trying to argue about which fallacies I was committing.
It was a typical--what's the argument tactic where the other person tries to drown you out by making irrelevant invocations of esoterica?
In the comment above, I said that I sincerely don't know what you're talking about. I mean that, and I actually (cursorily) looked for it after reading your question. I can see questions and answers that have been deleted, but not comments. Also, as I said above, I am here a lot. I say that becau...
I am not implying that it is the same situation and that you should "get over it", because I don't feel that strong about my reading preferences, and I don't care enough to become defensive about my favorite books. It seems that your food choices are much more important to you, so making them the butt of a joke really hurts.
@rumtscho Honestly, I've noticed for some time that it's mostly just the one person actively making me feel unwelcome by consistently demeaning my tastes and demanding I justify choices, and then dismissing my concerns as insignificant because it's "just a joke." The chat's overall culture is a little more vulgar than I'd strictly like, but that's just a background itch I'd otherwise be willing to overlook for the company.
The occasional joke I will happily laugh at. This did not feel occasional, so I mentioned that it was making me feel uncomfortable.
@ElendilTheTall I don't have the right to demand that you change your behaviour, and I won't. I do think it's silly to insist on behaving the same way to everyone we meet, but that's a philosophical difference and I understand the view that being consistent regardless of circumstance is a virtue.
But whatever confusion there was before, I hope it's cleared up now. I hope you know how I feel about the pattern of behaviour discussed above, and more importantly that your dismissal of my feelings on the matter makes me think you didn't mean it lightheartedly.
I'm sorry to blow up the chat with this drama, and I'll leave the regulars to their regular thing. At the very least I hope it's useful to know why I'm not around anymore. I have enjoyed our other conversations, y'all.
@BESW I would find it sad if you just disappear. Besides, what would have been the point of asking us to be more considerate of your food choices, if you won't be here again to talk to us, about food choices or other stuff?
@rumtscho Since I got an actual straight answer instead of a dismissal this time, I'll be back. You guys are kinda fun and I'd be sad to disappear too. But I'll probably keep a low profile for a while--it's not always easy to be in this chat.
@rumtscho But what the hey. I had three friends over on Saturday night, making five of us with my dad, so I made a sort of serve-yourself buffet with spicy Indian-curry tofu scramble; leftover mujaddara (Lebanese lentil and rice pilaf with cloves as a primary spice); vegan-style bread rolls; whole wheat pita pockets (store bought, I haven't had the time to figure out home-made yet); and Japanese curry sauce my friends brought over. Served it with that cranteade I talked about earlier.
(My whole "low-cholesterol mostly-vegan" diet thing went straight out the window while I was in SC; it's Lard Country.)
@rumtscho I just put in a relatively small amount, about a teaspoon for the whole pitcher. Gave the drink what one friend calls "texture," and a bit of a warm afterglow, but I couldn't actually taste the ginger itself.
@Cindy yes. if you have a round Weber type, you can get a special insert that fits between the base and lid. It's a cylinder with a door in one side, so you can just whip it open, slide the pizza in, and close it again, to preserve the heat
Hmm. Rosewater isn't really common on Guam, and roses will grow but without a cold season they bloom until they kill themselves. So for me, rose flavours and smells have strong religious connotations, because they're most commonly found in association with my faith's holy days, and pilgrimages to the Holy Land.
@Gigili I am a simple man. Give me a heaping bowl of fesenjan and some tahdig, maybe some zereshk polo, oh and some flatbread, and some of that smoked aubergine dip (the only way I like aubergine) and I'm happy :D
One has to wonder how a world where Turkey doesn't exist has a confectionary called Turkish Delight. But I guess Lewis didn't worry about minor issues about that. He also had a Father Christmas in a world where Christ never existed. I guess if you can believe all the things that Lewis believed, it is pretty much straining at a gnat to worry about such things.
I know! I have now learned to keep it in moderation. I have hypertriglyceridemia. When it was first found, I went for about two weeks severely limiting my carbs and then reverted to only whole grains, etc. After 2 years, my triglyceride number had only dropped 8 points. It went from 792 down to 784.
Yes. I just wonder what the number will be this year when I have my annual check-up. I mean I've done everything on my end that I know to do and I really don't want it to get worse. It can be quite serious. In fact, you can die from it, or rather the toll it takes on your body.
Anyway, we play with the cards we are dealt. That's one deck you can't stack.