The Awkward Silence

Ælis

3:35 AM

@ankii Well, I'm currently in the middle of an insomnia (it's 4 am), so you are not alone with this issue ><

AGirlHasNoName

@Ælis Good morning/Good Night ?

ankii

3:59 AM

exams test how much we can chug up a night before and how much of it can we retain.

Ælis

4:20 AM

@AGirlHasNoName I guess it's more of a good morning now. I do hope that I will be able to fall back asleep though

avazula

6:18 AM

Morning!

@Ælis yay! So glad to hear that

A J

@avazula Morning!

dhein

Hello everyone, hope you all had a pleasing weekend :)

A J

6:34 AM

I watched the latest episode of Young Sheldon and started watching a new series, The Mandalorian, based on Star Wars. So, it was pretty good.

How about you?

dhein

Oh, that sounds like a geeky hell of relaxed weekend. :) I was to a party (might call it having had a date) with a friend whom I know for a year. The party was great and we got quite close in an emotional sense, I'd say. Overall it was very lovely and even after the 5hours cartrip back from the party we had quite some struggles saying bye '^.^ So my weekend was great, too :)

A J

6:53 AM

@dhein Yeah, I am a movie person as you can see my reputation on Movies & TV. ;)

dhein

7:19 AM

@AJ Yeah, saw your name a few times in the related HNQ's every now and then already even before IPS was founded :D I am myself not so much into movies. I need interaction in actvitys to not bore me. So either it is gaming for the interactive entertainment, or watching movies in company for the social interaction in the meantime :D But as said, glad to hear it was enjoyable :)

A J

:D

Ælis

7:36 AM

@avazula Yeah, I'm thinking "maybe I could have a life?" But it's been so long, I'm not sure what to do with that anymore ^^

avazula

@Ælis you mentioned joining a choir? That could be nice :)

Ælis

7:52 AM

@avazula Oh, I completely forgot about that! Yeah, that could do it! Or finding a place to play board games with other people. Or maybe some benevolent activities (I'm not sure about this last one, it sounds pretty tiring)

CaldeiraG

Morning

o/

@Pseudohuman o/

well that doesn't work

@chumpbot cat?

chumpbot

CaldeiraG

@chumpbot Monday morning face ;p

> That's what I've been saying for $(AGE_OF_BOT)!

Ælis

9:01 AM

So, I just realized I can't post a bounty if someone else is already doing it. I feel cheated on >< (note: this isn't about IPS)

Tinkeringbell

You can do it after that one is awarded :)

Ælis

I was already afraid I would forget to award this one, if I have to wait a week to do that now... well, let's just say that I don't really trust myself on that ^^

Tinkeringbell

Put a note in your calendar ;)

Ælis

Yeah, I might do that ^^

@avazula Every time I see you writing "blblbl" I imagine you making bubble in the water :p

avazula

9:18 AM

@Ælis :D

Ælis

9:52 AM

@ava I think you are going to like my new meta IPS question, but @Tink might not :p

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis Hmm. I'd have to think about it, and look at some stuff like how quickly y'all have been at moderating the existing stuff ;)

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell Oh, you can see that? That's so cool, I want to know!

Introverted Meta Man

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Q: Is it time to increase our number of HNQ question?

As you may know, when returning to HNQ, IPS has decided to limit itself to one HNQ question at a time (source: Let's go back to HNQ!). It has been quite some time now (6 months) and I believe that things are doing fine. In my opinion, all the most recent HNQ questions where handle nicely by the ...

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis I'm not sure if I really can... ;) but we'll see :)

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell Oh, data from CMs, that's even better! * - *

Ælis

10:46 AM

@Rainbacon If you still want to give a bounty to this answer, now seems to be an adequate time :)

Also, after more than 24h with nothing happening on IPS, we finally have some activity \o/ (someone just posted a question)

CaldeiraG

@Ælis That is a looooong answer

Ælis

@CaldeiraG Yeah, definitively, I was scared the first time that I saw it x) But it's also very worth reading :)

CaldeiraG

x)

the new question is not bad at all

Atleast it has a goal "How can I ask this without making them feel defensive?"

