This is not a full answer. If you want to elaborate on that, please do but until then please understand that IPS SE doesn't accept answers like these because we're not reddit, quora or other discussion websites. — ElizB 24 secs ago
12:13 AM
#22184 ElizB (2416 rep) | A: Different budgets within roommate group (score: -1) | posted 1 hours ago by Valentine Miller (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.19542445 | tps/fps: 0/0
There's a lot in here that I'm curious about: Why do you think that internet should not be shared? Why should the OP become more aggressive about collecting? The last one I can agree with, but it still needs backed-up evidence on why it isn't a good idea. Additionally, the asker already mentioned that they may have forgotten to remind them because they are socially awkward. Do you have any tips on how to improve the interaction keeping in mind the social awkwardness? Thanks in advance :) — ElizB 51 secs ago
#22185 ElizB (2414 rep) | A: Asking my new roommate for overdue payments (score: -1) | posted 1 hours ago by Valentine Miller (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.138307 | tps/fps: 0/0
1 hour later…
1:25 AM
Making people pay $10 for every day late and finding another roommate seems harsh, the OP seems quite understanding in their question, and wants to help but is socially awkward. — ElizB 36 secs ago
#5088 ElizB (2412 rep) | A: Asking my new roommate for overdue payments (score: -2) | posted 626 days ago by gnasher729 (5751 rep) | Toxicity 0.07475708 | Comment on inactive post | tps/fps: 0/0
1:38 AM
@Gaultheria If you'd like to expand that into an answer, that's a good start. We generally don — ElizB 12 secs ago
#22170 ElizB (2412 rep) | Q: How can I greet people when I encounter someone searching for bottles in trash cans? (score: 4) | posted 14 hours ago by lawful_neutral (124 rep) | edited 13 hours ago by lawful_neutral (124 rep) | Toxicity 0.1342323 | tps/fps: 0/0
1:55 AM
@ElizB — My comment doesn't suggest a way to greet someone, or whether the greeting would be perceived as polite, so I suspect I'd receive a bunch of downvotes for posting it as an answer. I think it might help the OP fine-tune the question, though; the OP has expressed uncertainty about the appropriateness of offering a greeting, even though the question is focused more on the mechanics of how to offer a greeting. — Gaultheria 36 secs ago
#22170 Gaultheria (213 rep) | Q: How can I greet people when I encounter someone searching for bottles in trash cans? (score: 4) | posted 14 hours ago by lawful_neutral (124 rep) | edited 13 hours ago by lawful_neutral (124 rep) | Toxicity 0.042211596 | tps/fps: 0/0
2:11 AM
#22170 ElizB (2412 rep) | Q: How can I greet people when I encounter someone searching for bottles in trash cans? (score: 4) | posted 14 hours ago by lawful_neutral (124 rep) | edited 13 hours ago by lawful_neutral (124 rep) | Toxicity 0.018602522 | tps/fps: 0/0
3 hours later…
5:16 AM
That's a good idea, although I'm not sure how well it'll work out for us... I'll definitely bring it up! — tryin 47 secs ago
#22175 tryin (121 rep) | A: Different budgets within roommate group (score: 14) | posted 15 hours ago by Reubens4Dinner (410 rep) | Toxicity 0.069554165 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22176 tryin (126 rep) | A: Different budgets within roommate group (score: 4) | posted 15 hours ago by MlleMei (1754 rep) | Toxicity 0.14202699 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22178 tryin (126 rep) | A: Different budgets within roommate group (score: 2) | posted 14 hours ago by Imus (3851 rep) | Toxicity 0.068165705 | tps/fps: 0/0
5:53 AM
Hi there! Welcome to IPS. I think that this question may be too broad, as "what are some techniques I could use to use XYZ" could attract opinion-based answers. Would "how to express my opinions to my mentoree without ending up in a heated situation" would address your issues? If not, maybe you could try to find answers on the Workplace.SE, I believe they might be of greater help for answering your question as it is phrased right now. Let me know, and have a great time among us! — avazula 58 secs ago
#22189 avazula (9181 rep) | Q: Becoming a better mentor (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by fawers (6 rep) | Toxicity 0.09260504 | tps/fps: 0/0
6:08 AM
I don't think I've seen a FAQ post before that explained the whole history of a discussion... So I don't have any interesting examples to link. That said, maybe we shouldn't do this: FAQ posts are what we use to make users quickly aware of existing rules/functionality, not of a site policy's history as far as I know — Tinkeringbell ♦ 17 secs ago
#3727 Tinkeringbell (23793 rep) | Q: Add history to citation expectations meta post (score: 2) | posted 8 hours ago by ElizB (2424 rep) | Toxicity 0.18036443 | tps/fps: 0/0
6:46 AM
Every group of friends that I've heard of splitting the cost of stuff in the apartment that I have ever known eventually had a conflict about it. One person buys the sofa. Another person buys a table, etc. Some degree of agreement so you don't get three sofas, but when folks move out they take their stuff with them. Simple. — wrosecrans 1 min ago
