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Q: OCD and religious intrusive thought

caseyr547This question Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit? was posted by someone who had a religious intrusive thought. Religious intrusive thoughts range from benign things like cursing God to more serious things like hurting Jesus or desecrating in some other way. Its very common for post parnum depressi...

 
 
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10:28 AM
@fredsbend You are dangerously ill-informed. Please stop strewing racist garbage.
 
 
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11:38 AM
@TRiG OK, I'm curious. Why would you disagree with mandatory critical thinking (psychological self-defense) and basic science training for young children?
 
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Q: Where can a Moderator Candidate post an extended statement?

pterandonWhere's the best place? I may start typing one here as an answer, then move it to a better place when I get a better answer. Thanks,

 
11:59 AM
@justbelieve There are many ideas which I quite like in theory, but which a bit of reading suggests are rather more problematic in practice. Communism, for example. And the extent to which the State should interfere in childrearing is, actually, a very tricky issue, fraught with danger. All extremes seem horribly wrong, but getting the balance right is very very difficult.
That said, I've not fully read the backlog of that discussion yet, so perhaps your proposal is not quite what I think it is.
 
Generic comment about David Stratton's "Pastor Advice" question. Yes, it is dangerous, and probably enough reason to stay banned. But in other fora, I've done that many times, because it allowed for anonymity on my part-- I didn't have to tattletale to or on the pastor.
 
@TRiG Just leave it at teaching kids critical thinking skills (e.g. logical fallacies), how not to get conned, and the basics of astronomy and geology knowledge as early on as possible (certainly as early as churches and parents start indoctrination). Psychological self defense really.
 
12:24 PM
@TRiG - re christianity.stackexchange.com/questions/12234/… Thank you for those links. I tried posting that from a new Android tablet with only an on-screen keyboard. Not the most user-friendly of experiences. I'll take a true PC with a keyboard and mouse (don't care about the OS) any day.
 
@DavidStratton that answer you just flagged is a spammer, go ahead and hit the spam flags with any more links to that site you come across
 
@waxeagle - Will do. Thanks!
 
@TRiG Have you seen Political Compass? It separates left/right and Authoritarian/Libertarian into two separate axes. This makes it easier to think about poilitical orientations
 
@pterandon generally my philosophy on it is: "I feel like getting advice from this site would be hit or miss and I'd rather users go to someone who is (in theory) more reliable and trusted"
doesn't have to be a pastor, but it should be someone in real life rather than a bunch of ghosts in the machine
and I say that as someone who will go very far out of my way to avoid talking to someone if I can figure it out online
 
1:32 PM
@justbelieve Yes. I believe other, more sophisticated, tools also exist.
 
2:27 PM
@justbelieve That may or may not be a good place to draw the line. Trouble is, you're making a judgement call about where to draw it without explicitly basing it on something transcendent and absolute. Next person to start drawing lines might therefore be dealing with different "truths" and drawing the line in a much scarier place.
so ... here's a question that's pretty clearly opiniony: christianity.stackexchange.com/questions/17648/…
and, it's an interesting question that folks could potentially provide good answers for based on their tradition's general guidelines for understanding of scripture.
 
@svidgen it's definitely borderline truthy. I haven't closed it partially because that first answer is pretty darn good.
 
question is, are hermeneutics questions really a good fit for the site? should any and all "what does this scripture mean?" questions be phrased with respect to a tradition? ... "does tradition X have an interpretion for this passage?"
 
no they are traditionally a terrible fit for this site unless the interpretation asked for is a doctrinal/denominational frame.
However, we do have some excellent questions/answers that are truth based. The only real problem with them is that they are the OP's version of the truth and may or may not reflect actual truth.
 
@waxeagle Looks like a reasonable analysis, to be sure. But, is it Christianity? Or is it just a good, reasonable opinion about a passage?
 
@svidgen that's a great question. If it's the second we have a site for that :)
(it does reflect what I believe main stream protestants believe about the passage, but I'm not 100% sure about that even)
(and I have a soft spot for the awesome question title)
 
2:43 PM
@waxeagle What would you recommend as the best course of action for these types of questions? Flag as off-topic? Flag as opinion-questions? ... or VTC as either of those? ... (The goal really being to get it moved to hermeneutics.)
 
@svidgen off topic would be correct if you want it shipped over there. I usually check with the mods over there before I send anything and I haven't seen them in a while (the active ones are on vacation right now).
 
@TRiG Web-surfer-facing tools? Just link to the sites... :)
 
@waxeagle Whelp. I haven't really been one to flag things in the past ... but, these sorts of questions are starting to bug me. ... I'd love to address them over on hermeneutics if ever my children let me sleep again. But, they often feel really misrepresentative here. ... so ... I think i'll start flagging more liberally (by which I mean, I think I'll start flagging things)
but, i'm late for a meeting ... so i'll start flagging things later
 
@svidgen that's great. We really do need folks to flag things, though in your case I want you to cast a close vote first if it's a question.
 
3:19 PM
@justbelieve I think they exit. I vaguely recall them. May do some digging at some stage.
 
 
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5:20 PM
@TRiG So, in the two-axes framework (corp-vs-individual X, authoritarian vs libertarian Y), you actually "quite like in theory" the idea of left-wing authoritarianism (communism), but think "a bit of reading suggests" it's "rather more problematic in practice"? I'd personally go with left-wing libertarianism if I had to choose between these two :)
 
5:46 PM
And yet, when I hear Libertarians talking, I usually make the rage-face.
I don't think Political Compass is a perfect tool, lets put it that way.
 
@TRiG the typical libertarian I know is right leaning though
 
@waxeagle Yeah. The terminology's quite messy, actually, and is different in different parts of the world. I'm probably a liberal, of some sort, but that's a word notorious for its many many definitions.
 
@TRiG yes, not only is it different in different parts of the world, but it's A. completely flipped depending on time and location and B. changes over time.
 
@waxeagle To translate that into Political Compass terminology, you're saying that a downward lean is statistically correlated with a rightward-lean (see @TriG's graph)
 
@justbelieve Among modern American young white males, anyway.
 