Ælis

@CaldeiraG It still needs some editing since there is a primarily opinion based question on it (Am I paranoid?)

CaldeiraG

@Ælis For sure but other than that

Ælis

10:52 AM

It seems fine indeed (well, so far I just read the question to know how on-topic it likely was ^^)

Where is Extroverted Main Man? Are you sleeping???!!!???

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: Two people from small group of friends want to have a "meeting" with me. The circumstances are strange and give me a bad feeling

I have a small group of friends that get together and hangout. Usually we hangout on Fridays. We usually go to the same person's home. One person from this group (call him Bob) contacted me. He said he and one other person from the group (call him Joe) want to have a meeting with me. He said it...

united-states conflict-aversion friend-groups

CaldeiraG

@Ælis There ya go, here now :D

It's Monday, even Main Man is slow :)

Ælis

@ExtrovertedMainMan OP rolledback my change, now I have to close vote the question :(

Ælis

11:19 AM

@ExtrovertedMainMan I feel a bit sad for the OP. The last time something like this happened to me, it was because my "friends" were ditching me :/

Alex Robinson

good morning all! Hope everyone enjoyed their weekends. How are people?

Ælis

Mostly waiting for things to happen ^^ How are you?

CaldeiraG

I'm alright :

Alex Robinson

nice; i am doing better after experiencing a 200% delay on my train into work... a 30 minute journey should not take 90 minutes

CaldeiraG

that sucks

Ælis

11:27 AM

@AlexRobinson Ouch, that's definitively not nice indeed!

Nog Shine

@ankii @AJ Oxygen bar opened in Delhi. 299 for 15 minutes of pure Oxygen.

Alex Robinson

far from ideal lol. But! atleast the day can only go up from here ^^

A J

11:47 AM

@NogShine Read about it a long time ago. :P Besides, I don't live who live there. ;P

CaldeiraG

@NogShine That sounds scary

Tinkeringbell

@AlexRobinson I ran around 50-75 meters this morning, just to have the door shut before my nose :(

So waiting for the next one... that was also delayed for about 10 minutes.

Luckily, the bus was too, so I didn't miss that one :D

user58

12:04 PM

Isn't pure oxygen unsafe to inhale?

JAD

@user58 depends on the pressure

Alex Robinson

@Tinkeringbell damnnn that sucks lol

at atmospheric pressure pure oxygen will make you lightheaded but is largely safe? (don't take my word on this if i'm wrong), but yeah, at higher pressures it becomes very toxic to inhale

chumpbot

12:21 PM

"get mad at me for something" that sounds like you have something in mind already. If that is the case, did you ask if the meeting is about that? — XtremeBaumer 2 mins ago

#23474 XtremeBaumer (3952 rep) | Q: Two people from small group of friends want to have a "meeting" with me. The circumstances are strange and give me a bad feeling (score: 2) | posted 1 hours ago by hectorpepper (21 rep) | edited 56 minutes ago by hectorpepper (21 rep

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Alex Robinson

@chumpbot wrongo

oh wait i need to reply don't i, not just tag

CaldeiraG

12:39 PM

@AlexRobinson You're replying to the bot in the matched regexes message, you should use it on the comment itself like this

@chumpbot fp

chumpbot

Marked this comment as caught incorrectly (fp). Currently marked 0tps/1fps

CaldeiraG

^^

Nog Shine

1:17 PM

@CaldeiraG Yeah

@AJ Yeah. I read about it. I mentioned it here because we talked about Delhi pollution a couple of weeks ago. Many are actually visiting that bar.

Alex Robinson

1:40 PM

one day i will get it right aha

avazula

My heart is crying right now

40

Q: What does this docker log entry mean?

