Bob must be very dumb to continue balling a girl who "is not willing to withdraw her complaints because she feels strongly that Bob must face some consequences".

@Greendrake perhaps, or maybe just emotionally conflicted or “love blind”. Although I’m not entirely sure what you mean in this context by “balling.”

But if Alice is granting Bob full conjugal access, what "consequences" is he facing?

@MichaelHall idk, criminal record, other probation conditions, community order, unpaid labour, fines, perhaps?

Maybe you should clarify your question to include and ask about the ramifications of the elements that you mentioned? Because some of them seem completely unrelated to a restraining order intended to protect the victim. (i.e. where does "unpaid labour" enter the equation?!)

I was responding to your comment: if Alice withdraws her complaint of assault/abuse etc completely then Bob might not face the other criminal consequences of his actions. The question however doesn’t specify whether the no contact imperative was issued as a protective/restraining order, bail conditions in pending criminal proceedings, probation/community order conditions in resolved criminal proceedings, suspended sentence conditions, etc. Whereas if Alice presses ahead with her complaint despite granting Bob ongoing full “conjugal access,” he can still face other consequences such as unpaid

Labour, as part of a community order, for example.

If they saw eachother in secret, Bob's lawyer is going to argue that there is no proof and that this never happened.

@Greendrake Is it even possible to withdraw a report? Where I live you can't do that. If the police learn about something that is illegal, they have to investigate it. The only thing you can do as a victim is to not co-operate. Sometimes that means that the police can't investigate it but in other cases, e.g., where there is a video of abuse, the investigation will continue and end up in court as usual.

@TylerDurden Why don't you just say "woman"? youtube.com/watch?v=hbA-KAgj-ko

@Greendrake people who commit domestic violence are usually...not the sharpest tools in the shed. Just sayin.

@d-b I do not understand the exact pertinence of that link

It sounds like Bob is looking for an excuse & is seeking control over Alice. I don't think you have to search very far for cases where "Alice" has ended up dead in similar circumstances.

@Bib that may be your assessment but I don’t think it is well founded in the given facts.

@TylerDurden Really.... Hardly a month goes by in the UK where a woman has not been murdered by their controlling partner & some of them have had court orders not to contact them. It may be a few years ago, but... endviolenceagainstwomen.org.uk/…

@JaredSmith - people who commit domestic violence are found in all grades of tool-sharpness.

@MichaelHarvey that's certainly true. But I said "usually" very deliberately, I was speaking of a probability not a defining characteristic.

@Bib okay whatever