5:51 PM
@TRiG right
@TRiG aka "tea party conservatives"
(though the age gap is pretty wide in that group)
 
@waxeagle People who enjoy fantasising about being disenfranchised lean right. People who actually are disenfranchised lean left.
 
@TRiG The message you linked to was linked to another message that wax was talking about. Eugenics stuff. It turned out to be something different but I thought it was about that thing where 30 or so black men were sterilized. This thing was about the "feeble minded." Call it what you will. I don't think I harbor any "racist garbage" and am perfectly willing to "judge a person by the content of his character."
My problem is that many black people I meet don't seem to be able to do the same and when I try to call them out I become the racist. There is a massive double standard in the USA and for now, white people are just putting up with it, but ultimately, if it continues, it is just going to foster racism rather than eliminate it.
 
@fredsbend Because judging strangers' intentions is easy, especially when you have no reason to feel afraid. You're spouting bullshit. Stop it.
 
@TRiG In those other frameworks (that you don't currently remember) what was done better compared to P.Compass? Or what would you add to the visualization?
 
@TRiG Easy to call my own experiences BS when you don't like the results. You don't even live in the USA so how would you know?
 
5:57 PM
@justbelieve Well, one axis (left/right) to two axes is an improvement, but it hardly captures all the nuances. There are more axes than that. (I'm particularly thinking of questions of the extent to which the government should attempt to shape social attitudes. And make no mistake, governments do attempt to shape social attitudes, such as in anti-drink-driving ads.)
 
@TRiG And some rich intellectuals who don't know what's good for them also lean left (with examples since the French Revolution onwards) :)
 
@fredsbend And when I read a lot from people better informed than you.
@fredsbend Your experience with the law is not the same as a black person's in your country (or, probably, in mine).
And yes, that does shape people.
 
@TRiG You've linked to some pretty stupid stuff in the past. You strike me as someone who only reads stuff that furthers your already held opinion.
 
You're fantasising that you're living in some kind of post-racial utopia. You can hold this fantasy because you live in an insulated bubble, immune from the actual effects of racism. So when black people point out racism, you think the problem is with them. You're wrong.
@fredsbend The blogs I read shake me up from time to time. That's (one reason) why I read them.
 
@TRiG So I guess you'd split the Y axis (power of community over individual) further. That's what I thought. I'm not sure how to create powerful visualizations from that though.
 
6:02 PM
@TRiG On the contrary, this is hardly any kind of utopia. In fact, I see things only getting worse if the trends I see go unchecked.
> So when black people point out racism, you think the problem is with them. You're wrong.
Just flat out. I'm wrong and they are right. Because they said it's racism it surely is.
 
Of course, I also read them because they sometimes make me laugh, as demonstrated in "Pinterest Your Way Out of Purgatory!" (just to get this room vaguely back on topic).
 
That is the attitude I am talking about. It is harmful.
 
@fredsbend Well, they know considerably more about racism than you do, since they have to live with it. I have a healthy respect for experts, and am inclined to believe what they say unless I see good evidence otherwise.
 
I don't get it. Since you guys insist of talking about racism, why is there no mention of zimmerman? Does anyone seriously think that if Zimmerman was black and Martin white, the verdict would be the same?
 
@TRiG Are we talking about Joe Black Guy or some sociologist? Either way, I don't see either of them more qualified than anyone else to determine racism.
@justbelieve I try to avoid discussing media tainted cases.
@TRiG Racism is a matter of the heart.
 
6:08 PM
@justbelieve Some of the links I've posted have touched on that case, and on how other cases are treated completely differently, even under the same laws.
 
@TRiG Yeah, I've seen that. Why the gloves though? Or why not avoid the subject completely when one has no life-and-death experience with it?
 
@fredsbend Well there's the difference between us. I respect experts and expertese, while you don't. You live in a fundamentally racist society (so do I, though it's a different racism expressed in very different ways). Racism permeates your culture (and mine). It affects many many personal interactions. You have thought racist thoughts, as have I. We are products of our societies.
 
Racism doesn't exist in a vacuum. There is Dred Scott v. Sandford. There is Rodney King. There are the lynchings, there is Strange Fruit, there is OJ Simpson.
 
And the way society treats racism as some special kind of evil, and treats the accusation of racism as some terrible kind of outrageous slander, gets in the way of how we recognise our own racism and work to rid ourselves of it.
@justbelieve And a lot of this is very very very recent. It's not ancient history. It's still there.
 
@TRiG So, the Roman Catholic Church is bringing back the use of indulgences after many years of disuse?
 
6:15 PM
@Anonymous they've never gone completely away IIRC
 
@TRiG I mostly agree. I do respect experts. I respect them enough to question what they say when it doesn't add up.
@TRiG This highlights the issue I was trying to illuminate.
 
> I have been teaching history for 10 years; when they enter my classroom, the students all know that the Bad Old Days were bad! But (say the white students) everything is fine now! They have learned to say how bad things were. But they have also learned never to draw a connection to today. They can read it, they can mark it, they can even learn it, but they refuse to inwardly digest it. (My Black students don’t seem to have that problem. Curious.)
 
@TRiG I've seen it. I know you've referenced it
 
@justbelieve Deciding to reference that a bit more explicitly, because it's a good point which @fredsbend, for one, seems to be missing. Historical context cannot simply be walked away from, the way he seems to want to.
 
npr.org/2013/07/16/202729364/… This aired on my way home last night. It's worth a listen regardless of your position
 
6:23 PM
@TRiG Good idea. But I really think people should stop talking philosophically about real-life issues that they have no experience with. It's easy to justify suffering as God's way of testing the faith of the faithful when you don't even know anyone who has a relative killed by the Nazis
 
@justbelieve Well, I wasn't going to, but I saw some stuff which was so utterly wrong I had to respond.
And @fredsbend still hasn't apologised for this,
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@waxeagle Well, the put off is when it becomes another sob story for American Blacks. I'm just so sick of hearing about that stuff. They cram it down your throat when your a kid in school (especially in February) and stick it in your face with nearly half of every hollywood movie or tv shows.
That is an utterly disgusting statement.
 
@TRiG I didn't realize I needed to apologize for feeling like certain issues are over-discussed and become annoying to hear.
And to whom would I apologize then? You, I suppose, because you found it so disgusting?
 
