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12:42 AM
"Handle this behaviour" is a bit broad and essentially asking us "what should I do?" which we can't answer on this stack. I am vtc'ing for now but if you can outline more specifically what you want to try and accomplish then I think this would make a good question. — Jesse 1 min ago
#17590 Jesse (4955 rep) | Q: How to argue with father who denies everything and makes illogical arguments? (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by turnip (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.16967882
 
1:00 AM
@anony IPS is all about communication, if no amount of communication will make a difference then any answer here will be equally unlikely to make a difference. That being said, because they are in this state even saying something in plain terms to their face may not communicate the sentiment behind it. So if you can think of a way, it might still be possible to frame this as a communication question even if you have already "made it crystal clear". — Jesse 1 min ago
#3218 Jesse (4955 rep) | A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions (score: 0) | posted 4 days ago by anony (91 rep) | Toxicity NoKey | edited 3 days ago by ElizB (1186 rep)
 
1:11 AM
"drama" was the wrong word, I apologize for that. The point is, that the world is full of tragedy and you have to consider your own well-being before devoting yourself to rescuing this person. That said I am glad the world is a better place with people like the original poster. — Duke Leto 1 min ago
#17562 Duke Leto (679 rep) | Q: How do I help my girlfriend get out of this dangerous situation with her parents? (score: 19) | posted 21 hours ago by ZYR (172 rep) | Toxicity 0.2883488 | edited 20 hours ago by ZYR (172 rep)
It's only going to get worse. You're probably afraid to break up with her given how you expect her to react. But it won't be long before there is physical violence and given that she is a woman, if you defend yourself YOU will be the one to get arrested. Get out now. Good luck. — Duke Leto 1 min ago
#3658 Duke Leto (679 rep) | Q: Girlfriend gets extremely angry over small issues, how can I help her? (score: 15) | posted 337 days ago by heapOverflow (315 rep) | Toxicity 0.40279472 | edited 337 days ago by heapOverflow (315 rep)
 
1:25 AM
@AbraCadaver Honestly, the US, Canada, and Mexico are very similar. The big difference is that while 15% of Mexicans are fluent in English, while Canadians and USAians both at 15% Spanish speakers. Other than that, they are culturally very similar. At least, in comparison with China, India, Mongolia, etc. — axsvl77 1 min ago
#17551 axsvl77 (826 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 14) | posted 48 hours ago by axsvl77 (826 rep) | Toxicity 0.037796557 | edited 23 hours ago by axsvl77 (826 rep)
 
2:02 AM
@AbraCadaver Despite all the hype, Mexico, the US, and Canada are culturally very similar. — axsvl77 1 min ago
#17551 axsvl77 (825 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 14) | posted 48 hours ago by axsvl77 (825 rep) | Toxicity 0.10849731 | edited 23 hours ago by axsvl77 (825 rep)
 
 
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5:05 AM
Have you Just asked if she wishes to talk about hers after mentioning you don’t feel comfortable talking about yours? — mutt 1 min ago
#17558 mutt (171 rep) | Q: Politely replying to a friend to not have a conversation about past incidents (score: 2) | posted 35 hours ago by Sara (71 rep) | Toxicity 0.16139537
Is Alice stable? She seems like either a liar or is scared about something she isn’t saying and is trying to find something else to pin the blame on Bob for. I frankly don’t think you have enough information or at least you haven’t put it in here. Also the authorities are acting against Bob, is that for just reasons or false accusations? — mutt 1 min ago
#17369 mutt (171 rep) | Q: How do I help break the ice between Alice and Bob after past drama? (score: 1) | posted 7 days ago by current_user (112 rep) | Toxicity 0.30556282 | edited 14 hours ago by ElizB (1186 rep)
 
6:06 AM
What is your position at the company? Are you an intern too? — XtremeBaumer 1 min ago
#17593 XtremeBaumer (1587 rep) | Q: Asking out an intern at close of internship (score: -1) | posted 1 hours ago by user20910 (4 rep) | Toxicity 0.106897965 | edited 1 hours ago by A J (6237 rep)
 
6:27 AM
Why are you concerened with this being inappropriate? In what regard? Company policy, society, the fact that she is leaving and you are not, not knowing her well enough, past experiences, something else? — Raditz_35 1 min ago
#17593 Raditz_35 (189 rep) | Q: Asking out an intern at close of internship (score: -1) | posted 1 hours ago by user20910 (4 rep) | Toxicity 0.3083479 | edited 1 hours ago by A J (6237 rep)
why downvote? please explain — Michael 1 min ago
#17587 Michael (101 rep) | A: How to help my friend accept criticism? (score: -3) | posted 12 hours ago by elliot svensson (561 rep) | Toxicity 0.029239962 | edited 7 hours ago by elliot svensson (561 rep)
Matched regex(es) ["chatty", "short-comment"]
 