#22172 wrosecrans (101 rep) | Q: Different budgets within roommate group (score: 5) | posted 18 hours ago by tryin (126 rep) | edited 18 hours ago by tryin (126 rep) | Toxicity 0.2305606 | tps/fps: 0/0
1 hour later…
7:49 AM
@avazula Hello! "I understand you moved out recently, otherwise your parents would already be there starting to trying to convince you again?" Actually, I moved out 4 years ago, but they still keep dropping by. — Amanda d'Halluin 26 secs ago
#22164 Amanda d'Halluin (346 rep) | Q: How can I tactfully avoid telling my loving brother my home address? (score: 1) | posted 28 hours ago by Amanda d'Halluin (346 rep) | edited 22 hours ago by Ælis (7714 rep) | Toxicity 0.2789069 | tps/fps: 0/0
@avazula "we try to help you with how to tell your parents you're uncomfortable with them constantly questioning your decision?" Can we focus on this question now? My boyfriend and I have explained way too many times to my parents for the past four years, and they still don't get it. I don't think they will get it if I try again! — Amanda d'Halluin 11 secs ago
#22164 Amanda d'Halluin (346 rep) | Q: How can I tactfully avoid telling my loving brother my home address? (score: 1) | posted 28 hours ago by Amanda d'Halluin (346 rep) | edited 22 hours ago by Ælis (7714 rep) | Toxicity 0.31265238 | tps/fps: 0/0
Thanks for the reply Amanda. I struggle to understand, your address didn't change over the past four years, and they already went to your place to challenge your decision, right? If I understood right, could you explain why it would be an issue to tell your brother your address (since your parents already know it as they come to your place and dismiss your decision)? — avazula 1 min ago
#22164 avazula (9181 rep) | Q: How can I tactfully refuse to tell my loving brother my home address? (score: 1) | posted 28 hours ago by Amanda d'Halluin (346 rep) | edited 5 minutes ago by Amanda d'Halluin (346 rep) | Toxicity 0.08482477 | tps/fps: 0/0
And I'm sorry that your parents do not seem to be willing to accept your decision. I didn't want biological children for a very long time too so I have an idea of what you're going through. Luckily most of my relatives didn't question much my decision (maybe what was important in the end for them was that I had children, whether adopted or not, which still is not their call to make, but at least they didn't violently refuse my choice). You have all my support. — avazula 1 min ago
#22164 avazula (9181 rep) | Q: How can I tactfully refuse to tell my loving brother my home address? (score: 1) | posted 28 hours ago by Amanda d'Halluin (346 rep) | edited 8 minutes ago by Amanda d'Halluin (346 rep) | Toxicity 0.18275364 | tps/fps: 0/0
Hi Siamak! Welcome to IPS. You say your personal experience has taught you to stop contacting a friend whose values are significantly different to yours. Could you explain a little bit further what was the situation you've encountered that led you to this conclusion? We expect answers to be backed up (in this case with personal experience), and it'd be great for OP to see a situation in which what you propose was tested and effective indeed. Feel free to reach us if you need further info, and have a great time among us! :) — avazula 16 secs ago
#22192 avazula (9181 rep) | A: How to deal with racist sexist friend (score: 0) | posted 25 minutes ago by Siamak Ensafi (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.0927691 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22192 Siamak Ensafi (1 rep) | A: How to deal with racist sexist friend (score: 0) | posted 30 minutes ago by Siamak Ensafi (1 rep) | edited 41 seconds ago by Siamak Ensafi (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.014166698 | tps/fps: 0/0
8:35 AM
@tryin If you do this, I'd highly recommend writing down which things were bought by who. My roommate group stayed together for several years, and at the end we had a very tough time remembering who was supposed to move out with what. — Chris Hayes 1 min ago
#22175 Chris Hayes (101 rep) | A: Different budgets within roommate group (score: 17) | posted 18 hours ago by Reubens4Dinner (440 rep) | Toxicity 0.10474744 | tps/fps: 0/0
its your choice. I have recently diagnosed ASD and if I could have avoided passing it on to anyone, I would have done that. A very brave decision on your part. — bigbadmouse 1 min ago
#22164 bigbadmouse (293 rep) | Q: How can I tactfully refuse to tell my loving brother my home address? (score: 1) | posted 29 hours ago by Amanda d'Halluin (346 rep) | edited 46 minutes ago by Amanda d'Halluin (346 rep) | Toxicity 0.014070213 | tps/fps: 0/0
They are just being spoiled brats, They should have got their act together and booked ahead like you did. Only exception I would make would be for someone elderly to sit with a carer, or a pregnant woman IF they have been split up through no fault of their own, which sometimes happens. — bigbadmouse 1 min ago
