Can you edit this to ask one specific question? — sphennings 1 min ago

I strongly recommend creating a new account called Sandbox for this. 2 suggested edits are enough to make it qualify for posting here. — Mr. Normal 1 min ago

Also, I think that, for the sandbox to function properly, once we get it into a more, well, stable state, we need to lower the meta rep requirement from 5 to 1. — Mr. Normal 33 secs ago

This doesn't seem more "opinion based" than a lot of other interpersonal questions. Or to put it another way, I think it's possible to articulate a logical position that makes sense based on personal experience, which is pretty much what all the answers on IPS end up being. — DaveG 8 secs ago

@refbobby - If you're in the US, your apparent beliefs about how rentals work are very different from how every rental I've ever been involved in worked. In rentals, if you don't explicitly have some facility in an agreement or a codified law (FHA, etc), you should assume you cannot do it. — Fake Name 1 min ago

Have you ever asked her a similar question? If not, predict her reaction first, then ask her the classic trolley question en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trolley_problem Its not the answer that matters, its the approach and methodology. She might surprise you. — Criggie 6 secs ago

@Mr.Normal This comment thread is not a good place for discussing changes and improvements to the sandbox. There are other questions on meta about the sandbox that you could always answer or you can always ask a new question suggesting the changes. — sphennings 1 min ago

Questions 1 and 3 are really more intrapersonal skills and not in scope for this forum — baldPrussian 1 min ago

-1 for feeding into @refbobby's entirely unjustified persecution complex. The shared areas are for shared living, not expanded hoarding rights. If there's no room in his room, he should be clearing out space as a personal choice, not bemoaning that he's enduring an "unpleasant situation" or whinging that his lease is "extremely wrong". You're just going to help get him evicted, at which point he'll presumably start fighting the police because "there are no signs" that say he can't store things in the park and the middle of the street. — lly 1 min ago

You can't lie in this kind of counterfactual. It's impossible. It's like if someone asks "Would you still love me if two plus two was five". The person asking you knows there's no way you could possibly know the true answer since there is no way you can figure out what that would actually change, and given no expectation of a truthful answer, a lie is impossible. — David Schwartz 1 min ago

As you are the customer, I do not understand the question. As another European nation were people is mad about their bread, it is utterly unthinkable being sold stale bread early in the morning. They should get up earlier as other bakers do. — Rui F Ribeiro 59 secs ago

As it is not IPS, I will leave the comment here. Your baker still does not get the ropes. Hardened people in the industry either trows it away, or recycles a part of the older bread for at least 4 kind of cakes I know of, and grinds it to sell to people bread "flour" for meat/rissoles dishes. However, I am not impressed I knowing that and not being in the industry, and they dont. They are not being professional. — Rui F Ribeiro 40 secs ago

I know personally backers that barely slept to have their customers happy with fresh bread in the morning. This should be the right answer. Those people are not taking their business seriously. — Rui F Ribeiro 1 min ago

Please don’t write answers in comments. It bypasses our quality measures by not having voting (both up and down) available on comments, as well as having other problems detailed on meta. Please use comments for asking for clarifications or suggesting improvements for the question; please don’t use them for other purposes. Such comments will be removed without notice. — A J ♦ 35 secs ago

I did an edit to only ask Question 2, and provided examples in an edit. — Quantenirrwisch 1 min ago

@refbobby Count your blessings they have not asked you to leave. I would do that. Then you could ask me at will how I would dictate things in my own home...behind a closed door preferably. IMO you are being rude to those people. — Rui F Ribeiro 31 secs ago

I do find it quite odd they are flying you for a first interview. — Rui F Ribeiro 1 min ago

All due respect if you're going to write answers about housemate shares, you should have experience with housemate shares. Shared bathrooms are extremely common, I cannot recall ever having a dedicated bathroom except one case where I rented the whole wing of the house. Remember houses are not built from the ground up to be housemate-share homes, they are built to be single-family homes. — Harper 39 secs ago

I think there is a reasonably right answer, to wit: If you dated them, or really like them, tell them as a courtesy. Other than that, you owe no one anything at all. And take down your profile and/or set your status -- this tells everyone the score, and also tells them the score if this doesn't pan out and you are once again seeking. Aid serendipity: You never know. — Harper 1 min ago

@Quantenirrwisch Thanks for the edit! If you're only asking question #2 it might be clearer to edit further and remove the other questions. — Upper_Case 1 min ago

Second, where I live there's no such thing as "tenancy at will". I have a least that is for a set amount of time. — refbobby 34 secs ago

Actually I have done the house mate share thing for a while. And it is standard that housemates share the common areas. Today I was looking at another place and the landlord was showing me a closet. Given the replies in this question, I asked if I could actually use the closet. He said yes, and asked why I even bothered asking such a silly question? So, I ask you, could you please explain where you're coming from that all belongings must be stored only in the bedroom? — refbobby 1 min ago

"I rented several rooms in my life, and never expected to store personal belonging outside my room" well I'm certainly not in Lisbon but I find this hard to believe. So you never stored your towel or toothbrush in the bathroom? You never stored your shoes or coat near the door? You stored your bike in your room? You stored your groceries and cooking utensils in your room? — refbobby 1 min ago

@FakeName I mean in the sense I've never seen a lease that goes into such detail like "there is a bathroom on the top floor, the tenant can use it. There is a kitchen that the tenant may use" etc. The landlord can't suddenly restrict access to the kitchen etc. just arguing that it was never explicitly stated in the lease that there is a kitchen. — refbobby 23 secs ago

