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8:14 PM

I’m voting to close this question because this doesn't seem to be a problem with Interpersonal Skills (Behaviors you or others use while interacting, to interact well with others and achieve certain goals). I don't think there are any sites on this network that can take this question as-is, but you might want to check out Psychology & Neuroscience, but do make sure you can show some research effort before posting there! — Tinkeringbell ♦ 1 min ago

#27013 Tinkeringbell (32605 rep) | Q: Why do people get together when they don't like each other? (score: 0) | posted 31 minutes ago by L B (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.11267943 | tps/fps: 0/0

IPS Comment Bot

9:02 PM

To clarify, is getting your wife to understand that you saw this as a betrayal your only goal? Would this conversation fulfill your goals?: "I thought I had told you that in confidence, and I felt betrayed by you breaking my trust" "Oh I see. I understand. There's no way I could have or will think like that, though, so my behaviour won't and can't change moving forward" "That's okay, I just wanted us to be on the same page, I don't care if you do it again" "Okay cool." — Sarov 1 min ago

#27014 Sarov (205 rep) | Q: How to see better explain to my wife I feel she commited a small betrayal of our trust, when she feels it is irrelevant? (score: 0) | posted 28 minutes ago by Reginald Vas Deferens (1 rep) | edited 8 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (32605 rep) | Toxicity 0.1664

IPS Comment Bot

9:15 PM

So, could you pick a possible goal, or prioritize some things? For example, Are you after an apology from your wife, or would it be enough if she promised not to do things again? Would you be satisfied if you better understood why she thinks of this as minor, are you after clearer boundaries on what is/isn't private? Are there any other things you wish for, that I couldn't think of? — Tinkeringbell ♦ just now

#27014 Tinkeringbell (32605 rep) | Q: How to see better explain to my wife I feel she commited a small betrayal of our trust, when she feels it is irrelevant? (score: 0) | posted 40 minutes ago by Reginald Vas Deferens (1 rep) | edited 21 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (32605 rep)

Hey Reginald! Welcome to IPS. I've given your question an edit to remove some of the off-topic parts and a bit of 'noise'. I do think your question could benefit from clarifying one more thing though: Your priorities for the outcome. What's your actual goal you'd like to achieve? Your old title mentioned 'seeing eye-to-eye', but together with your requests for reasons that you could've been wrong (which were edited out for being off-topic), that can also mean you change your position on this. 1/2 — Tinkeringbell ♦ 29 secs ago

#27014 Tinkeringbell (32605 rep) | Q: How to see better explain to my wife I feel she commited a small betrayal of our trust, when she feels it is irrelevant? (score: 0) | posted 40 minutes ago by Reginald Vas Deferens (1 rep) | edited 21 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (32605 rep)

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