6:51 AM
This is a much better way to ask, at the expense of some clarity. I've once fallen back on the much older stereotype of "do you want to view my stamp collection?" - with the result of much laughter and a wonderful night. Using something slightly more ridiculous than a tea (which can be misunderstood) can make your true intentions more clear while still staying in the subtle area and allowing the other person a polite refusal ("sorry, not interested in stamps"). — Tom 1 min ago
#17551 Tom (5398 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 16) | posted 53 hours ago by axsvl77 (845 rep) | Toxicity 0.3471677 | edited 28 hours ago by axsvl77 (845 rep)
This does not provide an answer to the question. To critique or request clarification from an author, leave a comment below their post. - From ReviewSQB 7 secs ago
#17587 SQB (4116 rep) | A: How to help my friend accept criticism? (score: -2) | posted 12 hours ago by elliot svensson (571 rep) | Toxicity 0.09003987 | edited 8 hours ago by elliot svensson (571 rep)
Are you just wanting to inform people that it's your birthday, or would you want them to do something special with this information? — Kozaky just now
#17596 Kozaky (5399 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 0) | posted 11 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1587 rep) | Toxicity 0.08616709
What's wrong with her aporoach? Just do it a day in advance — Raditz_35 1 min ago
#17596 Raditz_35 (189 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 0) | posted 11 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1587 rep) | Toxicity 0.13003491
Matched regex(es) ["possible-aic"]
@Kozaky I just want to inform them. The people I want to inform are ones I barely see/talk to. Also just assume that there was no possibility to tell them in advance — XtremeBaumer 1 min ago
#17596 XtremeBaumer (1587 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 0) | posted 14 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1587 rep) | Toxicity 0.05016227
Matched regex(es) ["possible-aic"]
@Raditz_35 I don't say her approach is wrong, in fact, many people here do it, but I still felt embarrased that I didn't knew in the morning. Please just assume that there is no way for me to tell that person in advance. — XtremeBaumer 14 secs ago
#17596 XtremeBaumer (1587 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 0) | posted 15 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1587 rep) | Toxicity 0.12960386
If i remember correctly hypothetical questions are off-topic. No idea if that applies here. Perhaps you should ask how to congratulate a person you met earlier? It's pretty common to do that and a nice skill to have, especially if the alternative is feeling pretty embarrassed — Raditz_35 1 min ago
#17596 Raditz_35 (189 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 0) | posted 20 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1587 rep) | Toxicity 0.209565 | edited 4 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1587 rep)
Matched regex(es) ["not relevant"]
That would indeed be another question, but I want to save people from needing that skill at all — XtremeBaumer 1 min ago
#17596 XtremeBaumer (1592 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 1) | posted 23 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1592 rep) | Toxicity 0.08080648 | edited 7 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1592 rep)
"If she does accept, she knows what might or might not happen in your hotel room" No, no, no, no, no. Please everybody drop all that "she knew what might happen", "he knew what I meant by 'coffee'" etc. out of our minds. Some people, whichever the gender, are just oblivious / candid enough to not know "what might happen". Taking for granted that the other person knows what we mean, a.k.a. magically reading our mind, is a bad idea. If expectations don't match, the sooner you find out, the better. — walen 23 secs ago
#17551 walen (690 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 16) | posted 54 hours ago by axsvl77 (845 rep) | Toxicity 0.35318157 | edited 29 hours ago by axsvl77 (845 rep)
although hypothetical, this is a good question for this stack - I can imagine this situation to come up many times in our lives. But maybe you should specify some more details to prevent the question from being too broad. Is this in a group setting or a 1-on-1? Are you already in a conversation or would you start a new conversation for that? You also need to add some goals - as currently written, "Hey, it's my birthday!" would be a good answer. I don't think you are looking for such answers. — Cashbee 58 secs ago
#17596 Cashbee (3452 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 1) | posted 33 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1592 rep) | Toxicity 0.08402552 | edited 17 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1592 rep)
Matched regex(es) ["chatty"]
Starting at rev 3ae1aae on branch master (Try a thing)
 
7:44 AM
@elliotsvensson since the band was initially formed for practice reasons, I am fairly sure the "didactic value" is about the song's value of learning to play the instrument better. — Cashbee 1 min ago
#17577 Cashbee (3452 rep) | Q: How to convince my band members to play different songs? (score: 2) | posted 18 hours ago by Michele Ippolito (111 rep) | Toxicity 0.030687263 | edited 18 hours ago by Michele Ippolito (111 rep)
@Cashbee I hope it's a bit clearer now — XtremeBaumer 33 secs ago
#17596 XtremeBaumer (1592 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 1) | posted 48 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1592 rep) | Toxicity 0.110771194 | edited 46 seconds ago by XtremeBaumer (1592 rep)
 
7:58 AM
Yes, that's what I meant. It all started as a study group to do our summer homework. — Michele Ippolito 35 secs ago
#17577 Michele Ippolito (111 rep) | Q: How to convince my band members to play different songs? (score: 2) | posted 18 hours ago by Michele Ippolito (111 rep) | Toxicity 0.04941438 | edited 18 hours ago by Michele Ippolito (111 rep)
Please note that the op commented below the question that they are not interested in that approach — Raditz_35 1 min ago
#17599 Raditz_35 (189 rep) | A: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 0) | posted 12 minutes ago by gnasher729 (4226 rep) | Toxicity 0.036881033
> Why not having a pop-song and make it more interesting with some bluesy licks? Our composition skills are... "lacking". But it could be a good suggestion, we'll try. > Another solution to your problem would be just to jam together instead of playing a song. I'd like to, but as you mention early about trying to match everyone's skill I'm afraid this is too advanced a topic for the other guitar player. > Maybe it is just because you want to play that style or dislike pop? It's more about the fact that I have a blues exam in a few months, regardless of taste :) — Michele Ippolito 28 secs ago
#17580 Michele Ippolito (111 rep) | A: How to convince my band members to play different songs? (score: 1) | posted 17 hours ago by Olli (11 rep) | Toxicity 0.17417572
Thanks for the response Karen, but it's not the money owing that is an issue to me (as far as I'm concerned that money is payed, he's said he will, it will just be a matter of time). But the events of this year have resulted in financial circumstances for him that have caused my concern, but money has always been a problem, and I feel professional advice on managing money could be beneficial, so I would like to recommend this as a friend. — dma 1 min ago
#17598 dma (116 rep) | A: Politely recommend budget help to a friend who owes me money? (score: 0) | posted 16 minutes ago by Karen Lowe (96 rep) | Toxicity 0.026320396
Anyway, thank you for your suggestions, I'll keep them in mind and try to work out a compromise. — Michele Ippolito 29 secs ago
#17580 Michele Ippolito (111 rep) | A: How to convince my band members to play different songs? (score: 1) | posted 17 hours ago by Olli (11 rep) | Toxicity 0.017296102
Is your friend stubborn in general? — Hawker65 25 secs ago
#17574 Hawker65 (228 rep) | Q: How to help my friend accept criticism? (score: 11) | posted 19 hours ago by Imperator (324 rep) | Toxicity 0.23754409 | edited 14 hours ago by Imperator (324 rep)
You don't say where you live - is "out hundreds of dollars" so much that they would be stressed out? Is it the amount of money, or the fact you were scammed? — gnasher729 49 secs ago
#17568 gnasher729 (4226 rep) | Q: What to tell family who ask about a friend I had a falling out with? (score: 9) | posted 22 hours ago by Donttryit (97 rep) | Toxicity 0.45847827
I feel like the comic It's my birthday badges work in all situations other than funerals, but I don't know how serious your office is. It's not conversational, but it is darn effective, and requires minimal effort. — dma just now
#17596 dma (116 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1592 rep) | Toxicity 0.13248575 | edited 24 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1592 rep)
Fair enough! I still stand by what I said; that having bills to pay will incentivize someone to budget. It's really hard to make some one change their lifestyle as an outsider, rather than their own intrinsic motivation, but if you communicate your concern to him, it might be a wake-up call. Just remember that you cannot force him to change his lifestyle. Best of luck in navigating this situation. — Karen Lowe 27 secs ago
#17598 Karen Lowe (96 rep) | A: Politely recommend budget help to a friend who owes me money? (score: 0) | posted 25 minutes ago by Karen Lowe (96 rep) | Toxicity 0.051231205
This does not answer OP's question. — Cashbee 15 secs ago
#17599 Cashbee (3451 rep) | A: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 0) | posted 32 minutes ago by gnasher729 (4234 rep) | Toxicity 0.09538899
 
