@MaxW Not sure why my earlier reply was deleted, but let me spell it out: this is not a "cat fight". She did something to severely damage my trust and our relationship and refuses to do anything about it. If you have an answer, write it, but your comment is neither a question or suggestion for improvement. — Em C 1 min ago

@gnasher729 the impotence of her actions is irrelevant. However, they might say, "we'll write you up if you don't turn off your computer" in response to the escalation, and just ignore the lights on at home part. I was merely pointing out that your statement (nothing she can do) is objectively false. Whether it works out for her or not is not relevant to my point. I do realize that my point is pedantic though — AytAyt 6 mins ago

@gnasher729 the impotence of her actions is irrelevant. However, they might say, "we'll write you up if you don't turn off your computer" in response to the escalation, and just ignore the lights on at home part. I was merely pointing out that your statement (nothing she can do) is objectively false. Whether it works out for her or not is not relevant to my point. I do realize that my point is pedantic though — AytAyt 7 mins ago

@gnasher729 the impotence of her actions is irrelevant. However, they might say, "we'll write you up if you don't turn off your computer" in response to the escalation, and just ignore the lights on at home part. I was merely pointing out that your statement (nothing she can do) is objectively false. Whether it works out for her or not is not relevant to my point. I do realize that my point is pedantic though — AytAyt 15 mins ago

@gnasher729 the impotence of her actions is irrelevant. However, they might say, "we'll write you up if you don't turn off your computer" in response to the escalation, and just ignore the lights on at home part. I was merely pointing out that your statement (nothing she can do) is objectively false. Whether it works out for her or not is not relevant to my point. I do realize that my point is pedantic though — AytAyt 26 mins ago

@gnasher729 the impotence of her actions is irrelevant. However, they might say, "we'll write you up if you don't turn off your computer" in response to the escalation, and just ignore the lights on at home part. I was merely pointing out that your statement (nothing she can do) is objectively false. Whether it works out for her or not is not relevant to my point. I do realize that my point is pedantic though — AytAyt 27 mins ago

@gnasher729 the impotence of her actions is irrelevant. However, they might say, "we'll write you up if you don't turn off your computer" in response to the escalation, and just ignore the lights on at home part. I was merely pointing out that your statement (nothing she can do) is objectively false. Whether it works out for her or not is not relevant to my point. I do realize that my point is pedantic though — AytAyt 27 mins ago

@gnasher729 the impotence of her actions is irrelevant. However, they might say, "we'll write you up if you don't turn off your computer" in response to the escalation, and just ignore the lights on at home part. I was merely pointing out that your statement (nothing she can do) is objectively false. Whether it works out for her or not is not relevant to my point. I do realize that my point is pedantic though — AytAyt 28 mins ago

The problem I see here is that the person who "loves foreign cultures" (Eve) is trying to engage in a foreign culture conversation with a person (Alice) who could care less about the topic. Even those of us who are "originally from somewhere else" may find it quite boring to talk about the place we left, especially if it's been a while and we have not kept up with the latest music, celebrities, politics, etc, from the place we came from, and we'd rather be talking about the latest American TV show or US politics or technology or whatever other "local" topics. — Alex R 7 secs ago

The problem I see here is that the person who "loves foreign cultures" (Eve) might be trying to engage in foreign culture conversations with people who might not be interested in the topic, regardless of where they are really from. It is annoying, bordering on rude. — Alex R 41 secs ago

Assuming this leads to trusting the neighbor well enough to supervise the kids, it seems easy enough to also avoid having to go in to pick them up: just get her number and text her, or knock on the door and ask her to go get them. — Jefromi 1 min ago

I am now pleased to report that a few days before the scheduled date of marriage, my cousin decided that she needed more time and postponed the wedding by 6 months. Tentative date is now around April 15. So we have time to work out a solution. Thanks for the interest @Adam Davis! — English Student 14 secs ago

Can you please explain exactly why you think that this is a good idea? Why do you say to take this course of action? What’s the thought process behind this answer? As this currently stands, this is essentially a “Try this!” answer, which are not considered to conform to our quality standards on Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange. — Arwen Undómiel 11 secs ago

Hey - where are you located? What culture is this taking place in? — Arwen Undómiel 49 secs ago

It's so simple: Just put the bottle in your desk drawer and leave it there permanently. Problem solved. — Bohemian 1 min ago

It's so simple: Just put the bottle in your desk drawer and leave it there permanently. Problem solved. — Bohemian 24 mins ago

I am pleased to report that a few days before the scheduled date of marriage, my cousin decided that she needed more time and postponed the wedding by 6 months. Tentative date is now around April 15 (not decided yet) but interestingly Little Bun refused to commit to an actual engagement this time. I believe Joe is on probation. So we have time to work out a solution. Thanks for the interest @Adam Davis! — English Student 2 hours ago

It's so simple: Just put the bottle in your desk drawer and leave it there permanently. Problem solved. — Bohemian 34 mins ago

Hey - where are you located? What culture is this taking place in? — Arwen Undómiel 1 hour ago

Can you please explain exactly why you think that this is a good idea? Why do you say to take this course of action? What’s the thought process behind this answer? As this currently stands, this is essentially a “Try this!” answer, which are not considered to conform to our quality standards on Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange. — Arwen Undómiel 2 hours ago