#13221 bigbadmouse (293 rep) | Q: How can I tactfully refuse to switch seats on flights? (score: 104) | posted 434 days ago by Greek - Area 51 Proposal (1 rep) | edited 432 days ago by 200_success (505 rep) | Toxicity 0.4329218 | Comment on inactive post | tps/fps: 0/0
9:05 AM
Having been in shared accommodation like this for more than 5 years, I can confirm this approach has worked really well. And it's worth emphasising how it avoids the drama of splitting things up when you move out. If there are things people don't want to share with each other, they can just make that clear and then keep it in their own room/cupboard. — Tim 1 min ago
#22175 Tim (101 rep) | A: Different budgets within roommate group (score: 19) | posted 19 hours ago by Reubens4Dinner (460 rep) | Toxicity 0.07915082 | tps/fps: 0/0
9:22 AM
@tryin Not like that. With a boyfriend that earned more than me I did some stuff periodically (like he buys the groceries but I cook), but it wasn't a recurring thing like it would be with your roommates. If you think you'll become resentful, best to not do that one. — MlleMei 2 mins ago
#22176 MlleMei (1774 rep) | A: Different budgets within roommate group (score: 5) | posted 19 hours ago by MlleMei (1774 rep) | Toxicity 0.1406295 | tps/fps: 0/0
#3723 Imus (3851 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 0) | posted 17 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | edited 17 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | Toxicity 0.2888618 | tps/fps: 0/0
10:03 AM
#22194 Erik (6646 rep) | Q: How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship? (score: 3) | posted 34 minutes ago by Ælis (7728 rep) | edited 59 seconds ago by Ælis (7728 rep) | Toxicity 0.20022972 | tps/fps: 0/0
10:30 AM
#22194 Ælis (7733 rep) | Q: How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship? (score: 4) | posted 1 hours ago by Ælis (7733 rep) | edited 28 minutes ago by Ælis (7733 rep) | Toxicity 0.21883476 | tps/fps: 0/0
Do you think you have every detail necessary to be able to fully comprehend the situation? In the case you/we are missing crucial information about the situation, this can heavily backfire — XtremeBaumer 1 min ago
#22194 XtremeBaumer (2677 rep) | Q: How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship? (score: 4) | posted 1 hours ago by Ælis (7733 rep) | edited 28 minutes ago by Ælis (7733 rep) | Toxicity 0.066511825 | tps/fps: 0/0
1 hour later…
11:55 AM
Hey Johns, we require answers on IPS to be back up by personal experience or external sources. Just saying that the source is "family and most friends" isn't enough. So, could you edit to tell us if you were in a similar situation before? What exactly you said and how the other person reacted to it? — Ælis 5 secs ago
#22197 Ælis (7732 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -1) | posted 3 minutes ago by Johns-305 (1523 rep) | Toxicity 0.118530974 | tps/fps: 0/0
#3730 Johns-305 (1525 rep) | A: Clarification on deleted comment (score: 3) | posted 43 minutes ago by A J (6909 rep) | Toxicity 0.17695144 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Johns - with the sheer number that pop up here, that's simply not possible to do. — Arwen Undómiel 29 secs ago
#3730 Arwen Undómiel (2548 rep) | A: Clarification on deleted comment (score: 3) | posted 46 minutes ago by A J (6909 rep) | Toxicity 0.31342053 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Ælis Well, I was hoping thing would get better here but alas, I'm as disappointed as expected. This is a subjective question with no practical opportunity so cite anything. Please ack this comment, then I will just delete the Answer myself which is too bad since it's the only Answer. So much for actually helping people. — Johns-305 40 secs ago
#22197 Johns-305 (1523 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -1) | posted 8 minutes ago by Johns-305 (1523 rep) | Toxicity 0.28126454 | tps/fps: 0/0
You could have cite your own experience, but since you don't seem to have any relevant one, it's indeed best if you simply delete this answer. — Ælis 37 secs ago
#22197 Ælis (7732 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -1) | posted 11 minutes ago by Johns-305 (1523 rep) | Toxicity 0.17865208 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Ælis Silly me, you have the rep to see Deleted answers. I'll save everyone the trouble. — Johns-305 42 secs ago
#22197 Johns-305 (1523 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -1) | posted 11 minutes ago by Johns-305 (1523 rep) | Toxicity 0.6079781 | tps/fps: 0/0
12:38 PM
@Reubens4Dinner: you made an idea pop into my mind, based on your answer. Turn around the discussion slightly differently: "When you buy Z for yourself, please also buy X for everyone else. The will be jjj persons." Either he takes the challenge and shops for everyone, or he gives up. For you it should be a win either way. — virolino 39 secs ago
#22181 virolino (672 rep) | Q: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: 0) | posted 19 hours ago by Reubens4Dinner (470 rep) | Toxicity 0.17741928 | tps/fps: 0/0
