This is pretty specific team dynamic to... not talk when in the same office. Did you not do a cultural fit in this regard at all before hiring the new member? How long has the new member been part of the team that it's already at the "filing complaints" level?

What exactly do you mean by "I don't really put much value on people, including myself"?

Per the subject, is being an extrovert viewed as obnoxious in itself, or is the new member taking extroversion to a particularly obnoxious level

@mattfreake I don't have the mindset that everyone is special in their own way, to me, we are all replaceable, and we all would be replaced in a blink of an eye.Nobody deserves anything, everything is earned. Having him feeling like we were interested in his life was rude, I do not care about his life, at all.

@AidaPaul Unfortunately no we don't have that in our process, just a regular interview where the subject admittedly was nervous and didn't speak much. He's been with us for 3 months now

@cdkMoose Clearly the subject is extroverted in nature, nothing against that. He just likes to speak about his personal life (even if it goes nowhere, like just retelling a story that happened to him) during work hours which in my team isn't prohibited, but it's discouraged as it leads to distractions. Plus, as I explained, we avoid talking out loud or loud noises in general.

@Or4ng3h4t and I take you didn't explain the "no talking or your fingers get cut off" policy either then? Like, maybe they talk to much, but the idea that people in the same office are only ever sending emails and ims to one another is just utterly bizzare. Is there some bussiness reason for it? Or is it just a massive waste of office space?

@AidaPaul I started this way, then an intern came and stayed, adopted the same thing I did. Then 1 more did the same. We are all developers, we have no reason to speak to each other outside meetings since everything is addressed there, most decisions need to be written and logged so emails and IMs help a ton at that. I don't understand your shock, why is it bizarre ? Why would you start talking about your weekend unprompted ? Do you believe other people are interested ? I know by this point it's an introvert vs extrovert thing, I'm trying to understand why he would feel that need.

@Or4ng3h4t you are simplifying something very complex issue to binary "intro vs extro" where those words do not actually mean what I think you think they mean. That's big part of the problem here. Yes, talking about daily life with people at work is normal... I'll have a think of an answer.

@AidaPaul always thought that Intro was people who were more shy etc and extro people who just are outgoing and energetic

@Or4ng3h4t people are not black or white (binary), assuming so is about 90% of most relation problems.

I assume that a creative solution like making this person work from home is not available?

What does your manager say about the situation? Presumably you've told him the new hire is breaking the no-speaking rule?

A team of developers who don't talk to each other sounds really, really ineffective to me. I am also an introvert.

‘How dare you speak out loud 4-6 times a day in an in person workplace!?!’ Jesus.

@mattfreake I don't have a manager, I am the one who delegates the work and manages the department, it's not a big company.

Who gives you the work? Who decides if you're doing an awesome or terrible job? Who gave you the job

@mattfreake The CEO of the company, this is only a department that I am managing, he's aware of the situation and told me I should be the one deciding since it's my department

@mxyzplk in a space you're supposed not to talk, not at work. There are plenty of spaces the individual can speak in his breaks.

The cartoon This is why you shouldn't interrupt a programmer is the best explanation I've found of what it feels like to have your flow cut off, in a way that non-programmers may be able to understand.

@gidds Thank you, that's exactly the number 1 reason for the unspoken rule.

@Or4ng3h4t (Feel free to edit that into your question if it helps.)

How often are your team meetings?  (If they're daily, then perhaps those would be good opportunities for some non-work-related chat, without disturbing anyone's work?)

@gidds We have meetings anytime we need them, anyone can create a meeting and send to other to see if they can attend, we usually do that with like 30 to 45 mins to the reunion, but It can be scheduled months in advance if need be.I don't discourage non-work-related chat if its outside of the office.