I met someone over 2 years ago and she is almost everything that I want in a girl. I always feel happy and comfortable being with her and I admire her for the person that she is. However I have noticed that my physical attraction towards her has decreased substantially to the point where I don’t ...
This is good. I'd suggest being the one to make the first communication and explain rather than allowing the recruiter to make the first communication regarding a missed interview. — baldPrussian2 mins ago
I am working over a year in the financial industry, big corporate in graduate scheme.
I have a group of friends, I sometimes sit with them over a coffee at break times; not so close but good rapport I can say. I saw them outside and we were smoking and having chit chat. Then a girl from other dep...
@Sarov Major distraction over at MSE... but in essence, law.stackexchange.com/help/on-topic seems to me that 'is what I did harassment' would fall under legal advice which law doesn't do :)
I kind of already know this, that there are two spheres: sacrum and profanum.
Haha not that much, just two instances of a-word :D
But profanation is making something profane, and if there are only two spheres, then you could only profane something that is sacred, and this would be a huge disrespect to the sacred object, so profanation is a serious thing (I hope my reasoning makes sense).
It is like the word "unholy" that just means "not holy", but it is used to indicate something horrific, diabolical and evil. I think it is because the "un-" prefix indicates that the object is not simply not holy, but that it had once been holy, then it has been UN-done and the downgrading process itself made it much more disturbing. It is like the Devil who once was an angel named Lucifer, but fell from grace.
Yay! Good job :D Now, part b: Give me 5 words that are 'in the middle'. So something that's betwwn short and tall, something that's between heavy and light...
The Interpersonal Skills thing is to realize that people often talk using these polarizations, or in terms of 'either for us or against us'. And to realize yourself that there may very well be a more moderate term to use at times :D
The holy/unholy shows the same polarization. Something is either holy or its opposite: unholy.
Haha no, I even took the time to open new tab in attempt to cheat a little :D that moment I think it clicked what you mean; I am looking more and it is also known as "fallacy of false dilemma".
@Anonys Yeah, I've been on the wrong end of that and I think part of the complaint was someone being mad at me. Things that one person would take as a joke can be interpreted as harassment by someone else. And a third party who accidently hears the interaction can feel harassed as well. don't get me started... things needed to change (badly) but... — baldPrussian2 mins ago
That's actually something I'm learning to get better at for code reviews. "That's not how I would do it but it's not an objectively bad approach" vs "That's not the correct way".
@Tinkeringbell What I meant was also a little more than this: for example in fantasy you have a living being that dies and is then dead - but an entity usually known as necromancer could "undo" this state of being dead, but not really, and it is called undead - to indicate that the being had already died, but it's state of being dead has been undone.
However, it is not in between of alive and dead, but rather a different state, being alive is lost forever for this object, it could only come back to being dead.
@Sarov Yeah, that's one time those skills come in handy ;) I'm working on a code base with some coworkers, but we don't have any formal coding standards. Most of our reviews go that way.
And undead beings are usually just empty shells without their own will, or are controlled by evil spirits; un-doing the state of being dead is unnatural and has a lot of implied side-effects: that undead beings are usually actively harmful for live beings.
@lila Ah! I never looked at holy/unholy that way.... It was mostly presented as an either/or thing when I grew up. I also can't easily thing of a thing that's between 'holy' and 'unholy'.... In the 'undead' example, you basically have 'alive', the opposite, 'dead', and something in between: something not alive, but also no longer dead (undead).
@lila In this case I would think the meaning of the prefix 'un' is specifically 'no longer'. You don't 'unfreeze' iron. You melt it. Because it was never frozen in the first place.
@Sarov Oh interesting point! But the important detail is, he was resurrected by a holy being: the God himself, so it is an actual change from dead to alive. A necromancer has a much lesser power, and could at most return a being from being dead into undead, which is wicked and wretched imitation of being alive.
When things get weird is when you try to apply the 'un' prefix to the middle-ground. What does unmundane mean? It used to be mundane, and now it's either holy or unholy?
I know that there is a concept in electronics (sorry for simplifying or butchering the idea, I am uneducated at this) that you have a signal that is either on (1) or off (0), and some components that are taking signals in and giving signals out based on these that went in. And sometimes you could get a prediction of signals out, even if one of the "in" signals was unknown or undefined.
So the "unknown" or "undefined" is like a third state.
If you reverse the on (1) then you get off (0) and vice versa. But if you attempt to reverse the "unknown" signal, then it no longer makes sense; it doesn't create a fourth state, because ununknown is just either on or off: one of the initial two states.
@Tinkeringbell Hmm, maybe? I don't know, sorry, I know this from watching some simplified popular science video long ago.
And my point is, mundane is in between of holy and unholy, it is a "third" state in between, but unmundane makes no sense and isn't a "fourth" state, it just makes no sense.
@M.A.R. "you coccyx", do you mean "you the final segment of the vertebral column in all apes, and analogous structures in certain other mammals such as horses; in tailless primates it is the remnant of a vestigial tail"? Haha I am impressed you know Latin names of bones that well to make this joke, I had to cheat with Wikipedia to get it :D
Haha you reminded me about a thing, there is a blog in Polish that tells anecdotes of a pharmacist. Many are confusion of medication names with Polish words so it would lose all meaning upon translation, but some are universal. My favourite is "good afternoon, one stool sample please" (the person wanted a container for stool sample) :D
Gaslighting is one of those things that becomes a logical trap for both the abused (they can look deluded, without physical evidence, which can lead to further manipulation) and also for a falsely-accused abuser (“I’m not gaslighting you!” is exactly the sort of thing a gaslighter would say!) Wha...
I had always been thinking that "gaslighting" comes from the act of pouring gasoline over something and then setting it on fire, but just a short time ago I learnt that "gaslighting" comes from gas lights, in other words gas-powered lamps. Husband was secretly tampering with gas lamps in home and artificially dimming them on purpose, then convincing his wife that they aren't dimmed and purposefully denying other things to slowly drive her insane.
I’m saying goodbye to a client contact that my colleague and I have been closely working with albeit only for several months. The client contact has been a tremendous inspiration to me as she is not only a great person but also very skilful.
This is what I had written and keen to get your thought...