(cont.) I know I should not try justifying my act, but internally perhaps I'm trying to "forgive" myself at some level in order to focus on my present and future instead of spending all my days regretting; otherwise, the guilt almost cripples my daily activities and I keep thinking about that the whole day. I also had a very unhealthy lifestyle before (addicted to junk food and was fat), and am trying to change those habits too. — guest 31 secs ago
#22196 guest (11 rep) | A: How should I behave after I was caught cheating in a test to convey that I'm truly remorseful? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Flater (5932 rep) | Toxicity 0.32187173 | tps/fps: 0/0
Thanks, perhaps I am overthinking it as I'm not sure what acting naturally in such a situation would be. Secondly, I am taking this time to understand myself better, why I cheated and how such a wrong choice can be avoided at all costs in the future. — guest 46 secs ago
#22196 guest (11 rep) | A: How should I behave after I was caught cheating in a test to convey that I'm truly remorseful? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Flater (5932 rep) | Toxicity 0.22543629 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22196 guest (11 rep) | A: How should I behave after I was caught cheating in a test to convey that I'm truly remorseful? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Flater (5932 rep) | Toxicity 0.027724495 | tps/fps: 0/0
If you can find someone (preferably a woman) who was in an abusive relationship, that can share her story, thoughts and realization of her being in an abusive relationship - it would be the best in my opinion. This is in the assumption that a professional in that topic isn't available. — arieljannai 16 secs ago
#22194 arieljannai (889 rep) | Q: How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship? (score: 6) | posted 3 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | Toxicity 0.19637871 | tps/fps: 0/0
There may be an additional complication here: is there an agreement that what is said in the group is treated with confidentiality (i.e. is not shared outside the group)? — Jan Doggen just now
#22194 Jan Doggen (307 rep) | Q: How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship? (score: 6) | posted 3 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | Toxicity 0.02784926 | tps/fps: 0/0
1:13 PM
(cont.) Regarding your last point, I'd perhaps add that I'd mention that it's hard to know whether I'm truly remorseful or just trying to "act" remorseful; it's more like a wild rainbow of emotions (sometimes I blame myself, sometimes I blame the system, etc.) and I'm attempting to see things more clearly. I suppose I'm even thankful to the invigilators that I was caught early, as that gives me an opportunity to improve myself. Anyway, thanks for your answer...it was helpful, I'll ponder on it. — guest 41 secs ago
#22196 guest (11 rep) | A: How should I behave after I was caught cheating in a test to convey that I'm truly remorseful? (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by Flater (5932 rep) | Toxicity 0.16154444 | tps/fps: 0/0
#3728 ElizB (2462 rep) | A: Add history to citation expectations meta post (score: 2) | posted 4 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | Toxicity 0.043006748 | tps/fps: 0/0
@JanDoggen It's a private group, so yes, things there are supposed to "stay there". — Ælis 18 secs ago
#22194 Ælis (7743 rep) | Q: How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship? (score: 6) | posted 3 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | Toxicity 0.27567413 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22189 DaveG (5456 rep) | Q: Becoming a better mentor (score: 2) | posted 8 hours ago by fawers (11 rep) | Toxicity 0.059754364 | tps/fps: 0/0
I downvoted because I felt like this answer was just too one-sided, and also mostly consisted of questions. I think there are some reasonable questions here that should be comments on the original post to get more info. — DaveG 59 secs ago
#22190 DaveG (5456 rep) | A: Becoming a better mentor (score: -3) | posted 7 hours ago by virolino (670 rep) | Toxicity 0.048013087 | tps/fps: 0/0
1:44 PM
All suspicions appart and on a positive feeling, your wife may just be willing to buy you a gift or suprise you with something... — Laurent S. 22 secs ago
#12079 Laurent S. (129 rep) | Q: Wife does not work but wants “own” money/allowance (score: 20) | posted 462 days ago by MCP_infiltrator (203 rep) | edited 461 days ago by MCP_infiltrator (203 rep) | Toxicity 0.44752756 | Comment on inactive post | tps/fps: 0/0
I like the idea of offering to pay, but pushing the burden of doing the work onto the brother. Have you used this sort of technique before? I ask because we require answers to provide back up that shows them working. If you have any relevant experience, you should edit it into your answer. — Rainbacon 57 secs ago
