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3:40 AM
You didn't mention a specific interaction situation so I gave a generalized answer. I think it would be helpful to expand your question. — Alex Cannon 2 mins ago
#26953 Alex Cannon (224 rep) | Q: How do I meet someone? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Ben (11 rep) | Toxicity 0.09264319 | tps/fps: 0/0
 
4:13 AM
this whole answer is just "your religion is wrong" without knowing the person's religion. It contains nothing about how to meet someone which is the (overly broad and unspecified) question that was asked. — Kate Gregory 6 secs ago
#26954 Kate Gregory (41688 rep) | A: How do I meet someone? (score: 0) | posted 42 minutes ago by Alex Cannon (224 rep) | Toxicity 0.31089434 | tps/fps: 0/0
 
4:26 AM
@KateGregory Yes this is true as far as my answer being valid for other users of this site, which is the actual purpose of this forum. But I believe my answer is quite relevant and valid as a response to this specific person who is asking, and others with this specific conflict situation. The problem is really in the question, being very vague and having conflicting requirements. The bulk of my answer is about how they cannot obtain what they expect. Once that issue is settled, the rest is fairly simple, and I didn't think it really needed to be explained. — Alex Cannon 2 mins ago
#26954 Alex Cannon (224 rep) | A: How do I meet someone? (score: 0) | posted 55 minutes ago by Alex Cannon (224 rep) | Toxicity 0.14947665 | tps/fps: 0/0
Rather than it being that my answer is about their religion being wrong, I think it would be better to say that my answer is mostly about their question being a demand for something that cannot be achieved, which is to meet someone, but at the same time, have it be God's leading, which in most cases means that you're not allowed to meet others because it might interfere with God's leading. I can extend my answer when the OP decides to share more details. — Alex Cannon 2 mins ago
#26954 Alex Cannon (224 rep) | A: How do I meet someone? (score: 0) | posted 59 minutes ago by Alex Cannon (224 rep) | Toxicity 0.1713342 | tps/fps: 0/0
 
4:52 AM
Assuming this involves Christianity, maybe this should be reposted on the Christianity stack exchange. However, the basic situation, which is how can I meet someone, but at the same time tell them that I'm not supposed to meet anyone because it could interfere with God's leading, would belong here as far as I know. — Alex Cannon 1 min ago
#26953 Alex Cannon (222 rep) | Q: How do I meet someone? (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by Ben (11 rep) | Toxicity 0.15483943 | tps/fps: 0/0
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5:02 AM
"The problem is really in the question, being very vague and having conflicting requirements": it's all said... So my question is: why answer too broad a question, with no clear goal, lacking details, and not really involving interpersonal skills as per IPS requirements? And, second point (but not a question, just an opinion), no, it won't help other readers, as this is a non-answer to a non-question, so it's not what this stack expects :/ — OldPadawan 1 min ago
#26954 OldPadawan (20128 rep) | A: How do I meet someone? (score: -1) | posted 1 hours ago by Alex Cannon (222 rep) | Toxicity 0.15418184 | tps/fps: 0/0
 
 
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Starting at rev db53379 on branch master (Merge pull request #43 from thesecretmaster/scohe-dumpLink feedbacks to users among many many other things (per #28))
Starting at rev db53379 on branch master (Merge pull request #43 from thesecretmaster/scohe-dumpLink feedbacks to users among many many other things (per #28))
 
 
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2:34 PM
Hi there, and welcome! Answers on this stack should not be just a suggestion or thoughts, but they should explain why and how the suggested approach would work. How could this approach help OP achieve their goal? We expect answers to be backed up with either personal experience or literature citations, as described here and How to Answer. Feel free to reach us if you have any questions :) — OldPadawan 2 mins ago
#26955 OldPadawan (20129 rep) | A: How to ask parents to stop screaming at other sibling? (score: 0) | posted 56 minutes ago by MajorLobo (9 rep) | Toxicity 0.034567554 | tps/fps: 0/0
 
2:47 PM
There's a lot of info that would be helpful. A location tag would help understand the culture - different cultures respond differently to death. Are you close? Different cultures also have power differentials between student/professor. I suspect this will be closed as a phrasing request so I'd also suggest defining a course of action and then getting help on that. — baldPrussian 26 secs ago
#26956 baldPrussian (31774 rep) | Q: How to respond to email about terminally ill family member (score: 0) | posted 14 minutes ago by Scruffy (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.14984642 | tps/fps: 0/0
 