@TRiG I don't think a GOP-style apology ("sorry, I've shown my colors too clearly, I should have phrased things differently") really does much. Coming out of such a position takes at least an eye-opening experience and a year or three
 
@TRiG They try very hard in grade school to make you feel like a piece shit for something you great grandfather might have done.
 
@fredsbend and which your father is still doing and which you are still defending
 
6:29 PM
I don't know what you call that, but it is wrong and messes a lot of people up.
 
@fredsbend Ah, so the fault is your poor education, then.
You're not supposed to feel guilty. You're supposed to feel angry.
 
@fredsbend no. I used to hate black history month, wondering why we had it at all. I went to a lilly white college and it was a painful month to be honest. Then I realized something. It's still necessary. We haven't acheived equality yet. Yes we could all afford to be less defensive about it, but it's still important and will be until we have real equality here.
 
@justbelieve Wow. Glad to see that I can be chastised for stereotyping blacks, however, it is acceptable to do so to me because I am white.
 
if you have a chance, NPR's race card project is fantastic. They have something on the radio about it every month or so.
 
@TRiG Fault of what? Is this the racial inquisition? And it's not guilt they foster. It is shame for being what you are and for have ancestors who might have done terrible things. It is the exact same psych that they put on those poor black kids 100 years ago. Trying to convince them they are less than human, somehow, or should at least feel like a worm.
@waxeagle I see it as modern, civilized segregation. It furthers the divide between the two races.
 
6:37 PM
@fredsbend I used to think the same way actually. I don't anymore.
 
Black or white, they are both human and American. That is the unity we should strive for. There is no reason to keep talking about us like we are different. Skin color is benign. Just as benign as hair and eye color.
 
@fredsbend essentially this idea robs folks of their cultural identity
what I'm saying is that painting over our differences isn't productive. We have to understand them, and understand how to work within them. Saying we're all the same isn't productive when it's not true. We have different cultural identities (just like we have them with north and south, east and west, and white and latino). Unity is possible, but not at the expense of identity.
 
@waxeagle So we are back to the simple point I hinted on before. When people group together they build sub-culture. But if you make notes on a sub-culture that is primarily one particular race it becomes stereotyping and even racist. This hints on the other double standard issue. A white person cannot tell you his observations on black sub-culture. Unless, he wants to deal with what I have above.
Well, he has to make the right notes so he is still in the PC's good graces.
 
@fredsbend that's an issue of the fact that white sub culture has destroyed their credibility.
and continues to have strong elements that prevent it from restoring it
 
@fredsbend Just as you have used "great grandfather" symbolically to represent 3 generations ago, I used "father" and "you" to mean 1 generation ago and the current generation.
 
6:49 PM
@waxeagle phsssst. You have been so brow beaten that you are willing to abandon your own culture and individuality for the sake of someone else's. When all is said and done, pray tell me, who will you be?
@justbelieve That's not quite what you said.
 
@fredsbend So the racism, the Jim Crow and KKK legacy, the lynchings, the open and covert discrimination are the best part of the white subculture? Those are the parts that must be protected at any cost? Wow. Perhaps you can find better things to stand up for.
@fredsbend That is exactly what I said in the snippet that you replied to.
 
@justbelieve Perhaps you could refrain from putting words in my mouth.
@justbelieve What I am standing up for is my right to be what I am without someone cheapening it. I am standing up for my right to candidly criticize anyone based on my personal observations. I am standing up for my right to be judged by my character rather than by what my progenitors have done.
 
7:24 PM
So, again, what I get is dismissal then everyone leaves. I was dropping the issue until someone demanded an apology.
 
juggles
@fredsbend eh, conversations are free to end whenever participants feel they are done. I realize that's not satisfactory, but it's chat
 
@waxeagle I'm not upset at the particular persons involved. It's just what always happens on certain issues, like this most recent. I speak candidly, receive negative, but non-constructive, feedback, then am dismissed as uneducated or ignorant or whatever, then they all leave. I just got really riled up when TRiG said I needed to apologize for having particular feelings and it made me a little more mad that they all ran out the door shortly after. I'm calming now.
 
hmmm...I don't think my avatar strikes the right tone right now...thinking I may need to find a new one...now comes the debate between whether it should be a picture of me or a picture of my kids...
and from there it's whether it should be a recent picture of me or an old one...
 
@waxeagle I recommend a picture of a salamander
The tiger salamander (Ambystoma tigrinum) is a species of mole salamander. The proper common name is the eastern tiger salamander, to differentiate it from other closely related species. Description Eastern tiger salamanders grow to a typical length of and a maximum of in length, particularly neotenic individuals. Adults are usually blotchy with grey, green, or black, and have large, lidded eyes. They have short snouts, thick necks, sturdy legs, and long tails. Their diets consist largely of small insects and worms, though it is not rare for an adult to consume small frogs and baby mic...
found one of those in a gopher trap this morning ^^^
 
he looks friendly
@Shog9 fun :)
 
7:35 PM
@waxeagle Just so long as you recognize that tiger salamanders have their own unique subculture which is just as good as that of other, less-tigery salamanders and which you shall say nothing against.
 
@Shog9 are the tiger salamanders oppressive of less tigery salamanders or have they been in the recent past?
 
@waxeagle beats me. Didn't even know they lived out of the water until this morning.
Eagerly awaiting tiger salamander history month.
 
@Shog9 :). Do you guys have water on your property?
 
@waxeagle no, although it has rained rather a lot recently there's not even any standing water to speak of - on a sloap, sandy soil.
 
@fredsbend You complain about being lectured about discrimination again and again. Spare a thought for those who face actual discrimination. Spare a thought for those who are treated as potential criminals whenever they show up on the street.
 
7:42 PM
@Shog9 we've had a ton of rain this year (at one point we were 10" over, I think we might be even farther over now). We're mostly clay, but we slope down to the woods so I don't get standing water.
 
@fredsbend And also, what exactly are you that everyone else is cheapening?
 