I did housemate shares for almost 20 years, totaling over a dozen places. You're right, I wasn't clear enough: Storing anything in commons space can always be negotiated, but you cannot expect a whole lot of that. What's definitely wrong, in my experience, is your notion of "If I see space, just do it" -- particularly when "if I try asking if it's to put there she just says "no"." If that is the answer you expect, then I really don't see how acting without asking will have a more favorable outcome. — Harper 42 secs ago

@refbobby Leases to a subtenant? New to me but okay... But the lease has terms, yes? It surely has a clause allowing evictions for rule violations etc. The people who wrote the lease surely wrote it to their favor. — Harper 13 secs ago

"his friend wouldn't be posting his art publically if he didn't want validation and criticism" I, for one, post it for the enjoyment of whoever likes it, nothing more, nothing less. Since I would make it anyway, I might as well share it if looking at it can make someone's day a little brighter. If and when I want criticism, I explicitly ask for it. (Actually in many venues it is considered inappropriate to give unsolicited criticism.) — fkraiem 35 secs ago

(You are also not at all answering the question; you think the criticism is valid, but you don't give OP any ways to present it to their friend.) — fkraiem 1 min ago

Where do you keep your food? In the kitchen or in your room ? — Criggie just now

Not a complete answer, but have her listen to youtube videos and audiobooks by Byron Katie. See if that helps. — Stephan Branczyk 22 secs ago

He already said she was diagnosed with a mental illness. There is no need to speculate about that part. — Stephan Branczyk 1 min ago

Can you edit this to focus on answering the question and less on responding to other answers? — sphennings 33 secs ago

I'm unsure how this answers the OP's question. Can you edit to clarify? — sphennings 49 secs ago

Why not just tell him you won't refer him because he's not good enough? — Erik 1 min ago

I see him everyday, that would be too harsh — Jenks 32 secs ago

Just to clarify, you both are teenagers? — Danubian Sailor 1 min ago

I will try that, thanks for the suggestion — HanMah 1 min ago

Is it possible to post a link to your github account? — QEDemonstrandum 1 min ago

You got me wrong, is it possible in the forum to post a link to your github account :) — QEDemonstrandum 53 secs ago

yes, github.com/KaiGerdMueller : my account. the project is loth, but the new version is not on github by now since i develop it alone. — KGM 1 min ago

i cannot post my project there, i could post a link to my account (if i got rid of minetest bot collection) (you cannot link to cheats on that forums, if i violate that rule, they sue me.) also, I want great impact for a great project, I don't think I could get great impact that way. I have to convince them : ) — KGM 38 secs ago

reddit.com — TheRealLester 43 secs ago

This is the right answer. You are a customer, enquiring about salient facts about the product you are buying; there is no way for this to be inappropriate. — Jack Aidley 1 min ago

Why won't h e correct the spelling mistakes? — Upper_Case 11 secs ago

Do you want to know how to tell your friend? How to talk with the recruiter/boss? Helping your friend get an interview in your company? In another company? — arieljannai 1 min ago

@refbobby - Yep, they exist, though they're somewhat unusual, so you're therefore stuck with what is commonly accepted as part of renting a room from a homeowner. And we've ascertained that your expectations about that seem discordant with what apparently all the answers think.You therefore have a problem. — Fake Name just now

I'm voting this closed as off topic because it looks to be a request for help with phrasing. Such questions are off topic on this site. — sphennings 37 secs ago

I'm voting this closed as off topic since I'm unsure what this has to do with interpersonal skills. — sphennings 35 secs ago

I've rented rooms for upwards of 8 years, and am currently in a live-in manager position with renters. If a renter wanted to store large non-furniture items in the common-area, I'd expect them to at least discuss this with me before just dumping them in the common area. Realistically, I'd probably be OK with it, but if I came home and just found things dumped in the common-spaces, I'd probably be at least a little irritated. You need to be aware you started off here on the wrong foot, since it sounds like you didn't ask first. — Fake Name 1 min ago

Welcome! The network has a site for English Language Learners that might be a good place for your question but it'd be best if you added context - for example, a sentence where you are using this construction. Feel free to ask your question there. :) — Catija ♦ 1 min ago

"she said I should stay alone forever after she died and should never love someone else even many years after." This is incredibly selfish... you should end the questions by running for the hills and away from this relationship. — Dean MacGregor 38 secs ago

If you only ask questions to see if people validate your point of view, and do engage people without properly interpreting what they write, why bother then? — Rui F Ribeiro 1 min ago

Danubian it says in the question that I am 23 and she is 19 — GamerGypps 24 secs ago

@Mr.Normal both of those are interesting points! If you want them to be seriously considered, can you post a new meta question and tag it with sandbox so we can have a more fleshed out discussion about this? — scohe001 1 min ago

Tangential to your answer. A linguist here. white house/Whitehouse are distinguished in their prosodic stress. white house is always emphasized on house, like whIte hOUse or white hOUse, but the Whitehouse is not, and has the prosodic stress (sometimes, not entirely correctly, referred to as ictus) on one syllable only, whItehouse. Say them a few times, and you'll hear the difference. — kkm 9 secs ago

While this isn't a proper answer (this would have better suited for the comments in either my question or the other user's answer), I have to agree. In fact, a few other of my friends, some of whom are also artists, tend to have this mindset; generally, if you're posting your artwork on sites for people to see, you're generally either seeking validation from others or are looking for criticism to improve (I personally fall into both of these catagories) — anony 15 secs ago