3:00 PM
Thank you @baldPrussian. I edited my question. I also added a location tag and removed the email tag. I'm new to this site so if I need to edit further, please let me know! — Scruffy 2 mins ago
#26956 Scruffy (1 rep) | Q: How to respond to my school advisor about his terminally ill family member (score: 0) | posted 26 minutes ago by Scruffy (1 rep) | edited 4 minutes ago by Scruffy (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.13695665 | tps/fps: 0/0
Hey Scruffy! Nice edit, I've got a few more questions: Did he tell you about this problem over e-mail? If you were to e-mail, what would you write? If you were to call, what would you say? Do you have his 'work' mail/number and would you be using that, or a personal mail/number? — Tinkeringbell ♦ 12 secs ago
#26956 Tinkeringbell (32467 rep) | Q: How to respond to my school advisor about his terminally ill family member (score: 0) | posted 33 minutes ago by Scruffy (1 rep) | edited 3 minutes ago by OldPadawan (20129 rep) | Toxicity 0.098604135 | tps/fps: 0/0
Hi Scruffy. I've too made a pretty heavy edit in order to remove the "should I" parts. Like @baldPrussian mentioned, it could still be closed as off-topic anyway, I don't know if my best will be enough and save this post :) Please feel free to edit again or rollback. — OldPadawan 1 min ago
#26956 OldPadawan (20129 rep) | Q: How to respond to my school advisor about his terminally ill family member (score: 0) | posted 33 minutes ago by Scruffy (1 rep) | edited 3 minutes ago by OldPadawan (20129 rep) | Toxicity 0.32496837 | tps/fps: 0/0
Thank you @OldPadawan! Your edit expresses what I'm asking very well. — Scruffy 15 secs ago
#26956 Scruffy (1 rep) | Q: How to respond to my school advisor about his terminally ill family member (score: 0) | posted 37 minutes ago by Scruffy (1 rep) | edited 7 minutes ago by OldPadawan (20129 rep) | Toxicity 0.12291635 | tps/fps: 0/0
Oops! I just overrode that edit. Because I think this can be better as a question of etiquette, since the expected behavior around these things is pretty well formalized into unwritten rules by society. Also, this removes the 'what should I say' aspect from the question, and focuses more on the 'what action would be appropriate'. — Tinkeringbell ♦ 2 mins ago
#26956 Tinkeringbell (32467 rep) | Q: What is the proper etiquette for when someone you're not very close with is dealing with a terminally ill family member? (score: 0) | posted 41 minutes ago by Scruffy (1 rep) | edited 3 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (32467 rep) | Toxicity
@Tinkeringbell, due to COVID, we've been virtual all year. As I started grad school at the beginning of this year, most of our communication has been via email, with some interaction over the phone, as well as Zoom and the like. He communicated this to me over email. Either way, I would be contacting him via his 'work' mail/number. I think that a call by nature would allow me to get a bit more personal, but that may be unwanted at this time. If I email him, I would probably express a similar message, but it would be easier for him to ignore if he wishes to do so now. — Scruffy 58 secs ago
#26956 Scruffy (1 rep) | Q: What is the proper etiquette for when someone you're not very close with is dealing with a terminally ill family member? (score: 0) | posted 45 minutes ago by Scruffy (1 rep) | edited 7 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (32467 rep) | Toxicity 0.08911883 | t
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3:32 PM
So, if you really hate it though, feel free to roll back. If you though, I would advise you pick at least some things you'd like to say to him, write down why you think those might be uncomfortably personal, just to keep out the what to say a bit more (Sorry it took so long, had something interrupt the writing of this comment, it goes with the previous one) — Tinkeringbell ♦ 2 mins ago
#26956 Tinkeringbell (32467 rep) | Q: What is the proper etiquette for when someone you're not very close with is dealing with a terminally ill family member? (score: 0) | posted 58 minutes ago by Scruffy (1 rep) | edited 20 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (32467 rep) | Toxicit
Thank you for your thoughtful response! I like the idea of a sympathy card as well. — Scruffy 2 mins ago
#26957 Scruffy (1 rep) | A: What is the proper etiquette for when someone you're not very close with is dealing with a terminally ill family member? (score: 0) | posted 13 minutes ago by baldPrussian (31774 rep) | Toxicity 0.03763922 | tps/fps: 0/0
 

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