I would also add that there will always be things that you want to buy that she thinks are not worth spending your shared income on, and vice versa. My husband and I have the same issues. One thing we did that helped was to sit down and decide on a budget, including a "personal spending" allowance, equal for both of you, to spend as you choose without hearing
any complaints from the other person. The issue to address isn't about what you are spending your money on, but how you decide how to spend it. —
Francine DeGrood Taylor 1 min ago