@justbelieve White male. Apparently I am the worst it gets in some people's minds.
@justbelieve Thinking a black guy on the street as a potential criminal (more so than other races and sexes) is a statistical problem. The fact is that there are statically more violent crimes committed by black men than by any other group. But I suppose this is your cue to tell me that racism wrongly convicts them and wrongly exonerates white criminals. And then we can run circle again where I point out negative aspects about the black sub-culture and then you call that disgusting and racist.
 
@fredsbend Well, if the only thing that defines you is being white male (and not a musician, or a computer programmer, or whatever), then I'm sorry to say you have no reason to complain. Not when compared to black males, or women, or immigrants who don't speak the language etc.
@fredsbend Maybe, maybe not. Suppose 10% of coloured people are criminals compared to 1% whites. Spare a thought for the 90% who are unfairly discriminated. They can read the racism in your eyes whenever they have to interact with you.
 
@justbelieve What? You are poorly logically equipped. Clearly, I was indicating that some people look at me as only that.
 
easy gents.
this has stayed civil so far, let's keep it so
 
7:53 PM
@fredsbend The problem comes in when you take an observation that offers benefits in a very narrow scenario and try to extend that to... Everywhere.
You live in a place where folks with darker skin are likely to rob you? That sucks. But you're probably justified in being a bit cautious of folks with dark skin while you're in that area, at least until you can find a way to identify folks looking to rob you with a lower false-positive rate. Leave that area, and all bets are off.
 
@justbelieve When I am not part of their sub-culture it is not my place to correct it. I can't go into someone else's house and tell them what to do with their kids (although I guess you disagree on that point). Perhaps if the other 90% were more upset about the 10% committing the crimes and chastising them instead of defending them while calling the cops and everyone racists then the 10% would stop offending.
@Shog9 ???
 
@fredsbend ... and that's another great quote from you. Thank you!
 
@justbelieve So what is your plan to convince the black criminal to not offend? Let me guess, education?
 
@fredsbend You're arguing statistics, but unless you're seriously claiming that those statistics are a direct result of genetics (in which case, prove it), you don't actually have anything immediately useful in your day-to-day life.
 
@Shog9 I would never say it is genetic. It is cultural. The black sub-culture has created an acceptance for law breakers. It even, at times, glorifies violence against the weak (women), murder of enemies, and drug culture.
 
8:00 PM
@fredsbend again, you're either referring to a specific group or locale, or you're painting with an incredibly broad brush here.
 
@fredsbend I don't actually expect you to change your opinions based on an internet chat. However, the more you write the more you're revealing your true colors, and that's the only reason why I've been replying to you. Sorry :)
 
@Shog9 It is broad and narrow at the same time. The line is very wide and several shades of gray.
 
@fredsbend this is your cue to tell me that racism wrongly convicts them and wrongly exonerates white criminals
 
@fredsbend I lived next door to a family with darker skin for two years, never had a problem. Prayed in a church with a dark-skinned preacher. Sung centuries-old hymns with a dark-skinned congregation. Who gave me trouble? Who stole from me, harassed me, eventually drove me out of town? Light-skinned pop-music-listening meth-head racists, who never the less delighted in telling me how the neighbors were gonna cause trouble sooner or later.
 
Well, yes. There's tons of evidence to support that.
 
8:03 PM
So you can guess where my prejudices sit right now for the area I was living in. Am I gonna take and apply those to the location I'm in now? I hope not. I'll try not to.
 
@justbelieve You didn't have to coax anything out of me. You could have simply asked. You could also reply to the question and prove that you have an answer beyond dismissal and ad hominem.
@Shog9 It's the meth-head part that screws people up. Hard to reason with those types. There are a lot of those here where I live.
 
@fredsbend shucks, I threw that bit in as a red herring - the black folks were doing and selling drugs too. Small town; seems like half the folks in it were. And of course, everyone thought they had it under control unlike those differn't-lookin' folks over there.
 
@TRiG There's tons of evidence to support that the wealthy escape justice while the poor with public defenders get the harshest sentences. Perhaps the "tons of evidence" you are referring to is an extension of the correlation that there are more poor blacks than whites. The extension could be placed further that when whites are on trial it is less likely a violent crime; it is easier to show mercy on someone who embezzled some money compared to someone who has beaten his wife or murdered.
@Shog9 I was thinking more along the lines of red neck. Those guys who live out in the boonies and rarely have any constructive thoughts. They might as well be on meth.
 
@fredsbend Don't forget that many/most convictions (at least around here) are not handed down by a jury of peers, but negotiated under dire threats of incredibly harsh sentences. A public defender - or even a a reasonably-priced lawyer - probably isn't going to do anything for you unless you know the system well enough to know when they're bluffing...
 
@TRiG Never mind a certain criminal's criminal history. There are a lot of second and third chances going on, so actually, I say there is no good evidence to support that.
@Shog9 Exactly another major issue. You get cornered by these very imposing persons, who happen to be the prosecutors, telling you that you should just confess to x lesser charge because they will be found guilty of the greater charge. They do that here where I live; even on traffic tickets.
And they don't tell you these are the same people who will be working the case against you in court. They don't tell you that they are the people with a vested interest in you going to jail.
 
8:18 PM
@fredsbend It's a very efficient way to get folks into the system with a minimal amount of fuss. Prisons are big business around here, so there's a certain economic advantage to being "tough on crime" as long as that means getting folks imprisoned with a minimal amount of effort.
 
@Shog9 Yep.
 
Of course, this ends up just amplifying any existing prejudices, whether they're based on color, culture or cash in hand.
 
@Shog9 Well, to cops, everyone who's been arrested is a criminal.
You're already guilty.
@justbelieve Really. Do you have an answer: "what is your plan to convince the black criminal to not offend?"
 
@fredsbend Do you mean convince convicted criminals to not re-offend? Or do you mean that all "blacks" are criminal types that must be discouraged from offending? You can't even ask a question that doesn't ooze racism.
 
8:36 PM
@justbelieve You are reading your opinion into it. "offend" or "re-offend" are both still offenses against the law. You are using criminal more in the context of having been convicted in a court; I am using it as someone who breaks the law regularly or intends to do so.
The courts or anything else has little to do with the way I am using the word.
 
@fredsbend Example.
For non-violent crimes (particularly drug offenses), black people are far more likely to be arrested, and far more likely to go to gaol.
 
