You've got some valuable information in here but ..

@Pacified Let me guess, I'm good at this, trust me, she does this "ALL THE TIME!!!!1!1!!"

You've got some valuable information in here but ..lets put it into a more serious perspective. Say we don't like each other personally texting the opposite sex. She'd be angry that there was a woman in my phone. I wouldnt like the same , so we make the compromise not to do said thing as a unit. The problem is , she will end up doing it anyway , but avoid fault by basically playing a middle ground. 'ok , but you're just being territorial etc' ,. and basically act like it was 'OK' because of what she believed/ her excuse to avoid accountability. Yet if I did the same I'd get blasted

@Pacified Ah... That sounds like a much more specific question. Probably better to ask that as a separate follow up.

@Pacified was that what this question was really about?

No, its happened before though of course , but it was just a good example of it transferring to everything. And it only gets worse.

@Pacified being opposed to opposite sex friends probably isn't going to be healthy or maintainable in the long run, but learning to communicate about these things will help across the board.

oh i said

I get what you mean, it's a double standard.

It really sounds like that would make for a good follow up question though.

How should i word it

It's related, but definitely worth addressing independently.

Wording is up to you. Just try to be specific about the situation and desired goals.

Things like age, location, cultural background make a difference in how these questions get answered.

You want to be specific about your goals so that you don't get boneheaded answers like "Well, just dump her..."

@Pacified I appreciate the accept, but it's usually better to give it a day or two, just in case a better answer rolls in. ;)

oh youre right , i figured that was going to be the only answer thanks man