8:34 AM
If this ends up in the faq list (I think it's a very good idea), I suggest shortening the title a bit. maybe "How does the recommended question structure look like"? Also I think that we need to take cascabels comment under the answer more seriously and add clearer disclaimers that the structure suggestion is just a suggestion and questions do not have to conform to this in order to be a good question. — Cashbee 54 secs ago
 
8:45 AM
I think it absolutely makes sense to put the policy about backing up the answers in the FAQ. Yes the "Why did my answer get deleted" is also an important one, but they don't exclude each other. The latter should list all possibilities why an answer was deleted, not only missing backup. — Cashbee 30 secs ago
#3188 Cashbee (3452 rep) | A: What should be in our FAQ? (score: 4) | posted 14 days ago by avazula (6618 rep) | Toxicity NoKey | edited 13 days ago by avazula (6618 rep)
unfortuantely there is no single meta post that summarizes the back-it-up policy holistically. Maybe we should make one? — Cashbee 9 secs ago
#3188 Cashbee (3452 rep) | A: What should be in our FAQ? (score: 4) | posted 14 days ago by avazula (6618 rep) | Toxicity NoKey | edited 13 days ago by avazula (6618 rep)
 
@JessK. before I have managed to solve the intrapersonal problem still I experience the interpersonal problem so I thought I could get some advice here. — J. Doe 37 secs ago
#17447 J. Doe (114 rep) | Q: How to act more politely despite of beng mixed up? (score: 2) | posted 5 days ago by J. Doe (114 rep) | Toxicity 0.09187387
Does your birthday coincide with the birthday of any celebrity, historical figures etc? — A J ♦ 1 min ago
#17596 A J (6238 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 3) | posted 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep) | Toxicity 0.04219741 | edited 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep)
@AJ None that I would know of. Also maybe I know that "celebrity", but others have no need to know it — XtremeBaumer 5 secs ago
#17596 XtremeBaumer (1607 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 3) | posted 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep) | Toxicity 0.15854286 | edited 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep)
@AJ Is there a possible birthday where that isn't the case? — Raditz_35 31 secs ago
#17596 Raditz_35 (189 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 3) | posted 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep) | Toxicity 0.047077764 | edited 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep)
@Raditz_35 I don't get your comment. Can you explain it a bit? — A J ♦ 26 secs ago
#17596 A J (6238 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 3) | posted 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep) | Toxicity 0.14431025 | edited 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep)
@AJ I'm not aware that there is a day in the year where no celebrities or historical figures that are known to basically anyone were born. If you have an answer based on that idea, you can always make it work - well, unless there happens to be that one day, say 24th of November (it isn't though, Ted Bundy). And even if there isn't, that alone might be a conversation starter — Raditz_35 23 secs ago
#17596 Raditz_35 (189 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 3) | posted 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep) | Toxicity 0.050795637 | edited 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep)
i had exactly this when working in Germany. I had some German but it was still hard to join. I would turn this on its head and ask if some of the natives could each spare a few minutes a week to help you with Danish. It would improve your skills and also help them interact with you on a personal level and noting gets approval quite like trying to speak someone's own language better. — bigbadmouse 56 secs ago
#12525 bigbadmouse (299 rep) | Q: How to avoid looking/sounding unfriendly when I don't speak the same language as everyone at work? (score: 2) | posted 137 days ago by Rose (59 rep) | Toxicity 0.05721142
Hey, thanks for the answer! Can you please explain exactly why you think that this is a good idea? Why do you say to take this course of action? What’s the thought process behind this answer? As this currently stands, this is essentially a “Try this!” answer. We require that answers provide some sort of explanation for why they are suggesting this solution, and unfortunately, at the moment this answer doesn't appear to do that. — Cashbee 1 min ago
#17600 Cashbee (3451 rep) | A: Politely replying to a friend to not have a conversation about past incidents (score: 0) | posted 57 minutes ago by Karen Lowe (126 rep) | Toxicity 0.082642265
 