@fredsbend By that definition you too are a criminal, for you regularly break the speed limit. 23 percent of high school students have recently smoked marijuana, so those are criminals too. But suppose you limit yourself to felonies: You commit three felonies a day
 
@TRiG hopefully change is afoot, a lot of states are softening on non-violent drug crime (finally)
 
@fredsbend But besides, teaching incarcerated criminals to not re-offend, and preventing people from offending in the first place are very different problems. So which one are you asking about?
 
@justbelieve Either. I simply want to know who you would go about convincing the black community to not break the law. Let me remind you that this question is not inherently racist, as I suspect you would and have called it, but stems from the fact that there are more black criminals than white and the black sub-culture does not seem to care.
@justbelieve To be more clear, I thought were were talking more specifically about violent crime.
 
8:47 PM
@fredsbend I think what @justbelieve is getting at is, we don't actually know that there are more black criminals - just convictions.
 
@TRiG IMO, much police effort is wasted on enforcing drug policy that is ridiculous. The violent crimes is what we were more talking about. I don't really care about possession offenses.
@Shog9 And attacking the stats is where people go when they have a poor answer or none available at all. The fact that there are more convictions is likely correlated to there being more witnesses saying saying the perp was black and more suspects turning out to be black. It is foolish to just dismiss these stats, despite the many problems with the courts.
 
@fredsbend You may not care about them. People who are disproportionately (grossly disproportionately) sent to prison for them do care. You, it seems, have the luxury of not having to care, and fully intend to indulge in that luxury.
 
@TRiG Well we could look at this case, but I am certainly not going to just take that bloggers word for it.
@TRiG I don't care about them because I think almost all of them should go away anyway. Whether the offender is black or white. Also, pretty hard to argue with a possession charge when, well, you were in possession of illegal substances.
 
@fredsbend So the fact that your justice system is grossly racist is something you don't care about? Okaaay. (I'm not actually surprised by this, I'm just clarifying.)
 
@TRiG What is it with you guys reading racism into everything!? I am in favor of legalizing almost all drugs and taxing the hell out of em. I specifically said that whether a guy who has a possession charge, for say MJ, is black or white I don't care, BECAUSE I THINK THEY SHOULD ALL GO AWAY ANYWAY. Further, as I already said, maybe blacks just are possessing more drugs. It is pretty hard to argue your innocence when you were found with the drugs in your pocket.
 
9:00 PM
@fredsbend In other words, you're ignoring the actual point I'm making (the US police forces stop and search black people more often; black people are arrested more often than whites for the same crimes; black people are more likely than whites to receive a custodial sentence for the same crimes). I used drugs as a clear-cut example of this trend. But because you think drug laws should be changed, suddenly the grossly racist enforcement of those laws is irrelevant?
Does it not occur to you that if enforcement of drug laws is grossly racist, perhaps enforcement of other laws is also grossly racist?
Why are you ignoring the actual point I'm making?
 
@TRiG The blogger says: "One of the attackers stabbed McDonald in the cheek, leaving her with stitches." While wikipedia says: "smash[ed] a glass of alcohol against her face, cutting her." You really trust these bloggers when they cannot even get a small detail right?
 
@fredsbend You really trust Wikipedia?
> Schmitz was stabbed in the chest with a pair of scissors.
Seems to me the account agrees with eastsidekate @ Shakesville.
 
@fredsbend I doubt that convincing violent offenders to not re-offend depends on race, so I'll put that aside. For reducing first-time violent offenses in any disenfranchised minority, you will have to engage in affirmative action, both in employment and in education. People who can get jobs that pay living wages are less likely to engage in crime. People who are admitted to college and have a future to look forward to will not throw everything away.
Police also needs to refrain from profiling, whether justified statistically or not, because mistrust and anger at the police fosters an atmosphere of criminality.
You should also raise minimum wage and pass living wage laws, despite what the bullshit variety of Econ 101 claims. There is no free market negotiation between an employer and a minimum-wage employee who has to pay rent tomorrow.
 
@fredsbend "maybe blacks just are possessing more drugs"...Now you're the one ignoring the statistics. White college students are more likely to use drugs than black students, and the same is true for high school students.
 
@justbelieve In the UK, "positive discrimination" in hiring is not permitted, but you are allowed to advertise selectively in certain media, thereby skewing your intake.
 
9:16 PM
@TRiG The part about schmitz agrees. The part about McDonald does not. There is a difference between "stabbed" and "hit with a glass". I don't particularly trust wikipedia on some things, but I certainly trust it more than that blogger.
 
@TRiG Interesting, but I suspect employers would use selective advertising to achieve "negative discrimination" instead of affirmative action -- why would that be in their immediate interest?
 
@justbelieve Well, I know police forces have gone out of their way to hire people from racial minorities, because police work is far more effective if the the makeup of the police force reflects the makeup of the community.
 
@fredsbend Human Rights Watch has published a study of arrest rates broken down by race, titled Decades of Disparity. The reality is, if your skin is darker, you're much more likely to be arrested for the same behavior than someone with lighter skin.
 
@TRiG Because race becomes a non issue with both the cop and the offender are the same race. Makes some sense. I guess that is saying that either the racial problems with cops go away when this happens or the racial arguments go away. Or a bit of both.
 
@fredsbend The cop? No. The cops? Perhaps. If police don't act like the enemy (as they all too often do), things get a bit easier.
 
9:29 PM
@TRiG McDonald plea bargained. That really changes things. Flaherty went to trial. McDonald obviously lied too. First said she stabbed then said she didn't; it was one of her friends but doesn't remember who. You loose a lot of mercy when you lie.
@TRiG Because I wanted to talk about violent crime. Not petty drug possession.
@BruceAlderman This is interesting, but a little to in depth for me to delve into right now. Using would have to depend on the population confessing to it. I always wondered how they overcome that in polls: are the subjects telling the truth?
 
@fredsbend In other words, when I pointed out a clear-cut case of racism, you immediately discounted it with some vague attempt at a jedi handwave.
 
@TRiG You changed the subject and ignored the previous one. You are hung up on pointing out racism when the subject was "How to convince a black man to not delve into crime."
 
