@FakeName sorry but this is extremely wrong. Just because something isn't in one contract doesn't means that it is or is not allowed, in law everything is considered in context (including what was said and what was done). Even if what you say was true, I could just as easily argue that she never put I'm not allowed to store things in common areas in the contract, therefore I'm allowed. — refbobby 58 secs ago

Welcome to Interpersonal Skills. Please take a moment to visit the help center and take the tour. Our standards for what we consider an actual answer are a bit different than other sites. At a minimum we expect answers to be more substantial than just telling someone what to do. Can you edit this to provide an explanation for why you think that this will address the OP's concerns? — sphennings 1 min ago

@user3067860 thanks for your constructive opinion that I'm blinded by my dislike. I already have tried all that and am completely maxed out of space in my bedroom. Also for sanitary and convenience reasons it would be nice if I didn't have to keep things like shoes in my bedroom. — refbobby 33 secs ago

"you do not dictate how you spread your belongings in the property" the landlord also doesn't dictate how I spread my belongings across the property. — refbobby just now

Welcome to the sandbox. We're not here to tell you what you should do, so asking "When should I tell someone something?" isn't a good question for this site. The more specific a question you ask the likelier it is to be well received. I think this post could be improved by focusing on one specific question instead of a bunch of related questions. — sphennings 1 min ago

Also I sympathize that her husband is very ill but it would be worse for her if I move out over something that could have been solved — refbobby 1 min ago

Re: "Avoiding addressing the person by name until I hear how most others pronounce it." - this assumes most people are pronouncing it correctly (or at least not deliberately mispronouncing it). Note that, depending on the language, you may not even be able to tell that it's being pronounced incorrectly (say, the tones in Vietnamese, or some longer vowels in Japanese), much less manage the pronunciation yourself. — Clockwork-Muse 15 secs ago

Can you give an example of some of his complaints? — scohe001 21 secs ago

@sharur There is nothing loyal about denying yourself a life because of someone who has been dead half a lifetime, and lifelong reclusive celibacy after the death of a partner is not generally highly praised in Western culture. Expecting someone to live alone and never fall in love again for perhaps 60 years has absolutely nothing to do with loyalty. Like all variants of jealousy, it is about control, and it is definitely a red flag in my book. — Janus Bahs Jacquet 32 secs ago

@refbobby. You don't seem to realise. It is her house so she does get to dictate how you spread your belongings around her property. — Mark Perryman 1 min ago

@sphennings Is the how part suitable for this site? Also, why is not the "when" suitable from a common courtesy perspective? Surely, questions about things like manners and customs are appropriate for some board on this site. Why not then a question about customs/manner in the specific context of online dating? I'm aware that there are essentially many answers to that kind of question, but can you not ask for a non-exhaustive list of common ways in which people handle these things. It could even be evidenced based given there is much sociological research out there into dating behavior habits. — Shufflepants 41 secs ago

The how part may be suitable depending on exactly what you're asking. The best way to find out is to edit this and let us offer feedback on the revision. I'm unaware of any studies about when people notify people on dating sites that they have had a monogamous commitment and are no longer interested in dating them. If you wanted to ask about the existence of such studies that might be a good question for this site but it would need to be specifically about that. — sphennings 45 secs ago

I wrote an answer, but it was deleted allegedly because it wasn’t an answer. Clearly the deleters did not like it, but an answer it most certainly was. So I offer you one snippet from it, here, by way of a partial answer, and as a gentle reminder that it is often a good idea to remind oneself not to take these kind of guy-girl encounters too seriously. For more info, read John Gray’s original 1992 book. It’s getting long in the tooth now, but it still conveys what amounts to superpowers when it comes to understanding your other half. — tkp 18 secs ago

@LCIII That's a bit drastic - she just needs to brought down to Earth a little. — corsiKa 1 min ago

If you end up going with the "how" question, it may help to include why you feel the need to tell them at all as well as what you've thought of trying and why you don't think it would work or what you're worried will happen if you do this poorly. — scohe001 1 min ago

Thanks for this. I did call up an old buddy of mine from Tampico and he also confirms the Nescafe hell you're describing. Oh and it's Colombia not ColUmbia... ;) — unknownprotocol 56 secs ago

I need some examples. Are these statements like "X is better than Y"? Or "X has influenced more guitarists than anyone else?" "Y has sold more albums?" "X concerts are never more than 2 hours?" - to what extent are these simple facts and to what extent opinion and taste? — Kate Gregory 12 secs ago