Some minutes ago my computer crashed because apparently my hard drive was full. After booting in recovery mode I then found out that my syslog file in /var/log was 64GB large. I saved the end of the file on another partition and then deleted it. Apparently docker seems to have been the problem be...

18.04 services docker syslog

Canonical screwed up with a docker release that generates gigabytes of log per hour

This is what caused my VM to crash last Friday u_u

#coffeebreak

Alex Robinson

sometimes i generate that much file space when i'm doing video recording... but thats about it lol

avazula

1:56 PM

@AlexRobinson my syslog grew of 100G within the one hour of my lunch break o_o

Alex Robinson

good god

that would fill up my work laptop's hard drive in 4 hours flat

Rainbacon

@avazula Do you have a more permanent fix for it rather than just erasing the logs?

@Ælis Just put up the bounty. Now I have to remember to go back in a few days and award it

avazula

@Rainbacon I uninstalled the snap version of Docker which seems to have calmed things down. We'll see in an hour I guess :p

Alex Robinson

sometimes i wonder how these sorts of things get past QA / testing

Rainbacon

2:11 PM

@AlexRobinson You'd be amazed how many places don't have QA / testing

2

I interviewed for a job last month, when I mentioned testing in the interview, the engineer conducting it mentioned that they'd never written a test in their life.

Also, just because you have a QA process doesn't make it a good one

avazula

there is so much truth in what you just said

Rainbacon

I once worked for a company that had a large set of automated tests. The only problem was that the best tests they had were poorly written. About 40% of the tests failed regularly, and their QA team spent most of their time comparing results of test runs to see which tests changed from passing to failing, because with the amount of tests they had failing, they could only spend time on the "new" failures

Alex Robinson

:o

Ælis

@Rainbacon You will receive a notification 3 days before the end of your bounty. So, if you don't trust your memory, you can always awared it at this moment (that what I didn't with the answer to your question ^^)

Alex Robinson

unrelated note: never keeping my metal water bottle near the laptop again... my water is a horrible temperature lol

Rainbacon

2:15 PM

I did an internship for a company that had 1 QA person. They worked part time (I think 2 days a week) and most of our code went to production without any testing other than from the developer who wrote it

@Ælis Ah, yeah that's a good idea

@AlexRobinson I've been consulting as an engineer for 4 years, and in that time I've seen a lot of things done very wrong. The easiest explanation for how things get to production without being fully tested is that testing takes both time and money. Typically, the people in businesses who have decision making power care about 2 things: how fast can we do this and how little money can we spend on it.

Next thing you know, you're shipping code purely because it compiles

Ælis

@AlexRobinson I honestly feel like most companies don't have QA/testing and that not having it is the norm rather than the exception

Rainbacon

@Ælis My experiences match this

Alex Robinson

makes sense

i'm still kinda new to the world of work and i forget that there is often a large difference between "best practice" and actuality

Ælis

2:32 PM

Yeah, I was shocked to discover the truth after my academic studies. There was really a big gap between what I was taught and what was the actual truth in the industry

Alex Robinson

i work finance and sometimes my jaw still drops at the state of some actual practices

Ælis

I'm not surprised. I have worked with really sensitive data in the past and let just say that they were handled with a lot of careless, IMO

Alex Robinson

within my first week i found an unpaid, overdue invoice worth 7 figures... that was a real shock to the system

Ælis

O-O

avazula

Sometimes I wonder how companies survive

Ælis

2:44 PM

The same as humans, I guess...

Alex Robinson

completely and utterly winging it 25 hours a day?

Rainbacon

@avazula I believe that my current job requires me to answer that question by saying that they hire consultants

*note these views and opinions do not actually reflect those held by Rainbacon

Alex Robinson

in an ideal world my job doesn't need to be full time... in reality there is me and someone else working the job full time because we have to put out fires lol

number of times today a supplier has threatened us with suspension of service: 3

Rainbacon

2:59 PM

@AlexRobinson I think in an ideal world most jobs aren't full time

Alex Robinson

hahaha that is very very true

Rainbacon

3:21 PM

Hmm, i just set up an appointment to get a haircut in the middle of the work day. When did I turn into a functioning human being?