@fredsbend Whut?
Somehow racism is completely irrelevant to your assertion that convincing black men not to be criminals requires some special discussion.
Okay. I officially give up. You're a racist dipshit. Have fun with that.
 
@TRiG You were here. Weren't you reading the messages as they came in? This one started that subject.
@TRiG Come on. Must every discussion we have end in you calling me a name? Will you ever try to see my perspective, then judge or talk about it?
@TRiG Racism might be related, but the point is that arresting and sentencing black violent crime offenders does not seem to be encouraging the black sub-culture to vocally oppose the offenders. Rather, what is happening is faction like loyalty that dictates that the offender must be innocent because he is black, or less stupid, he must be innocent because he was arrested by non-blacks.
@justbelieve Thanks for finally answering. These are interesting thoughts. How might you answer that min wage jobs affect less than 10% of the population anyway? That is a very small percentage to affect in hopes of affecting the whole. I do agree that inability to provide is a motivator to turn to crime, but not the only one.
 
@fredsbend It's easy to make sweeping abstract statements. Can you give some concrete examples of this "faction like loyalty" in the "black sub-culture"?
 
9:48 PM
@BruceAlderman Any case that the media gets a hold of. The poll people and 80% of whites say this and 80% of blacks say the opposite. They interview a white guy and he usually says plainly it looks like he did that crime. They interview a black guy and he often says this is another racially motivated arrest. I have talked to plenty of people that insist that when things don't go their way being black had something to do with it. I already said this to shog9
2 hours ago, by fredsbend
@Shog9 It is broad and narrow at the same time. The line is very wide and several shades of gray.
I don't mean to generalize, but i cannot be too specific either. It is hard to draw this line.
 
@fredsbend attacking the stats is a requirement for most of these discussions, since the statistics are so often used to imply something they don't actually support.
(I just got back; man, y'all talk a lot)
 
@Shog9 Sometimes when we should be working too ...
 
@fredsbend If it's that rampant, you shouldn't have trouble finding a concrete example.
 
@Shog9 Attack and dismiss compared to examine and discuss. You decide what has happened here.
@BruceAlderman Take your pick of the most recent, racially charged event that the media is covering. I try to avoid mainstream media these days because it is loaded with BS. My BS filter gets clogged up too quickly.
 
@fredsbend So, yeah: statistics. Before you get into comparing "white" and "black" stats, you have to remember that "black" makes up something like 13% of the population in the US. Right away, you're not comparing apples to apples - you're singling out a sliver of a very large total and implicitly assuming it is a representative sample of that total.
Before you can do that, you need to first control for things like income, education, location, health, age...
You can do this, at least to an extent. But don't expect to find that sort of effort put into most blogs, editorial columns, or even proper newspaper articles.
 
9:54 PM
@Shog9 Wait. ... why? ... Aren't these things part of the stereotypes?
 
@fredsbend The relevant statistic you're looking for is percentage of young minority laborers that earn minimum wage, and I bet you don't have that. Also keep in mind the spillover effect. Surely this is not the place to discuss such intricacies.
 
<re-exiting the discrimination discussion>
 
@fredsbend I avoid mainstream media, too, so I don't know what "recent, racially charged event[s] that the media is covering". I just want you to give me a real, concrete example of a "black sub-culture" defending criminal activity among its members.
 
And the truth is, when you do set out to do that, you gotta ask yourself first: what is my goal here? Am I looking for cultural influence? Then I have to actually define that culture - skin color isn't enough. Am I actually looking for a genetic influence? Then I have to try finding genealogical records.
 
@BruceAlderman The newest thing with I think someone called Zimmerman and a young black kid (between 12 and 18 (that's how much I avoid these things)). Zimmerman shot the kid dead. That's about all I know about it. I'm sure you can find plenty of people saying that there is no way the kid did anything at all (and he may not have, I don't know) and they refuse to even entertain that idea.
 
9:59 PM
@svidgen Maybe; depends on whose stereotype you're talking about. But that's kinda my point: if your stereotype boils down to "poor, poorly-educated, malnourished young urban blacks have such and such a problem"... Well, you can factor out the "black" part and there's a reasonable chance you'll end up with similar results.
 
@Shog9 I'm no sociologist, but I can say that the way I am using "black sub-culture" means to say that its members are almost exclusively black. I think you would be willingly ignorant to say that such sub-culture does not exist in america. Generally, blacks prefer the company of other blacks. More generally, I think the various races prefer the company of their own race. But within any sub-culture are many traits that are not necessarily exclusive.
 
@fredsbend That's your example? A white man shoots a black kid, and you blame the "black sub-culture"?
 
@fredsbend I thought you avoided discussing cases over-publicized by media. Now I realize that you avoid reality, especially as reported by mainstream media. That's fine, but then stop discussing racism since you know nothing about it
 
@BruceAlderman Why do you guys keep putting words in my mouth? I am not even talking about the case itself. I am talking about people's reaction to it. Whether the shooters actions were justified or not is irrelevant to what we were talking about.
 
@fredsbend Whose reaction to it?
 
10:04 PM
@justbelieve Your kind of mean and often resort to clever ways of calling me names and stupid and otherwise ignorant. I do not appreciate it. Please stop or do not speak to me.
 
@fredsbend there are craploads of subcultures in the US. Heck, we're in a chatroom for a site dedicated to documenting the beliefs and practices of quite a few of them. I don't deny black people the right to have subcultures of their own - but there are certainly more than one such culture and certainly cultures that span racial boundaries.
 
@Shog9 Yes. That is what I have been trying to say. Defining sub-cultures is messy and far from concrete. And there are mountains of them. And you don't have to belong to only one.
 
@fredsbend That's because you are ignorant, and, whether or not you're stupid, you're certainly saying some stupid things.
I no longer know what this conversation is about.
Hey, should and be merged?
 
@TRiG So you decide to chime in with the above?
 
@TRiG He doesn't even know what the Zimmerman case is about. WTF?
 
10:07 PM
@fredsbend You don't even necessarily belong to one. I've certainly met folks who claim to be upholders of "white culture" who I have absolutely nothing in common with.
 