9:14 AM
@Taladris True, I overread that sentence. Thank you for informing me. — R. Schmitz 21 secs ago
#17575 R. Schmitz (121 rep) | A: What to tell family who ask about a friend I had a falling out with? (score: 2) | posted 20 hours ago by R. Schmitz (121 rep) | Toxicity 0.03967946 | edited 50 seconds ago by R. Schmitz (121 rep)
#17592 Cashbee (3450 rep) | A: Girlfriend gets extremely angry over small issues, how can I help her? (score: -1) | posted 8 hours ago by ProcolHarum (207 rep) | Toxicity 0.034017473
 
@Cashbee definitely. Will the end of the week be soon enough to create the post? — avazula 1 min ago
#3188 avazula (6618 rep) | A: What should be in our FAQ? (score: 4) | posted 14 days ago by avazula (6618 rep) | Toxicity NoKey | edited 13 days ago by avazula (6618 rep)
 
@mutt: Yes, she is actually stable. I did talk to her before a couple of hours and she did say that she did want some attention back then but I really don't know what she wanted. Maybe she had some feelings (not love, but you know, some “good“ feelings) for him and maybe he did ignored that and that's the reason why she acted like that. She told me that indirectly. — current_user 1 min ago
#17369 current_user (112 rep) | Q: How do I help break the ice between Alice and Bob after past drama? (score: 1) | posted 7 days ago by current_user (112 rep) | Toxicity 0.13946638 | edited 18 hours ago by ElizB (1196 rep)
 
9:37 AM
Can you explain the goal of telling somebody its your birthday? The way I'm reading this, you felt bad about not knowing it was your colleague their birthday (and thus not congratulating them) when you first saw them that day and your goal is to prevent others from feeling that way towards you. If that is correct, ask yourself: would you have felt better if the colleague had told you right away when you first talked that day? They still would have had to remind you and you would have probably felt like they where bothered by you now knowing, since they reminded you specificly in a 1 on 1 talk. — Jory Geerts 38 secs ago
#17596 Jory Geerts (101 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 3) | posted 2 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1607 rep) | Toxicity 0.14778492 | edited 1 minutes ago by A J (6238 rep)
 
10:08 AM
Please red the part directly following my question — XtremeBaumer 1 min ago
#17603 XtremeBaumer (1607 rep) | A: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 0) | posted 5 minutes ago by WendyG (2345 rep) | Toxicity 0.046117652
it is the pre-planning discussions that I feel fit here. Unless you want to let loads of people know — WendyG 1 min ago
#17603 WendyG (2345 rep) | A: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 0) | posted 10 minutes ago by WendyG (2345 rep) | Toxicity 0.03503212
 
10:42 AM
@Tom I agree with you. — axsvl77 8 secs ago
#17551 axsvl77 (843 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 15) | posted 57 hours ago by axsvl77 (843 rep) | Toxicity 0.044514425 | edited 32 hours ago by axsvl77 (843 rep)
Matched regex(es) ["chatty", "short-comment"]
@walen Sure, that's fine. It they don't understand, and just want to drink tea, where is the harm? It they don't understand, and don't come up, also, where is the harm? As I said, bluntness is a huge turn off for most people when it comes to physical intimacy. — axsvl77 36 secs ago
#17551 axsvl77 (843 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 15) | posted 57 hours ago by axsvl77 (843 rep) | Toxicity 0.34179786 | edited 32 hours ago by axsvl77 (843 rep)
 
10:53 AM
I don't like this one. It suggests that asking is creepy in the first place, and would probably make her more uncomfortable than simply being confident about it. If you are comfortable, confident and frank then it's not creepy. If you are suggesting it's creepy, suddenly it's creepier. — theonlygusti 1 min ago
#17545 theonlygusti (101 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 18) | posted 2 days ago by VAndrei (311 rep) | Toxicity 0.46095464 | edited 28 hours ago by VAndrei (311 rep)
 
11:08 AM
No problem. Actually, you had my +1 before the edit, since your answer could help other people. Welcome to IPS.stackexchange by the way — Taladris 1 min ago
#17575 Taladris (528 rep) | A: What to tell family who ask about a friend I had a falling out with? (score: 2) | posted 21 hours ago by R. Schmitz (121 rep) | Toxicity 0.033623233 | edited 1 hours ago by R. Schmitz (121 rep)
Matched regex(es) ["+1"]
(1/2) The harm comes later, when two adults are alone in a hotel room but not on the same page about "what might happen". So you invite me to your hotel room to have some coffee and I think "Cool, I enjoy your company, coffee sounds nice" so I say yes; and now you think that I "know what might happen". And then it happens: you ask me (just ask) if I want to get more intimate... — walen 1 min ago
#17551 walen (689 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 15) | posted 57 hours ago by axsvl77 (843 rep) | Toxicity 0.12965235 | edited 32 hours ago by axsvl77 (843 rep)
(2/2) ...and now I'm in a super violent situation because I am in a hotel room alone with you asking me this and I don't know you well enough to know how you'll react if I say no? And I'm getting nervous because I wasn't expecting this, should I say nothing? Laugh and expect it was a joke? Run away? Now I'm scared, maybe I should just say yes so you don't get mad? And tomorrow I'll feel like shit no matter what I do... So, no thanks. Don't expect me to "know what might happen". Because if you do, and I don't, things can get ugly. — walen 1 min ago
#17551 walen (689 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 15) | posted 58 hours ago by axsvl77 (843 rep) | Toxicity 0.76823187 | edited 33 hours ago by axsvl77 (843 rep)
Matched regex(es) ["offensive"]
@Hawker65 Not really. If the options are a) be stubborn or b) make everyone happy, he will choose b) every time. — Imperator 1 min ago
#17574 Imperator (334 rep) | Q: How to help my friend accept criticism? (score: 13) | posted 22 hours ago by Imperator (334 rep) | Toxicity 0.1120847 | edited 18 hours ago by Imperator (334 rep)
 