Alex Robinson

that is very efficient... i like actually getting a haircut because i go to a decent place that washes your hair and its a good experience - however i hate booking it lol

avazula

3:36 PM

okay, so ... Mister Ava basically begged me to decorate the Xmas tree tonight

Tinkeringbell

Do it. There's research that people who do so are happier, apparently ;)

avazula

hahaha

He said it's a good thing for Fedora x)

I bet it is, she'll rip every decoration off...

Rainbacon

Mrs Bacon got really excited when we saw trees for sale the other day

I refuse to put up a tree until after Thanksgiving though

avazula

@Rainbacon I usually make mine on December 1st

But every additional year I spend with Mr Ava we set it up even earlier in the year

Tinkeringbell

Here, we'll likely have to wait until after Sinterklaas (December 5th). If mom is going to put it up at all. I have string of lights, I should make work of adding those to my desk ;)

Rainbacon

3:42 PM

When I was little my family would always wait until around December 10-15

avazula

@Tinkeringbell St Nicholas?

@Rainbacon sounds like torture

Rainbacon

It was, but that was back when I actually liked Christmas

Tinkeringbell

@avazula Yep :)

avazula

@Rainbacon oh yeah, you mentioned that before ... what happened, if you don't mind talking about it?

Alex Robinson

christmas prep for me doesn't start until it actually reaches december... if it weren't for halloween, christmas would start in august for some people

avazula

3:46 PM

I don't like Christmas but I actually like having a interior decorated tree (mine is made off plastic but still)

Rainbacon

I started dealing with depression in high school (didn't realize it until I was diagnosed during college), and when you are depressed, the holidays are an awful time because everyone around you is happy, and you know that you're supposed to be happy, and everyone expects you to be happy, but you just aren't

I've mostly overcome my depression now, but the holidays I spent with depression have left me unable to really enjoy them even now

avazula

@Rainbacon oh ... I understand. I'm sorry you had to go through this.

Something will be different this year though ... it'll be your first Xmas with your wife (at least, as a married couple) ... maybe it'll help lighten your mood (I hope so) :)

Rainbacon

@avazula Thank you. I'm just glad that it is mostly in the past

Yeah, maybe. She's already started with the music

avazula

@Rainbacon she plays the piano IIRC?

Alex Robinson

i was just in the middle of putting out fire A... someone from a different department asked me about fire B which took a few minutes to resolve... now i have to re-put-out fire A because i've forgot eveerything

scohe001

3:53 PM

@Rainbacon oof the music is what gets me every year :(

avazula

@AlexRobinson Multitasking! Office's biggest curse 🎶

Alex Robinson

:)

i don't even want to make a list of my current tasks because its just... so so so many

avazula

I keep backlog with sticky notes. I currently have seven of them around my screen. My coworkers tease me because of my old school way of working :p

I just can't seem to be able of getting used to planning apps and everything

I like paper too much I guess

scohe001

@avazula ahh you're that dev! Every office I've worked in always has one :p

avazula

@scohe001 don't make fun of me! :p

Alex Robinson

3:58 PM

i just grab my bucket of water and throw it on whichever fire is screaming the loudest

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avazula

I hate JIRA ... so sticky notes it is :3

Alex Robinson

if my macro enabled spreadsheet crashes right now i will be so sad

scohe001

@avazula hey if you're anything like the girl at my last job, I'm just impressed. She had literal stacks of old stickies on her desk that were 15cm high. Idk how she kept everything straight but she somehow always had the answer to everything

El'endia Starman

@Rainbacon How large are we talking here? One of my coworkers recently did a major refactor and fixed 1500 tests (out of 1800 total).

Alex Robinson

it only took 278 seconds to run... didn't crash though... just wasn't responding

avazula

4:03 PM

@scohe001 Oh no, I regularly dump stuff. I can't evolve in a cluttered environment.