@justbelieve I don't know how he hopes to participate in a discussion of issues of which he is admittedly, intentionally, and proudly, profoundly ignorant.
 
@TRiG Yeah, that's what I said. He's a clown -- no wait, we're clowns for engaging him in such a discussion.
 
@fredsbend Nah. I popped in here to talk about tag merging. There's some formal way to suggest tag merges, but I've never been able to find it.
 
@TRiG generally, plural tags should be yes.
 
@Shog9 Right. Further, your vocal rejection of one does not necessarily void your actions which do make you a member. Complicated.
 
10:10 PM
@TRiG you're not quite there yet. Of course, you can always post on meta.
 
@fredsbend So I guess it comes back to, Do you have any evidence of a "black sub-culture" that approves of criminal behavior? If so, please give an example.
 
@BruceAlderman Nah, he prefers picking nits in other people's examples to providing his own.
 
@BruceAlderman Rap music is a classic example. It is dominated by black people and the lyrics and their actions greatly support criminal behavior.
Classic and very over stated. I bet you are tired of hearing that.
 
@fredsbend that's... kind of a subgenre of rap music, albeit one that has been exceedingly popular at various times - though its popularity has hardly been limited by race.
 
@TRiG You and @justbelieve are being particularly rude right now. You are insulting me to other people right in front of me. Please stop. I have been nice enough to ask nicely. I really don't want to flag anything and bother the mods.
@Shog9 This is true. Other races have purchased the records plenty.
 
10:14 PM
@fredsbend You're kidding right? How about all the racist crap you've been spewing for a day now?
 
@fredsbend And recorded them.
 
@fredsbend Personally, I think it's important to push back visibly and noisily against offensive statements.
I do try to address the argument instead of the character most of the time, but (a) I'm tired, (b) I'm annoyed with you personally, and (c) I know you can take it.
 
@justbelieve I haven't called you any names, nor called you stupid or what ever. I suppose you were welcome the whole time to flag my messages as "hateful", though I would not call my attitude toward anybody hateful.
 
I suppose it's too much to hope that y'all could keep the noise and offensive statements to a minimum here...
 
@TRiG a) You should sleep b) fine, I seem to have that effect on you c) I'm taking it fine from you but @justbelieve is starting to upset me.
 
10:17 PM
I'm asking for a specific example of "black sub-culture" (not "rap sub-culture") that excuses criminal behavior.
 
@BruceAlderman You would not quickly dismiss that rap is largely made by and listened to by black people?
 
@Shog9 If a black person or a member of any other racial minority wandered into this room (and there don't seem to be any right now, so far as I can tell: woo to a bunch of white guys talking about racism, eh?) I wouldn't want them to see @fredsbend's posts in isolation. They might then think the community as a whole agreed.
 
Classic, but old, case: OJ simpson. Your average black guy says he is innocent, where your average white guy says he is guilty.
 
@fredsbend It's a somewhat tenuous connection, mind you.
 
@fredsbend I know several black people who don't listen to rap, and several white, Hispanic, and Asian people who do.
 
10:19 PM
@fredsbend Polling data on that?
 
@fredsbend That's interesting, because @TRiG actually called you a racist dipshit. Pray point me to the message where I called you names or "stupid or what ever".
 
@fredsbend At the time of the OJ trial I was working nights in a warehouse with a black co-worker. We both agreed that OJ was probably guilty, but that the evidence presented in court left enough room for reasonable doubt that he should be acquitted.
 
@fredsbend this has a really tenuous connection unless you think the OJ case is in any way typical.
 
@justbelieve You're more clever about it and TRiG and I have a history where we talk then he tells me to F- off. I let it not bother me because it doesn't seem to affect future discussions. We both seem to forgive and forget quickly.
On the other hand, you seem determined to subtlety call me dumb.
 
10:25 PM
> Those women [the African American jurors] are the mothers, the wives, the sisters, and the girlfriends of African American men, all of whom over the years had been mistreated by the police. And therefore, they were open to the potential argument that the police might in fact plant evidence or lie against someone accused of a serious crime. …
This I know has happened.
(The cases I'm thinking of are UK police framing terrorism suspects.)
 
language.
 
@Shog9 No, not typical in that he is a celebrity, but typical in that he is the ex-husband of a murdered woman and her boyfriend. That alone makes him suspect, just like everyone else in that situation. The problem got weird when he could seem give the same story twice and tried to run away.
 
@fredsbend yeah, that scenario is as old as dirt. as is the one where the rich guy with the fancy lawyer gets away with it for one reason or another.
 
> I don't think we should make the mistake of believing that black people who celebrated a) thought O.J. was innocent, or b) were even concerned most about O.J. as opposed to their Uncle Charlie or Bubba or their sister Shanaynay or their Aunt Jackie, who had been screwed by a system that never paid attention to them.
 
@Shog9 Yeah, the rich. They seem to be the only ones who profit from the justice system.
 
10:29 PM
@fredsbend what good is power if you don't use it?
 
@TRiG Yes, the article attempts to give his reasons for the behavior. It was the behavior that was challenged as real.
 
"sell all your possessions and give the money to the poor" - that wouldn't be so hard if it didn't mean giving up something really nice here and now, would it?
 
> by and large, African American people in Los Angeles don't trust the police
Hmm. Wonder why that would be.
 
@TRiG Again "It was the behavior that was challenged as real."
I don't trust them too much either.
 
@fredsbend I'm not actually seeing "glorifying crime" here. No one's saying murder was good. They're saying they don't trust the system. Very different game.
Now, I could see "glorifying crime" (not murder, mind you) in some cultures. Even in Irish culture. (Remember, for so long here, the authorities were British, and rather screwed over the locals for a few centuries, so there is an element in the Irish psyche which dislikes authority.)
But that tends to come out in petty vandalism and in being proud of cheating on tax returns. (That's two examples from different strata of society.) That sort of thing.
I mean, still, here, doctors and lawyers tend to be protestant, as do big farmers.
So there is still a sense that the "establishment" is a different set of people.
 
10:34 PM
@TRiG Yes, good point. Cosby talked about what I tried to hint on. And the words I said previously were "sometimes even glorify". Not speaking out is the same as approval. I think you would agree with that.
 