12:01 PM
The suggested wording sounds a bit odd, and might give someone pause, even if they were interested in going out. Why not just say something like "I'd really like to get to know you better, would you like to go out for dinner sometime?". Given that there's no power dynamic and no other ongoing relationship, if the intern isn't interested, she can "just say no". — DaveG 24 secs ago
#17597 DaveG (1354 rep) | A: Asking out an intern at close of internship (score: 12) | posted 4 hours ago by Karen Lowe (314 rep) | Toxicity 0.14429381
Thank you for the update, I'm happy everything worked out well! Congrats! — ThinkTank 1 min ago
#17026 ThinkTank (156 rep) | A: How to ask the girl I am dating if she likes me? (score: 4) | posted 17 days ago by ThinkTank (156 rep) | Toxicity 0.021133337
not an answer to the question, just a note by a fellow german: Don't be or feel embarrassed. You had no chance of knowing about it. Make a note in your calendar that repeats yearly with a reminder set for the day before. It's only (slightly) embarrassing if you get 'caught' by it the 2nd time. — Steffen Winkler 55 secs ago
#17596 Steffen Winkler (101 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 6) | posted 5 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1622 rep) | Toxicity 0.15357795 | edited 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1622 rep)
 
 
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1:05 PM
RE “He must have passed some exams at high school level”: where I live the high school music education is of such a low level that all students can enrol, so it has no entrance requirement. If you want to be a professional musician you should have passed this level long before high school and you won’t gain anything by taking music courses there. The best way to get into college level music education is by taking private lessons from a young age. Your first proper exam may well be the entrance exam to (an excellence programme leading to) college. Music school will be rough for Bruce. — 11684 1 min ago
#17579 11684 (101 rep) | A: How to help my friend accept criticism? (score: 19) | posted 22 hours ago by Astralbee (16368 rep) | Toxicity 0.093852095 | edited 18 hours ago by Woodrow Barlow (103 rep)
The first two examples seem pretty awkward — Marathon55 1 min ago
#17605 Marathon55 (238 rep) | A: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 7) | posted 2 hours ago by AndyT (1683 rep) | Toxicity 0.11372706
@11684 Okay, well maybe the OP can comment on that, otherwise it is just conjecture. I would imagine he has had to pass some kind of exam to get into college, even if it isn't music? And if he hasn't, then yes, music school will be a wake-up call for Bruce. I still don't think the OP should feel any obligation to prepare him for that if he is difficult to convince. — Astralbee 1 min ago
#17579 Astralbee (16368 rep) | A: How to help my friend accept criticism? (score: 19) | posted 22 hours ago by Astralbee (16368 rep) | Toxicity 0.121400505 | edited 18 hours ago by Woodrow Barlow (103 rep)
If you are asking this for yourself, then simply send out the "annual solar occurrence" email a day in advance - "Dear colleagues, as tomorrow is my birthday, there will be beer and sausage in the kitchen". — Mawg 1 min ago
#17596 Mawg (101 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 11) | posted 6 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1647 rep) | Toxicity 0.10226024 | edited 2 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1647 rep)
But I think your last paragraph is a good description of what generally makes the difference. Good answer. — Marathon55 2 mins ago
#17605 Marathon55 (238 rep) | A: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 7) | posted 2 hours ago by AndyT (1683 rep) | Toxicity 0.057718016
@JoryGeerts that is exactly my goal. And yes, I would have felt much better if he told me earlier — XtremeBaumer 27 secs ago
#17596 XtremeBaumer (1647 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 11) | posted 6 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1647 rep) | Toxicity 0.046057906 | edited 32 seconds ago by XtremeBaumer (1647 rep)
@SteffenWinkler Did exactly that right after I got to learn its that coworkers birthday — XtremeBaumer 40 secs ago
#17596 XtremeBaumer (1647 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 11) | posted 6 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1647 rep) | Toxicity 0.23555444 | edited 1 minutes ago by XtremeBaumer (1647 rep)
@Astralbee Well, you would need some kind of high school diploma, just not a general music exam. Sorry, I wasn’t quite clear, I felt a bit constricted by the character limit. — 11684 1 min ago
#17579 11684 (101 rep) | A: How to help my friend accept criticism? (score: 19) | posted 22 hours ago by Astralbee (16368 rep) | Toxicity 0.061245713 | edited 18 hours ago by Woodrow Barlow (103 rep)
 
1:33 PM
Hello, It doesn't warrant an answer but I had a friend that suffered similar problems. Very low energy, getting tired quickly, low motivation for anything. It turned out to be Iron Deficiency Anemia. Have you by any chance checked for that? It is a simple blood test and sometimes when the case is milder it isn't something that doctors check for right away. — Ontamu 46 secs ago
#17604 Ontamu (1728 rep) | Q: How can I talk with my friend about her burn out problems when I disagree with some things she says? (score: 2) | posted 2 hours ago by Caroline (111 rep) | Toxicity 0.13613406
Matched regex(es) ["possible-aic"]
This is not avoidance. It's a boundary. "You are engaging in unacceptable behavior, and I will not be around it." @heapOverflow find a way to exit the situation, perhaps go to a different room. — Peter 50 secs ago
#3674 Peter (181 rep) | A: Girlfriend gets extremely angry over small issues, how can I help her? (score: 10) | posted 337 days ago by Amadeus (5578 rep) | Toxicity 0.2947974
I would like to point out too, that this approach is seeing in many tv shows and movies not only in that Seinfeld episode, probably for the many reasons you enumerated. — Mykazuki 23 secs ago
#17551 Mykazuki (1063 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 17) | posted 2 days ago by axsvl77 (863 rep) | Toxicity 0.012996725 | edited 35 hours ago by axsvl77 (863 rep)
 