#22198 Rainbacon (5401 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: 1) | posted 56 minutes ago by arieljannai (899 rep) | Toxicity 0.02484404 | tps/fps: 0/0
Is this person in the same country as you or is this an international group? — Rainbacon 42 secs ago
#22194 Rainbacon (5401 rep) | Q: How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship? (score: 6) | posted 4 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | edited 3 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | Toxicity 0.080446355 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22194 Ælis (7743 rep) | Q: How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship? (score: 6) | posted 4 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | edited 3 hours ago by Ælis (7743 rep) | Toxicity 0.3221262 | tps/fps: 0/0
since the group is getting large, have you considered to switching to "pot-luck" for the food, where everyone brings something for the group? — DaveG 29 secs ago
#22181 DaveG (5456 rep) | Q: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: 0) | posted 21 hours ago by Reubens4Dinner (500 rep) | edited 35 minutes ago by Reubens4Dinner (500 rep) | Toxicity 0.10207229 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22198 arieljannai (899 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by arieljannai (899 rep) | Toxicity 0.09492378 | tps/fps: 0/0
I think this question would be a better fit on The Worklplace stack exchange. Not only would you get some answers on interpersonnel issues, but you might get broader advice on how to effectively work with a more junior employee (I know there are some pieces of advice I'd like to give you that wouldn't fit in the stack exchange's scope). — MlleMei 42 secs ago
#22189 MlleMei (1804 rep) | Q: Becoming a better mentor (score: 3) | posted 9 hours ago by fawers (16 rep) | Toxicity 0.10532439 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22198 arieljannai (899 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by arieljannai (899 rep) | edited 1 minutes ago by arieljannai (899 rep) | Toxicity 0.12438945 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22188 T.E.D. (2251 rep) | A: Different budgets within roommate group (score: 9) | posted 10 hours ago by Monica Cellio (15899 rep) | Toxicity 0.08193546 | tps/fps: 0/0
2:41 PM
Tactfully is a very vague concept can you be more descriptive about your goal for this conversation? — sphennings 29 secs ago
#22200 sphennings (8174 rep) | Q: How to explain to mother that less support is better? (score: 0) | posted 9 minutes ago by Moacir (101 rep) | edited 1 minutes ago by sphennings (8174 rep) | Toxicity 0.23318528 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22200 Moacir (101 rep) | Q: How to explain to mother that less support is better? (score: 0) | posted 12 minutes ago by Moacir (101 rep) | edited 4 minutes ago by sphennings (8174 rep) | Toxicity 0.18159513 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22194 Rainbacon (5411 rep) | Q: How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship? (score: 7) | posted 5 hours ago by Ælis (7749 rep) | edited 38 minutes ago by Ælis (7749 rep) | Toxicity 0.10397903 | tps/fps: 0/0
As a supplement to @sphennings' comment, we've had some discussion on the word "tactfully" before. Just make sure you specify what "tactfully" means for you in this situation (it seems to mean that you want to tell your mom that her "support" is doing more harm than good without upsetting her or making her feel bad--in which case it might be better to just say that!) — scohe001 26 secs ago
#22200 scohe001 (11627 rep) | Q: How to explain to mother that less support is better? (score: 1) | posted 14 minutes ago by Moacir (106 rep) | edited 5 minutes ago by sphennings (8174 rep) | Toxicity 0.30687422 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Moacir Comments are commonly deleted without warning on this site. Please edit your question to include the additional information. — sphennings 1 min ago
#22200 sphennings (8174 rep) | Q: How to explain to mother that less support is better? (score: 1) | posted 19 minutes ago by Moacir (106 rep) | edited 10 minutes ago by sphennings (8174 rep) | Toxicity 0.17526828 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22198 Rainbacon (5411 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: 2) | posted 2 hours ago by arieljannai (909 rep) | edited 43 minutes ago by arieljannai (909 rep) | Toxicity 0.025916556 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Rainbacon According to Ælis,merely stating you have experience isn't enough backup. See below. — Johns-305 38 secs ago
#22198 Johns-305 (1525 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: 2) | posted 2 hours ago by arieljannai (909 rep) | edited 52 minutes ago by arieljannai (909 rep) | Toxicity 0.22242525 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22197 Johns-305 (1523 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -1) | posted 3 hours ago by Johns-305 (1523 rep) | edited 2 minutes ago by Johns-305 (1523 rep) | Toxicity 0.07578204 | tps/fps: 0/0