(This is less and less the case.)
 
So you see that Cosby can say that because he is black. I don't get to unless I want to be labeled racist.
 
@fredsbend you can say things to your kids that other folks would probably get punched for (by you) (don't know if you have kids, but you get the comparison)
 
@fredsbend So you admit I haven't actually called you anything. You, on the other hand, called me "poorly logically equipped" (soon after employing a slippery-slope fallacy to prove that I am a Nazi). What can I say, keep it up.
 
@justbelieve it's your gravatar. It's all square and nazish.
 
10:39 PM
@TRiG Also, murder was only one or three examples of crime I gave. I also said domestic violence and drugs. Glorifying crime and opposing authority without reason is what I was referring to.
 
@Shog9 Yeah, by the way, how did I get that one :) ? Random icons?
 
@Shog9 Yeah, I know the feeling. I can say all kinds of crap about my mother, but when my wife starts saying the same things I get a little up set. My child is too young for that to happen yet.
 
@justbelieve randomly-generated, yeah.
Doesn't stop folks from occasionally thinking we have a built-in swastika generator.
 
@justbelieve Based, probably, on your e-mail address.
 
@fredsbend There's another part to that though too: you'll say things to your kid someday that... also apply to half of his classmates. And he'll call you out on this, and you'll say something to the effect of, "that's between them and their parents - but you're mine and I am concerned first and foremost with your upbringing"
 
10:43 PM
(You can override it in twon different places.)
@Shog9 There's a corollary to that too, when the kid asks for something on the basis that everyone else has it / can do it.
> When a child says "everyone", it's usually based on a survey of one.
 
@justbelieve I'm sorry you are hung up on the nazi thing. I didn't actually call you a nazi nor did I employ any argument to leave one to conclude that. I said that some of the things you were saying were eerily similar to what the nazi's said and did. I'm also not the only one who saw that. "poorly logically equipped" is the same as saying your argument is rubbish. We can move forward positively and forget the bent feelings or we can keep pounding this into the ground. Your choice.
@Shog9 Oh yes. I even say that now. I decided long ago that it was too much work and left you friendless to police everyone around you.
Now, I'm only concerned with my household.
 
@fredsbend so yeah. Cosby's giving a speech to an organization dedicated to the advancement of his own race. Which, let's remember, badly needed some advancement at one point, hence the creation of said organization. And he's saying, "look - there are some problems I've observed that... are hurting us."
Now some other folks like to take this and say, "hey look, Cosby says black people are terrible!"
But that's like... Your kid's friends telling each other that your kid is exceptionally bad because you chided him and their parents said nothing
it ain't hard to point out problems in other people, especially people who aren't in your peer group. Pulling that beam out of your own eye though... that one hurts.
 
@Shog9 Yeah. Cosby says it that make is genuine. I say it that makes it racist. This is the double standard that is plaguing the relationship between whites and blacks. It is creating racism rather than eliminating it. In the least, it is leaving people like me, willing to plainly talk, accused and chastised as racist for making basically the same observations as a revered black man (cosby).
 
@fredsbend Crosby, presumably, knows what he's talking about. You (admittedly, and proudly) don't.
I suggest you consider the first rule of holes.
 
10:58 PM
@fredsbend :shrug: Mel Brooks gets to talk about Jews. Garrison Keillor gets to talk about rural Minnesotans.
 
@TRiG I said I avoid mainstream media. That surely is not what makes you conclude I don't know what I am talking about. Further, you neglect that I have a life beyond this discussion. You have minimized my own experiences and deemed them worthless and incapable of contributing to the matter. That has to be some kind of logical fallacy.
 
@fredsbend let's not forget, you're also in a chat room on The Internet, not an invited guest at a NAACP event. There are just a few contextual differences here.
 
@Shog9 That does make it easier to dismiss me as a crazy racist. After all, talking about race and racism is uncomfortable.
 
@fredsbend Oh, go watch some Jay Smooth videos.
 
11:04 PM
@fredsbend pfft, dismissing you as a crazy racist is never hard ;-)
But that's not really my point
 
@Shog9 So what am I left with. I get to talk about white conservative Christian males. But there's really nothing funny about that.
 
Dismissing someone as a "racist" is... A lazy way to win an argument.
 
@fredsbend As a white, conservative Christian male, I take offense to that. I'm at least funny-looking
 
In particular...
 
11:05 PM
@Shog9 So now I don't even get to talk about that.
 
@fredsbend you can talk about how funny I look, sure
As long as you limit your conversation to comments about my appearance, we're good.
wait...
 
@El'endiaStarman OMG! Exactly what I have been trying to say! If we stop making a big deal out of it and stop trying to find racism in every racial interaction there will be a lot less racism going around. "Black history is American history". Yeah!
 
And now, on the other side of things...
> Nearly 60 years after American schools were desegregated by the landmark Brown v. Board of Education ruling, and more than a year after the election of the country's first black president, white children have an overwhelming white bias, and black children also have a bias toward white, according to a new study commissioned by CNN.
Aaand another meme-ish image:
My parents raised me to be color-blind the best they could, and I've continued in that attitude the best I could. I still have some racist tendencies.
 
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11:20 PM
The way I see it is that there's a double-whammy. Blacks are indeed statistically more likely to be poor. Part of that is because a higher percentage of them are born poor and with the class system the way it is in America right now, it's very hard to get out of poverty. Poor people are also more likely to commit crimes for a variety of reasons. So, you've got history and the trends from that working against blacks.
 
@El'endiaStarman And you won't fix those tendencies by pretending they don't exist. (That's a lesson which it took me a looong while to learn.)
 
And there is indeed a portion of blacks (and whites) who promote committing one crime or another, or acting a certain way. It's a sub-culture among the black (and white) population. I remember being at a presentation at my middle school during Black History Month given by some relatively-famous person who, after she finished her presentation, ranted at the black students there (in that particular area, blacks dominated the population) for passing up on the opportunities they had.
@TRiG Agreed. Generally what I do is I form a first opinion, acknowledge why I have it (especially if it's negative), and then watch for any effects it may have on my actions. I'll also update my opinion given further input/observation.
 

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