The Awkward Silence

8:41 AM

morning

A J

Afternoon!

Hoppa! Standup in 7 minutes XD

(then spent another 7 chitchatting but hey, small goals ;) )

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impressive

3 hours later…

Arthur Hv

11:56 AM

Enjoying my day off

12:16 PM

Oooh, that sounds good!

What are you doing? :D

A J

Enjoying the day off I guess. :P

(bad joke)

Okayyy... I'll rephrase :P Are you doing anything special to make it extra enjoyable?

Arthur Hv

12:45 PM

I woke up at 11:30 roughly, that will be about it

I'm probably going to read some this afternoon

Turned out my psychology book if full of stuff I can't make sense of

So I'll try to read Dune instead :p

Aww :( But Dune sounds like a good alternative :)

4 hours later…

4:24 PM

heyo

Q: How do I explain to my ex-girlfriend that she's not entitled to certain things now that we're just friends?

4:49 PM

hey!

Extroverted Main Man

5:35 PM

Background: Let's call her Sarah. I broke up with her a few months ago. We share a dog, who I bought, who we agreed will stay with me for a while (1 or 2 weeks) and with her for a while. She suggested we continue to be friends and I agreed. But now I feel I need her to know there are boundaries n...

relationships boundaries breakups ex-girlfriend

5 hours later…

10:34 PM

@ExtrovertedMainMan It looks like she either or both: still has strong feelings for you, or wants the privileges coming from being in a relationship with you. If you, as you admit yourself, are bad at saying "no" and establishing healthy boundaries, then I am definitely sure that she is perfectly aware of it to the point that she could intuitively press on your specific emotional triggers in a way that benefits her, or at least makes you feel guilty of any behavior that she doesn't like.

10:53 PM

And the fact that she cries once confronted with circumstances that she doesn't like, or is otherwise uncomfortable with, suggests me that she has yet to develop a fully mature personality that facilitates having healthy arguments with other people. I don't really blame her, I guess she is probably just inexperienced in forming healthy, mutually-beneficial relationships and is just practicing the behavior that enabled things to go her way in the past.

I don't have an answer to your question, but one thing I suggest that would benefit you, her and the dog, is to officially establish who exc…

Criggie

@lila Its confusing, but that's a bot.

Consider posting your replies as an answer on that question, else OP won't see it.

@ExtrovertedMainMan Also, regarding you two being "just friends": are any of your other friends behaving in a way that would make you have similar concerns as you are having about your ex-girlfriend. My guess is not. What would you do if any of them did? My point is, Sarah is said to be your friend but her behavior is not exactly friend-like. Answering these questions for yourself may help you get some perspective. Best wishes for you and Sarah, cheers.

@Criggie Haha thanks, but I know it is a feed/bot and the author of question won't even get notified :D I am just writing this to practice writing IPS answers.

Criggie

all good :)

@Criggie As you can see, what I write isn't really good enough for an actual answer (for first, it doesn't really answer the question) :D

Criggie

I think its a fine answer.