Is just ignoring these messages an option? Also, you mention this being out of the norm for your communications; what's your norm then? — Laurent S. 1 min ago
#22200 Laurent S. (129 rep) | Q: How to explain to mother that less support is better? (score: 1) | posted 49 minutes ago by Moacir (106 rep) | edited 28 minutes ago by Moacir (106 rep) | Toxicity 0.37289166 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22197 Rainbacon (5420 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -3) | posted 3 hours ago by Johns-305 (1519 rep) | edited 1 minutes ago by Johns-305 (1519 rep) | Toxicity 0.2377598 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22197 Johns-305 (1519 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -3) | posted 3 hours ago by Johns-305 (1519 rep) | edited 2 minutes ago by Johns-305 (1519 rep) | Toxicity 0.075746104 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22197 scohe001 (11626 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -4) | posted 3 hours ago by Johns-305 (1517 rep) | edited 7 minutes ago by Johns-305 (1517 rep) | Toxicity 0.2204933 | tps/fps: 0/0
3:36 PM
You said that she asked you what you wanted. Is there a reason you feel you can't use that to "bring this topic up to her and judge what would be fair?" It sounds like she's already trying to have exactly the conversation you want to have! Can you elaborate on why you believe having this conversation will be difficult? — scohe001 54 secs ago
#22201 scohe001 (11626 rep) | Q: How can I bring up the topic of my birthday gift to my girlfriend? (score: 0) | posted 4 minutes ago by Brian (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.16183415 | tps/fps: 0/0
Like @scohe001 said, it sounds like you already have the answer for what you asked: She brought it up already. Why do you need help with that, then? As it stands, this question sounds more like you are looking for a place to mildly vent about having to provide for your girlfriend. Perhaps you can rework your question to better fit what you are actually trying to ask. — Reubens4Dinner 1 min ago
#22201 Reubens4Dinner (559 rep) | Q: How can I bring up the topic of my birthday gift to my girlfriend? (score: 0) | posted 9 minutes ago by Brian (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.07529282 | tps/fps: 0/0
In my household, we treat each other with more respect than what you have provided here. My brother is a human with reasonable emotions, especially for his age. Your answer disregards all of that. — Reubens4Dinner 38 secs ago
#22197 Reubens4Dinner (559 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -5) | posted 4 hours ago by Johns-305 (1515 rep) | edited 37 minutes ago by Johns-305 (1515 rep) | Toxicity 0.079964116 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Reubens4Dinner I never said to be dishonest or patronize him. Not even a hint and it's offensive that you even suggest that without evidence. Yes, you do have respect issues to deal with, because he's not respecting your invitation or hospitality in addition to what you yourself describe in a comment. You need to start treating him with equal respect, at his level, then encourage him to grow from there. Otherwise, he'll just keep taking advantage of you. — Johns-305 just now
#22197 Johns-305 (1515 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -5) | posted 4 hours ago by Johns-305 (1515 rep) | edited 46 minutes ago by Johns-305 (1515 rep) | Toxicity 0.15732323 | tps/fps: 0/0
4:12 PM
#3723 M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 0) | posted 24 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | Toxicity 0.11727906 | tps/fps: 0/0
I agree. The question has a specific goal: offering support while maintaining safe space. Voting to reopen. — Lux Claridge 1 min ago
#22194 Lux Claridge (615 rep) | Q: How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship? (score: 7) | posted 6 hours ago by Ælis (7748 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by Ælis (7748 rep) | Toxicity 0.03082879 | tps/fps: 0/0
4:29 PM
I'm not sure about your fourth post: It carries a reference to the policy as it's enforced on The Workplace, but there's been plenty of Workplace users that go 'but my answer floats on Workplace' (And to be honest there is a great deal of difference between our back up policies, it seems). It might confuse people more than it helps, and even lead to more rules-lawyering from people that want to use that freer implementation to post their opinion and not put more effort into backup? What do you think? As for the rest, I think we can add those safely. — Tinkeringbell ♦ 1 min ago
#3732 Tinkeringbell (23783 rep) | A: Add history to citation expectations meta post (score: 2) | posted 55 minutes ago by Em C (10266 rep) | Toxicity 0.1263866 | tps/fps: 0/0
As I read this question, it seems like the main issue is choosing a gift that fits in your girlfriend's budget, but you're not sure what that budget is or should be because she: (a) is saving for school, and (b) does not contribute money towards her basic cost of living. Is that interpretation correct? — Upper_Case 1 min ago
