The Awkward Silence

Sarov

3:25 AM

Crustaceans are basically the insects of the sea.

Tinkeringbell

6:30 AM

morning :)

CaldeiraG

7:39 AM

morning :P

IPS Comment Bot

8:11 AM

Point 1 is right on. Point 2 is incorrect. It does help. Bottling up about things that bother you is not being kind to yourself. — reinierpost 27 secs ago

avazula

8:24 AM

@IPSCommentBot tp

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Tinkeringbell

8:51 AM

Woohoo!

in Tavern on the Meta on Meta Stack Exchange Chat, 1 min ago, by Tinkeringbell

Gifts are always fun ;)

Criggie

I spy those liquorice lolly things.... RUN AWAY!!!!!

I have prior experience of those

Tinkeringbell

Huh? There's no liquorice, or lollies :P

@Criggie You'll love the latest Dutch invention then... 'chocodrop'. Liquorice hidden within chocolate :P

Criggie

okay 0 I thought the lower right corner Borrel Nootjes were

errr - I'd rather not, thanks.

Tinkeringbell

@Criggie Hahaha nope, those are peanuts with a sort of crunchy, spicy coating?

Criggie

Here, have some marmite instead

Tinkeringbell

8:54 AM

I never tried marmite. So my mom would say I am not yet allowed to judge :P

Criggie

We sent some marmite to our office in Austin Texas USA, and someone thought it was like nutella, and globbed a spoonful into their mouth

plonker

Tinkeringbell

Oops XD

I at least know enough to not try that ;)

Criggie

So the jar stayed there for years and noone would go near it.

We had a staffer who travelled there regularly and reported on the state of the marmite jar

Dunno what happened when the office closed - presume it was binned.

Tinkeringbell

Hahaha that sounds quite likely ;)

IPS Comment Bot

You're right about me editing the question. But I've done it in order to add more context so that people don't see the question as it being related to an employer. The only context of an employer here is that these people that walk up to my desk are my work colleagues. Professional matters is a very broad term IMO that encompasses official matters as well. But there is no "official" context about this question. At least I edited the question hoping to add that context more clearly. It's more like a personal project. — Mugen 2 mins ago

#18661 Mugen (1869 rep) | A: How do you deal with colleagues, acquaintances asking you for knowledge that you gained with months of effort? (score: 81) | posted 942 days ago by Astralbee (26873 rep) | edited 933 days ago by Astralbee (26873 rep) | Toxicity 0.10880844 | Comment on inacti

I would still disagree with the example of Stach Exchange because of two reasons. (1) You're answering a stranger's question. (2) You are earning badges / karma points that is always displayed on your profile. This allows you to unlock mod privileges and other privileges on the site which isn't there in real life. Contrast this with real life where a snobbish colleague walks up to your desk, or somoene who hides answers from you when you have queries or someone who's contempt for others is so strong you can sense it immediately. I sense there's a cultural gap over here. I'm not from the US... — Mugen 1 min ago

#18661 Mugen (1869 rep) | A: How do you deal with colleagues, acquaintances asking you for knowledge that you gained with months of effort? (score: 81) | posted 942 days ago by Astralbee (26873 rep) | edited 933 days ago by Astralbee (26873 rep) | Toxicity 0.26441503 | Comment on inacti

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... where people are a lot more professional inside the workplace. I'm from an Asian country. Over here when someone looks down on others it really shows out loud in their mannerisms. When they gossip, it's loud so the person concerned can even hear it. But HRs and law are weak. When I say "with someone who's not interested in making a connection with me" - that just skims the surface. The question isn't about whether I should share information or not because that would depend a lot on the context which is what we're discussing. Perhaps only those who have worked in Asia might get it. — Mugen 2 mins ago

#18661 Mugen (1869 rep) | A: How do you deal with colleagues, acquaintances asking you for knowledge that you gained with months of effort? (score: 81) | posted 942 days ago by Astralbee (26873 rep) | edited 933 days ago by Astralbee (26873 rep) | Toxicity 0.2483596 | Comment on inactiv

CaldeiraG

10:11 AM

@Tinkeringbell nom nom

Tinkeringbell

11:13 AM

@CaldeiraG Definitely! It's rare to get a package where you like every single thing in it!