2:10 PM
Why is she telling you these things? That is not clear from your question (the only thing you say about your relationship with here is she is a friend, not the context/interactions when this comes up). Does she feel she needs to defend against you? Or is she just complaining; then why to you? — Jan Doggen 53 secs ago
#17604 Jan Doggen (295 rep) | Q: How can I talk with my friend about her burn out problems when I disagree with some things she says? (score: 2) | posted 3 hours ago by Caroline (111 rep) | Toxicity 0.24410889
 
2:21 PM
Hey, thanks for the answer! Can you please explain exactly why you think that this is a good idea? Why do you say to take this course of action? What’s the thought process behind this answer? As this currently stands, this is essentially a “Try this!” answer. We require that answers provide some sort of explanation for why they are suggesting this solution, and unfortunately, at the moment this answer doesn't appear to do that. — ElizB 46 secs ago
#17611 ElizB (1224 rep) | A: How do I help break the ice between Alice and Bob after past drama? (score: -2) | posted 42 minutes ago by mutt (187 rep) | Toxicity 0.054823764
@Randal'Thor out of curiosity, what part of this is considered illegal in some countries (and which ones, if you know offhand)? — Lord Farquaad 1 min ago
#17505 Lord Farquaad (2045 rep) | Q: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 52) | posted 4 days ago by Pickle (272 rep) | Toxicity 0.23754409 | edited 2 days ago by Em C (8561 rep)
The last two bullet points hit the nail on the head. By saying you already have plans, the other party won't feel guilty. — Tom 50 secs ago
#17605 Tom (461 rep) | A: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 10) | posted 3 hours ago by AndyT (1713 rep) | Toxicity 0.23997666
@Mawg hands down, that's the best answer and you should post it as one. Just phrase it in the present 'Hey, make sure you have some room left after lunch for the stuff I brought for my birthday today.' XtremeBaumer: Then all is well ;) just don't be a doofus like me and delete your calendar by syncing it the wrong way around. — Steffen Winkler 1 min ago
#17596 Steffen Winkler (101 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 11) | posted 7 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1647 rep) | Toxicity 0.1535711 | edited 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1647 rep)
 
2:54 PM
Hi there! Welcome on IPS. We expect answers to come with explanation about why you think this is a good idea. Furthermore, I think OP specifically said they looked for conversational solutions / not only working for office situations. Do you mind editing your answer accordingly? Thanks in advance. — avazula 1 min ago
#17613 avazula (6622 rep) | A: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: -1) | posted 4 minutes ago by Mawg (99 rep) | Toxicity 0.0134136975
I wouldn't bother... birthdays aren't a big deal. It's just another day for everyone else. — ell 1 min ago
#17596 ell (101 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 11) | posted 8 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1647 rep) | Toxicity 0.116997294 | edited 1 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1647 rep)
 
3:20 PM
...could it be because milk, eggs, and organic grass-fed meat aren't actually bad for you? Humans have eaten them for, you know, our entire history. It certainly sounds to me like you are trying to convert them. Otherwise, why would you care so much? Just talk about other subjects. — ell 1 min ago
#14518 ell (101 rep) | Q: How can I explain something to someone who doesn't want to hear it? (score: 1) | posted 90 days ago by Thomas Myron (362 rep) | Toxicity 0.20837879 | edited 90 days ago by Thomas Myron (362 rep)
 
3:49 PM
I wonder if it can be done non-awkwardly. I find it awkward if someone who I don't know very well (that is, outside my circle of close friends and immediate family) find its necessary to point out when it is their birthday. Unless you're doing something which needs an explanation (throw a party, pay for lunch, share cake...), why would you want to share with me when it's your birthday? — Abigail 1 min ago
#17596 Abigail (119 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 12) | posted 8 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1652 rep) | Toxicity 0.065141685 | edited 2 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1652 rep)
I would say this comes across as babbling and overkill, which while sometimes cute (and an ideal opportunity for a "shut-up-kiss") is a bit inelegant. I'd leave it at the first sentence,"I'd like to ask, do you want to spend the night at my hotel?" delivered with a smile. It's honest, it's confident and there's plenty of room for her to say no if she feels it's too soon. And if she does say no, then accept it gracefully. — Ruadhan2300 1 min ago
#17511 Ruadhan2300 (567 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 9) | posted 3 days ago by Stilez (1584 rep) | Toxicity 0.34260842
@LordFarquaad I'll hazard a guess and say it's either Iran, Saudi Arabia or a country not too far from there. — Mast 14 secs ago
#17505 Mast (119 rep) | Q: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 54) | posted 4 days ago by Pickle (282 rep) | Toxicity 0.1759543 | edited 2 days ago by Em C (8561 rep)
@Lord Farquaad Adultery is illegal in some countries. I remember a rape victim being arrested after going to the police to report the rape, because the man who had raped her claimed it was consensual. If I remember correctly it was in Saudi Arabia. — M.Herzkamp 27 secs ago
#17505 M.Herzkamp (101 rep) | Q: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 54) | posted 4 days ago by Pickle (282 rep) | Toxicity 0.30292878 | edited 2 days ago by Em C (8561 rep)
Is this a girl or a woman? — shoover 6 secs ago
#17505 shoover (101 rep) | Q: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 54) | posted 4 days ago by Pickle (282 rep) | Toxicity 0.20238477 | edited 2 days ago by Em C (8561 rep)
@Randal'Thor Since the question is tagged europe, I wouldn't worry about that. — Mast 31 secs ago
#17505 Mast (119 rep) | Q: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 54) | posted 4 days ago by Pickle (282 rep) | Toxicity 0.1005923 | edited 2 days ago by Em C (8561 rep)
#17596 dhein (887 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 13) | posted 9 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1657 rep) | Toxicity 0.122771055 | edited 3 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1657 rep)
Your rechargeable battery analogy should be spread far and wide to help people understand things like burn out and mental illness, similar to Spoon Theory - en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theoryMeelah 1 min ago
#17609 Meelah (156 rep) | A: How can I talk with my friend about her burn out problems when I disagree with some things she says? (score: 4) | posted 4 hours ago by YElm (2010 rep) | Toxicity 0.42911097
 