#22201 Upper_Case (14125 rep) | Q: How can I bring up the topic of my birthday gift to my girlfriend? (score: 0) | posted 43 minutes ago by Brian (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.1581927 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Tinkeringbell that's a good point - I was including it more for the historical value since it's one of the earliest metas about requiring backup, but we've definitely diverged from Workplace since. Maybe we could make that clear in the heading or a blurb after the link? Or it might not be worth the potential confusion? — Em C ♦ just now
#3732 Em C (10266 rep) | A: Add history to citation expectations meta post (score: 2) | posted 1 hours ago by Em C (10266 rep) | Toxicity 0.052498452 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22200 Moacir (111 rep) | Q: How to explain to mother that less support is better? (score: 2) | posted 2 hours ago by Moacir (111 rep) | edited 2 minutes ago by Em C (10265 rep) | Toxicity 0.10793453 | tps/fps: 0/0
5:11 PM
> "I'm not mom and this isn't a restaurant, deal with it. See you at 7." This is very patronizing. >"...even if he's the only person you don't tell. :)" This is (arguably) dishonest — Reubens4Dinner 1 min ago
#22197 Reubens4Dinner (569 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -6) | posted 5 hours ago by Johns-305 (1513 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Johns-305 (1513 rep) | Toxicity 0.5308239 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22202 Moacir (123 rep) | A: How to explain to mother that less support is better? (score: 3) | posted 10 minutes ago by scohe001 (11671 rep) | Toxicity 0.026528317 | tps/fps: 0/0
If I might include this: My own personal experiences with usage fees turn out very badly. — Reubens4Dinner 1 min ago
#22178 Reubens4Dinner (569 rep) | A: Different budgets within roommate group (score: 3) | posted 26 hours ago by Imus (3861 rep) | Toxicity 0.07080153 | tps/fps: 0/0
Voting to close for a couple of reasons. Primarily, because OP committed academic dishonesty and is asking a "what should I do?"-type question for the disciplinary hearing - which is not only off-scope but really ironic. — baldPrussian 1 min ago
#22193 baldPrussian (25338 rep) | Q: How should I behave after I was caught cheating in a test to convey that I'm truly remorseful? (score: 3) | posted 8 hours ago by guest (16 rep) | edited 8 hours ago by guest (16 rep) | Toxicity 0.18628183 | tps/fps: 0/0
5:37 PM
I wasn't thinking of showing and explaining in detail an extensive history but at least showing where the context of that decision came from so that new users don't feel like users like them have been left out of that discussion. — ElizB 27 secs ago
#3727 ElizB (2462 rep) | Q: Add history to citation expectations meta post (score: 6) | posted 20 hours ago by ElizB (2462 rep) | Toxicity 0.06655724 | tps/fps: 0/0
5:55 PM
@baldPrussian The question is not specific to the disciplinary hearing, and more about the long term...perhaps I should remove that part altogether. — guest 28 secs ago
#22193 guest (16 rep) | Q: How should I behave after I was caught cheating in a test to convey that I'm truly remorseful? (score: 3) | posted 9 hours ago by guest (16 rep) | edited 9 hours ago by guest (16 rep) | Toxicity 0.08435494 | tps/fps: 0/0
6:12 PM
The question might benefit from some exposition on what consequences might be like if Alex makes a different choice in this scenario. I've had success with demonstrating that the risk of harms is not unique to making a specific, "right" choice, even if there are potential downsides. But without some way to evaluate what the "objective" fear is (how much is inherent to the choice vs. Alex's fixation on the fear), how rational the fear is, and what alternatives exist, answers might not be much different from or more specific than the options you've already tried. — Upper_Case 36 secs ago
#3726 Upper_Case (14140 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 1) | posted 21 hours ago by TheTinyMan (3958 rep) | edited 20 hours ago by scohe001 (11667 rep) | Toxicity 0.17227104 | tps/fps: 0/0
I think that the question would be much improved with a bit more detail about what your father's expectations are and what your brother's expectations are. Not necessarily rolling back the edit, but a footnote saying "thou shalt not have fun" isn't very precise, nor is your brother feeling he has a "right to slack off". A concrete example or two would probably do it. — Upper_Case 25 secs ago
#3723 Upper_Case (14140 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 0) | posted 26 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | Toxicity 0.13502288 | tps/fps: 0/0
Right, I've been wobbling back and forth and I can't quite figure out what was missing from my question. I'll edit it in after Scohe is done with his edit @Upper_Case. — M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ 16 secs ago