IPS Comment Bot

I think sandwiching feedback doesn't let you come out of this situation. If I like something and others wrap their opinion around and around until I understand "well there could be one thing I like better" then I'd think fine, let's keep doing it. On the other hand I know situations when my opinion should be other's opinion. It costs a little courage but did you try to ask back "which opinion would you like to hear - mine or yours?". — puck 2 mins ago

#26968 puck (1484 rep) | Q: How to provide feedback when my mother tries new recipes, in a way that doesn't upset her but still allows for honesty? (score: 1) | posted 18 hours ago by Tinkeringbell (32527 rep) | Toxicity 0.09141534 | tps/fps: 0/0

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M.A.R.

11:32 AM

Workplace on Fridays v.redd.it/9mteip93kgu61

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How to support acquaintances financially?

I have two kindergarden age children and the acquaintances are parents of the other children. I frequently meet them on the playground and there is friendly chatter. People talk about life and their jobs, so approximate financial backgrounds are known and vary widely. My wife and I both have fair...

Extroverted Main Man

11:58 AM

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Q: Dealing with a problem Forum user without driving them away

I'm one of the moderators of a users forum (Forum X) dedicated to a single software product. We have 5 moderators; and 2 of us including me are also Forum Admins. (I'm also a moderator of a Stack Exchange site, but am posting anonymously here; the forum I'm discussing has very different norms wh...

online-interaction

CaldeiraG

12:21 PM

@Tinkeringbell yea :P

IPS Comment Bot

1:05 PM

I'm sorry that my actual, lived experience differs from your idea of how your actual, lived experience generalises to other people. Also, the question asked here is not whether it is a good idea to keep bugging a coworker with your romantic feelings, but whether it is a good idea to let the coworker know at all. — reinierpost 2 mins ago

avazula

@IPSCommentBot nope

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avazula

dur dur dur

You can't take a joke bot can you

@IPSCommentBot tp

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Tinkeringbell

@avazula It would be scary if it could... turing tests and all that stuff.

Sarov

1:17 PM

@Tinkeringbell Holy crap want.

Tinkeringbell

@Sarov Amazon.nl sells them amazon.nl/Venco-Chocodrop-Wit-Salmiak-gram/dp/B08WQ1494V/… but I don't know if they ship to your place :P

Sarov

S'okay. We have chocolate-covered jujubes.

Tinkeringbell

@Sarov Googling jujubes gives me two things: One is more fruit-gummy like, the other is a kind of black liquorice looking candy... which one is it? :D

Sarov

The former. They're basically, like, extra-gummy gummies.

Tinkeringbell

Covering those in chocolate sounds very nice :D

Soak them in booze first? :P

Sarov

1:29 PM

I'm a teetotaler.

Tinkeringbell

Ah, then I definitely need to soak them in booze first, so I can have all them :P

Sarov

Hah.

But yeah... jujubes best candy. Oreos best cookie.

Journeyman Geek

@Sarov double or single stuff?

Sarov

I don't know if I've ever had double... .Had peanut butter oreo though, that was good.

Tinkeringbell

@Sarov Have to disagree on the Oreos. The best cookies are 'paaskippen'

Sarov

1:33 PM

...Chickens?

Tinkeringbell

@Sarov Yep, a type of cookie that's usually only in store around Easter: hema.nl/dw/image/v2/BBRK_PRD/on/demandware.static/-/…

Sarov

Huh. Never had, cannot comment.

Translates to 'Easter chickens'.

Tinkeringbell

Yep, that's their name :D

We Dutch people are very original when it comes to naming things ;)

Sarov

snorts.

Tinkeringbell

"New Amsterdam", "New Zeeland" XD

Sarov

1:36 PM

Oh that kinda thing is everywhere.
And it's still beat by...