4:54 PM
Happy Birthday, btw - very subtle — Strawberry 1 min ago
#17596 Strawberry (101 rep) | Q: How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? (score: 13) | posted 9 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1660 rep) | Toxicity 0.01670927 | edited 3 hours ago by XtremeBaumer (1660 rep)
Matched regex(es) ["short-comment"]
 
5:19 PM
@11684 You are correct, he is currently skating on talent in school and is taking lessons with a tough local music teacher. I’m taking with the teacher too, and he frequently complains to me about this teacher as I ‘understand’. But high school poses no major problem to him musically, and the schools he is applying to are solely music. His academics don’t matter too much to them. Basically, as long as he passes his classes, he’s good. He keeps his head down, and avoids notice. — Imperator 58 secs ago
#17579 Imperator (339 rep) | A: How to help my friend accept criticism? (score: 20) | posted 26 hours ago by Astralbee (16378 rep) | Toxicity 0.060652014 | edited 22 hours ago by Woodrow Barlow (103 rep)
Maybe she's just lazy, though? Some people are. "Laziness looks like burnout on the outside, but is very different on the inside." — kbelder 34 secs ago
#17609 kbelder (171 rep) | A: How can I talk with my friend about her burn out problems when I disagree with some things she says? (score: 5) | posted 5 hours ago by YElm (2020 rep) | Toxicity 0.55478245 | edited 44 minutes ago by YElm (2020 rep)
@kbelder That's why Burnout should be diagnosed by professionals. She could be just lazy, she could also be suffering every day from the lack of energy to do what we consider "normal". And I don't quite believe that lazy people go to therapy out of lazyness. — YElm 7 secs ago
#17609 YElm (2020 rep) | A: How can I talk with my friend about her burn out problems when I disagree with some things she says? (score: 5) | posted 5 hours ago by YElm (2020 rep) | Toxicity 0.51579446 | edited 49 minutes ago by YElm (2020 rep)
@Astralbee He has passed many auditions and exams, but almost none of those result in criticism. The little bit of feedback you get in these auditions is in the format he likes: extensive comments on everything that has gone right, with a small suggestion for possible improvement he generally gets glum about before forgetting about it. — Imperator 1 min ago
#17579 Imperator (339 rep) | A: How to help my friend accept criticism? (score: 20) | posted 26 hours ago by Astralbee (16378 rep) | Toxicity 0.08619614 | edited 22 hours ago by Woodrow Barlow (103 rep)
@Randal'Thor - everyone knows that Rand doesn't know anything about girls. Min definitely controls the hell out of him — Andrew Alexander 7 secs ago
#17505 Andrew Alexander (101 rep) | Q: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 54) | posted 4 days ago by Pickle (282 rep) | Toxicity 0.46095464 | edited 2 days ago by Em C (8561 rep)
 
5:45 PM
@Cashbee The title was my wording from a now deleted comment, and probably more appropriate as a body - I didn't intend it as a title, anyways. As for disclaimers: I think that's precisely why "recommended" isn't a good idea in the title here. "Are there any suggested question structures?", perhaps, to make it clear there's no single right way and that it's only a suggestion. — Cascabel 47 secs ago
#3211 Cascabel (1407 rep) | Q: What is the recommended question structure? (score: 1) | posted 8 days ago by ElizB (1245 rep) | Toxicity NoKey | edited 4 hours ago by ElizB (1245 rep)
Looking at the definition of both recommended and suggested, I realize what you mean. Edited to take that into account. — ElizB 1 min ago
#3211 ElizB (1245 rep) | Q: Are there any suggested question structures? (score: 1) | posted 8 days ago by ElizB (1245 rep) | Toxicity NoKey | edited 1 minutes ago by ElizB (1245 rep)
 
Is there any literature on people taking years to "recharge their batteries"? I have an ex-wife who behaved in exactly the same way (started off working, gradually cut down, didn't do work around the house, played games till hours of the night, etc), I let it slide (not sure I could have done otherwise) and it didn't end well. I don't think that this is something that Jane is just going to spontaneously recover from after enough rest. — DaveG 37 secs ago
#17609 DaveG (1354 rep) | A: How can I talk with my friend about her burn out problems when I disagree with some things she says? (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by YElm (2020 rep) | Toxicity 0.12180629 | edited 1 hours ago by YElm (2020 rep)
As mentioned in the answer, I only know from first-hand talk about therapy. I'm afraid finding literature that explains psycholological issues in an easy way we (as non-proffessionals) can comprehend is hard. I'm also absolutely sure that you couldn't have stopped the decline of your ex-wife. This kind of change always has to come from within, anything else is just pressure that doesn't help. — YElm 45 secs ago
#17609 YElm (2020 rep) | A: How can I talk with my friend about her burn out problems when I disagree with some things she says? (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by YElm (2020 rep) | Toxicity 0.11208467 | edited 1 hours ago by YElm (2020 rep)
@axsvl77. Bacon's a bit different though. — Mad Physicist 35 secs ago
#17551 Mad Physicist (101 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 19) | posted 2 days ago by axsvl77 (883 rep) | Toxicity 0.12970015 | edited 39 hours ago by axsvl77 (883 rep)
@YElm I'm thinking that if Jane is actually suffering some form of chemical imbalance or depression or chronic fatigue syndrome etc, doing nothing is going to be very bad for her. I simply don't believe that it takes a decade to recover from burnout. And in this particular case, Jane is mid-20s. She hasn't had kids or raised a family or worked multiple jobs. — DaveG 1 min ago
#17609 DaveG (1354 rep) | A: How can I talk with my friend about her burn out problems when I disagree with some things she says? (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by YElm (2020 rep) | Toxicity 0.07640936 | edited 1 hours ago by YElm (2020 rep)
 