I am pleased to report that a few days before the scheduled date of marriage, my cousin decided that she needed more time and postponed the wedding by 6 months. Tentative date is now around April 15 (not decided yet) but interestingly Little Bun refused to commit to an actual engagement this time. I believe Joe is on probation. So we have time to work out a solution. Thanks for the interest @Adam Davis! — English Student 2 hours ago

I am pleased to report that a few days before the scheduled date of marriage, my cousin decided that she needed more time and postponed the wedding by 6 months. Tentative date is now around April 15 (not decided yet) but interestingly Little Bun refused to commit to an actual engagement this time. I believe Joe is on probation. So we have time to work out a solution. Thanks for the interest @Adam Davis! — English Student 2 hours ago

It's so simple: Just put the bottle in your desk drawer and leave it there permanently. Problem solved. — Bohemian 36 mins ago

Hey - where are you located? What culture is this taking place in? — Arwen Undómiel 1 hour ago

Can you please explain exactly why you think that this is a good idea? Why do you say to take this course of action? What’s the thought process behind this answer? As this currently stands, this is essentially a “Try this!” answer, which are not considered to conform to our quality standards on Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange. — Arwen Undómiel 2 hours ago

I am pleased to report that a few days before the scheduled date of marriage, my cousin decided that she needed more time and postponed the wedding by 6 months. Tentative date is now around April 15 (not decided yet) but interestingly Little Bun refused to commit to an actual engagement this time. I believe Joe is on probation. So we have time to work out a solution. Thanks for the interest @Adam Davis! — English Student 2 hours ago

I am pleased to report that a few days before the scheduled date of marriage, my cousin decided that she needed more time and postponed the wedding by 6 months. Tentative date is now around April 15 (not decided yet) but interestingly Little Bun refused to commit to an actual engagement this time. I believe Joe is on probation. So we have time to work out a solution. Thanks for the interest @Adam Davis! — English Student 3 hours ago

It's so simple: Just put the bottle in your desk drawer and leave it there permanently. Problem solved. — Bohemian 42 mins ago

Hey - where are you located? What culture is this taking place in? — Arwen Undómiel 1 hour ago

Can you please explain exactly why you think that this is a good idea? Why do you say to take this course of action? What’s the thought process behind this answer? As this currently stands, this is essentially a “Try this!” answer, which are not considered to conform to our quality standards on Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange. — Arwen Undómiel 2 hours ago

It's so simple: Just put the bottle in your desk drawer and leave it there permanently. Problem solved. — Bohemian 1 hour ago

It's so simple: Just put the bottle in your desk drawer and leave it there permanently. Problem solved. — Bohemian 1 hour ago

Hey - where are you located? What culture is this taking place in? — Arwen Undómiel 2 hours ago

Can you please explain exactly why you think that this is a good idea? Why do you say to take this course of action? What’s the thought process behind this answer? As this currently stands, this is essentially a “Try this!” answer, which are not considered to conform to our quality standards on Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange. — Arwen Undómiel 2 hours ago

I am pleased to report that a few days before the scheduled date of marriage, my cousin decided that she needed more time and postponed the wedding by 6 months. Tentative date is now around April 15 (not decided yet) but interestingly Little Bun refused to commit to an actual engagement this time. I believe Joe is on probation. So we have time to work out a solution. Thanks for the interest @Adam Davis! — English Student 3 hours ago

Assuming this leads to trusting the neighbor well enough to supervise the kids, it seems easy enough to also avoid having to go in to pick them up: just get her number and text her, or knock on the door and ask her to go get them. — Jefromi 5 hours ago

It's so simple: Just put the bottle in your desk drawer and leave it there permanently. Problem solved. — Bohemian 1 hour ago

If I were you I'd collect all the post-it notes she leaves and A. ask her how much energy is required to manufacture all these post-it notes and B. how "environmentally unfriendly" it is to manufacture all these post-it notes (trees, litter etc) — DeepSpace 1 min ago

@Bilkokuya Yes I am against doing social activities altogether. — anonymous 18 secs ago

@SomeoneElse, Also, don't answer any questions about your girlfriend, or girls you might be dating, or even if you're single. Just say "I don't talk about other girls" or "That's none of your business. You and I, we're no longer dating. Please stop asking these types of questions and please stop texting me. Let's just be cordial to each other when we run into each other, but that's it. I'm sure you have many other friends you could be texting than me." Plus usually, cell phone companies will change your phone number for free if you explain you have a stalker who won't stop contacting you. — Stephan Branczyk 20 secs ago

@Catija Maybe we should discuss this in meta. There is a worrisome pattern I saw on most SE sites. There are a lot of people like me who come here with legitimate questions, and then the moderators simply close them because they don't fit "the rules". I'm fine if the moderator takes a little time to explain how to word the question so that it's useful to others, but I'm not fine with you pepper spraying both the asker and the answerer. I'm not saying you should not close questions, I'm saying you should help the asker while doing it, or leave moderation for someone better at it. — Magicsowon 8 secs ago

@Onyz And a man being alone with another man is not risky because the idea of a homosexual affair wouldn't cross anybody's mind? Isn't that kind of naive in the 21st century? If people are going to make up stuff about the OP, who's to say they won't also make stuff up about his sexual orientation? — AllTheKingsHorses 1 min ago