My ex is the only serious relationship I've had. We are still friends to the point that we want to be in each other lives.
She lives in a different city with her current girlfriend. Her bestfriend from school also lives in the same city, I too am friends with her but predominately through my ex.
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Personally, I have no problem with being asked for help. However, that's only because when I say 'nah, sorry, I don't know' (which is 50% of the time), I don't get any push-back.
People assuming developers can help with computers isn't the problem.
People asking for help and then getting mad when you're unable to help is the problem.
(Actually, I remember reading a SE post about this... shouldn't that question be closed as duplicate?)
@Sarov Meh. I decided against it because this one was explicitly asking for 'what to say' and I don't want to taint that old question further (it's already not the best example wrt including what you've tried and such)
@Sarov Yeah. But you help once and then people keep thinking they can ask you... but you're right, it's more a general matter of people not accepting no for an answer, for whatever reason.
My suggestion - the first time someone asks for help, say no. "Sorry, too busy right now" or "I think I fixed that before but don't remember how". If they really need help, they'll ask again later (depending on how you phrase the 'no'), but you've already set the tone that 'no' should be an expectable response.
Chaotic... I think I have as much mental capability as the dementor at this moment. Things to do, things to keep track of, things to organize... but only two weeks more, and I'll be in my own apartment, keeping quiet and pretending I don't exist.