Newfoundland.

Tinkeringbell

Hahaha

Sarov

(Pronounced 'new-fund-lend')

Tinkeringbell

I like Newfoundland, that's a good name for it ;)

@Sarov Ugh, yeah. Don't ask me how to pronounce things in English XD

Sarov

How to pronounce things in English?

Tinkeringbell

Yeah ;) I can read English very well, type it almost as well, follow along with most talks/shows without trouble... but I CAN NOT speak out loud XD

Sarov

1:42 PM

english.stackexchange.com/questions/4510/… :P

I can not speak it aloud too!

Tinkeringbell

Huh, I thought two words was fine too

Sarov

Depends who you ask, to a point. Cannot is generally preferred, though.

Cannot is unambiguous whereas can not is ambiguous between 'cannot' and a literal 'can avoid doing.'

Tinkeringbell

I think using 'cannot' would've earned me lower grades on English tests, just like we had to always write 'I am' instead of 'I'm', 'is not, does not' instead of isn't/doesn't... (unless the test was specifically about using contractions).

Sarov

It's not actually a contraction, though. It's a portmanteau, basically.

Like thereof or therein.

Only way more commonly used.

Tinkeringbell

XD Well there you go, while my words are fancy it shows I don't understand the basics of the language to a point where I can accurately talk about them :P

Sarov

1:49 PM

Oh, hardly anyone does. English is awful. :P

'English doesn't borrow words from other languages... It mugs them in dark alleys then rifles through their clothes looking for lose grammar.'

Journeyman Geek

loose vocabulary

Ënglish is not a language, it is 3 languages under a large trenchcoat"

Sarov

loose grammar, is how I've heard it.

(The 'lose' was a typo)

Journeyman Geek

English steals vocabulary

Sarov

English steals everything.

Arthur Hv

Languages historically live and hybrid themselves, but we live in a special time in terms of communication

I suspect English will steal a lot more than it did

avazula

2:03 PM

@Tinkeringbell I remember to find your outspoken English to be very good though

CaldeiraG

@avazula you can still use pewpew :P

@IPSCommentBot pewpew

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Tinkeringbell

2:23 PM

@avazula You must be misremembering :P

lila

3:56 PM

hi

Tinkeringbell

hey

lila

Oh a new avatar! Welcome to the Aw... I am already annoying, amn't I? :(

Tinkeringbell

don't worry. You already were before I changed avatars :P

Mithical

4:49 PM

Ouch. Shots fired?

Tinkeringbell

Too much ouch? It was a joke, please don't be mad at me lila! If anything, it just proves I am still more annoying than you ;)

lila

Haha no, I am not mad, I was busy on the Q&A, and I know I am annoying, why would I be mad at the statement? ^.^ The beauty of semi-synchronous communication, where anything that drives your attention away from the chat could be interpreted as being mad :D

M.A.R.

5:15 PM

No I'm more annoyinger

Tinkeringbell

@lila Hahaha well, to be fair it could've been anything, for all I know you were in a corner crying! Glad to know that wasn't the case though ;)

@M.A.R. You can always be the annoyingest.

M.A.R.

\o/

+2000 XP

Sarov

5:54 PM

@Tinkeringbell Why do people always cry in corners? Why not just in the middle of a room?

Tinkeringbell

@Sarov Because if you put your back against the wall/corners, it at least feels a bit like someone is supporting you :P

Sarov

Why not a wall then?

Tinkeringbell

Because 'against the wall' has other implied connotations ;)

Sarov

shakes fist at corners

Extroverted Main Man

6:20 PM

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Q: How to respond when a teacher is very obviously biased

In my situation, our school had us talk about racial justice and the teacher asked everybody to be respectful and have an open mind. He then presented a slideshow (Fairly sure it wasn’t made by him), which he explained in a very biased way (not biased as in false information, but biased as in exp...

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M.A.R.

6:42 PM

laughs at the corner

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