6:22 PM
@DaveG Excuse me if this sounds rude, but 1. The comments should be used to suggest improvements to the answer, not for discussions. 2. Jane isn't doing nothing. She is doing therapy. 3. If you don't believe something, I encourage you to research. You could even do that by posting a new question on this site, or maybe at StackExchange Psychology. 4. There are thousands of highschool students suffering from burnout because they are overstrained by school and often addiction to social media. Research is starting to see some alarming numbers. — YElm 39 secs ago
#17609 YElm (2020 rep) | A: How can I talk with my friend about her burn out problems when I disagree with some things she says? (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by YElm (2020 rep) | Toxicity 0.12019503 | edited 1 hours ago by YElm (2020 rep)
I don't know why everyone here is prone to provide you with some solution. It is very simple, you have to let go such a trivial thing. Why you want to look like neurotic or dust free maniac? Urgh! it is age of touch screen. — ubi hatt 1 min ago
#17573 ubi hatt (101 rep) | Q: How can I prevent people from touching my laptop screen with their finger? (score: 9) | posted 29 hours ago by Supreme Grand Ruler (761 rep) | Toxicity 0.6106054 | edited 29 hours ago by Supreme Grand Ruler (761 rep)
"Some even encourage families in the company" -- to clarify, I don't think you're talking about nepotism, but to encourage making a family with someone else in the company — Nic Hartley 1 min ago
#17607 Nic Hartley (105 rep) | A: Asking out an intern at close of internship (score: 7) | posted 7 hours ago by WoJ (1716 rep) | Toxicity 0.20929782 | edited 6 hours ago by WoJ (1716 rep)
 
 
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7:28 PM
+1 because I agree with all that you said, especially the outcome is not up to Thomas. Besides praying with each of them the only other practical thought I had for Thomas is to offer to babysit for Bob and Alice so they can have undistracted time together. — Laura 44 secs ago
Matched regex(es) ["chatty", "+1"]
This question is a "What should I do?" question- we can't answer this accurately because there are too many different opinions on what should be done. Please edit to narrow down your question to an achievable interpersonal goal, and we can work from there. — ElizB 1 min ago
 
7:58 PM
Side note: FWIW I'm assuming from OP's mention that they are about the same age that there is not a risky power-dynamic, etc. If there is that increases the risk. You always have to tread carefully until you know whether your attention falls on the side of wanted or not wanted! — elrobis 18 secs ago
#17617 elrobis (233 rep) | A: Asking out an intern at close of internship (score: 0) | posted 2 minutes ago by elrobis (233 rep) | Toxicity 0.059445094
 
8:19 PM
@NicHartley: yes this is what I meant. Either making a family with someone currently employed or having people from the same family apply. I will update my answer with your comment (sorry, I am not a native speaker and some subtleties sometimes go above my head) — WoJ 54 secs ago
#17607 WoJ (1736 rep) | A: Asking out an intern at close of internship (score: 9) | posted 8 hours ago by WoJ (1736 rep) | Toxicity 0.0649451 | edited 9 seconds ago by WoJ (1736 rep)
 
8:48 PM
I would bold the comment that you still need to find out if she's interested in getting physical after getting her upstairs. I agree it can come off as robotic and blunt to just invite her up to have sex and that a slower seduction that allows her to gracefully exit without outright rejecting you is best. Just make sure you don't try to ask her up for tea and then just take liberties with her now that you're in private. Still be extremely respectful of her bodily autonomy. — William Grobman 1 min ago
#17551 William Grobman (228 rep) | A: Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy (score: 23) | posted 2 days ago by axsvl77 (923 rep) | Toxicity 0.39549804 | edited 42 hours ago by axsvl77 (923 rep)
Matched regex(es) ["chatty"]
This is a great answer (+1)! But I have one question: Your suggestion is pretty good, but is there maybe something that Bob could do, too? You know, just that he does something to (so that Alice doesn't think that she is apologizes and Bob “ignores“ it). — current_user 26 secs ago
#17618 current_user (112 rep) | A: How do I help break the ice between Alice and Bob after past drama? (score: 1) | posted 10 minutes ago by BFG95 (1807 rep) | Toxicity 0.12174381
You original wording was more than acceptable; context made it fairly clear. I'm just always paranoid about accidentally misinforming someone who's just skimming. — Nic Hartley 50 secs ago
#17607 Nic Hartley (105 rep) | A: Asking out an intern at close of internship (score: 10) | posted 9 hours ago by WoJ (1746 rep) | Toxicity 0.33529747 | edited 31 minutes ago by WoJ (1746 rep)
Bob can choose to accept the apology or not, as well as choose to forgive Alice. Judging from one of your previous examples of Alice's behavior, Bob seems forgiving. But you can't expect him to accept the apology or to forgive Alice, which is something she must be prepared for. — BFG95 32 secs ago
#17618 BFG95 (1807 rep) | A: How do I help break the ice between Alice and Bob after past drama? (score: 1) | posted 16 minutes ago by BFG95 (1807 rep) | Toxicity 0.147525
 

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