#3723 M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 0) | posted 26 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | Toxicity 0.12975608 | tps/fps: 0/0
6:48 PM
#18180 DaveG (5457 rep) | Q: How to effectively communicate technical data/instructions without writing "too long" emails? (score: 8) | posted 295 days ago by YetAnotherRandomUser (186 rep) | edited 294 days ago by YetAnotherRandomUser (186 rep) | Toxicity 0.04860943 | Comment
7:17 PM
@Upper_Case does this do, or do I have to include more context? Could you point out what parts of the previous revisions should I include again? I started off with the impression that I need to include a great amount of context, but then the question became too long, and I don't want people to just glaze over most of the question. — M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ 1 min ago
#3723 M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 0) | posted 27 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | edited 3 minutes ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | Toxicity 0.06418255 | tps/fps: 0/0
#3723 scohe001 (11666 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 1) | posted 27 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | edited 1 minutes ago by scohe001 (11666 rep) | Toxicity 0.12672758 | tps/fps: 0/0
7:53 PM
@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ I think that those additions are excellent. The context of even a 15 minute break from studying gives a good frame of reference for your father's position, and the slipping grades for your brother is a good reference point as well. I agree with scohe001 that this question seems ready to go. — Upper_Case 1 min ago
#3723 Upper_Case (14140 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 1) | posted 27 hours ago by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ (111 rep) | edited 34 minutes ago by scohe001 (11666 rep) | Toxicity 0.032019343 | tps/fps: 0/0
Unfortunately I can't really describe that very effectively without also giving away what I don't want to give away, @Upper_Case. :-( — TheTinyMan 1 min ago
#3726 TheTinyMan (3958 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 1) | posted 23 hours ago by TheTinyMan (3958 rep) | edited 22 hours ago by scohe001 (11666 rep) | Toxicity 0.19602682 | tps/fps: 0/0
To get this reopened, I'd suggest looking at what goal you want to achieve. Restore relationships with your professors? Restore your reputation? Convince your instructors that this was a one-time event? Something else? Reading through your question, I'd suggest starting over again. This is really focused on the hearing and I'd submit that course of question would be closed as off-topic again. — baldPrussian just now
#22193 baldPrussian (25348 rep) | Q: How should I behave after I was caught cheating in a test to convey that I'm truly remorseful? (score: 2) | posted 11 hours ago by guest (14 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by guest (14 rep) | Toxicity 0.16394728 | tps/fps: 0/0
Fair enough. Could you give a similar treatment, relative to the existing question, to the downsides of not making the choice Alex is leaning towards? Even your own assessment would be enough ("I think that if Alex doesn't make the clearly right choice, his risk of negative consequences is a bit lower, but there are no positives to get that way either"). Others can probably be more helpful than me on this question, I'm just trying to think of information I could potentially use to offer something more than what you've already tried. — Upper_Case 32 secs ago
#3726 Upper_Case (14140 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 1) | posted 23 hours ago by TheTinyMan (3958 rep) | edited 22 hours ago by scohe001 (11666 rep) | Toxicity 0.07443948 | tps/fps: 0/0
@baldPrussian The first one mainly i.e. restoring relationships with my professors. I don't care about my reputation at this point or trying to convince anyone of anything. — guest 46 secs ago
#22193 guest (14 rep) | Q: How should I behave after I was caught cheating in a test to convey that I'm truly remorseful? (score: 2) | posted 11 hours ago by guest (14 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by guest (14 rep) | Toxicity 0.23933642 | tps/fps: 0/0
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9:21 PM
@Reubens4Dinner Patronizing would be like "Oh yes My Lord, would you also like that served on a Silver Platter with the Fine China?" Unless you actually do own a restaurant, those are simple facts he has to accept. Also, omission is not a lie or dishonest unless you are intending to deceive, important difference. Dishonest would be telling him you're already getting what he wants to save yourself a special trip, then getting what you had originally planned. — Johns-305 1 min ago
#22197 Johns-305 (1510 rep) | A: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? (score: -7) | posted 9 hours ago by Johns-305 (1510 rep) | edited 17 minutes ago by Em C (10290 rep) | Toxicity 0.46217078 | tps/fps: 0/0
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