Otherwise I lose focus (silly brain) :p

scohe001

Oh psh then you're not that bad

Alex Robinson

clutter is hard to deal with

avazula

oh btw @scohe001 I just saw your Link joke ... you like that game?

I was a fan growing up and made cosplays of him and Zelda :D

scohe001

Uhhhh "like" is an extremely massive understatement :p

@avazula whaaaat!? That sounds amazing!

Alex Robinson

link is an NB icon

avazula

4:17 PM

@scohe001 really fun to sew! Not easy though :p

scohe001

Ooh I can imagine. I feel like hats in general are tough

avazula

It actually brought my grandma and I closer together as I really needed help in sewing that stuff

That was the only times in my life where I was blond haha

you ever went to comic or Japan-centered cons?

scohe001

@avazula wait are you dyed black/brown now? Or did you dye blonde for that lol

avazula

@scohe001 I'm a natural brunette. I used wigs for those cosplays. I've wanted to dye my hair in all possible colors but was too afraid for that :p

Fun fact: I was born bald and got my first hair at about 4y.o.

scohe001

@avazula While I was growing up in Southern California we went to Comic Con a few times, yea. I always love to see the effort and love people put into their costume designs

avazula

4:23 PM

that was also around that time that I finally accepted to dress up. Clothes were overrated for the rebel girl that I was o/

Ælis

@avazula Oo

scohe001

@avazula huh. That's an actually awesome random fact. You must win ice breakers often with that one :p

avazula

@scohe001 I do have a few of those :p

Ælis

@avazula I was born with a lot of hair (like, more than I currently have x) )

avazula

@Ælis darn. That's a lot :p

Alex Robinson

4:25 PM

pro's of long hair: literally none. Lordy. its so much effort

Ælis

@avazula Yeah, my sisters were born with a lot of hairs too. So, when I see bold babies, it kinds of weird me out and I'm like "you didn't build this tiny human correctly. There is still some piece missing" :p

El'endia Starman

@AlexRobinson It....looks sexy?

scohe001

Here's my @AJ contribution this week:

> A Cable repairman was on my street today and he asked me what time it was. I replied "It is between 1 and 8 pm."

Em C

@AlexRobinson braids are fun though!! but yes. much effort.

user58

@Ælis I was born with my entire body covered in hair. Literally.

....of course, that was because I was born really really early.

Em C

4:29 PM

@Ælis hahaha. that makes me think they're like Lego minifigures, and you can just pop on a wig

Alex Robinson

ok, admittedly i much prefer the look of my hair when its longer, but having short hair is a blessing

easy to wash, quick to dry, easy to brush and maintain

avazula

@user58 wow! Like 6 months?

user58

10 weeks early

avazula

@AlexRobinson I second that. I don't feel pretty with short hair though... it just doesn't fall nicely around my face :(

Ælis

@user58 Oh, I didn't know that premature babies had those kinds of "issues(?)". I would have expected them to have less hair, not more!

avazula

4:31 PM

@user58 ooh, right... that's early

user58

@Ælis healthline.com/health/lanugo

Alex Robinson

i don't think its possible to be 6 months early...

scohe001

I was born 9 months early. My parents thought of me and then I appeared in front of them.

Damn that'd actually be a great line if I was adopted

avazula

@AlexRobinson I meant, being born at 6 months. My spouse was born at that "age"

@scohe001 That's be even better if adoption was that easy :p

Ælis

@user58 Oh, apparently eating disorder can cause lanugo too. That's a bit weird ^^

user58

4:36 PM

A J

@scohe001 I didn't get you.

@user58 Ahah x)

@scohe001 haha!

@user58 lol

> Interviewer: Tell me why should I hire you?
Candidate: Because that's your job!

Rainbacon

4:37 PM

@avazula She does, but she was just playing a Christmas playlist on Spotify

Alex Robinson

@avazula aha that does make a lot more sense

Rainbacon

@El'endiaStarman I think there were around 2000, I know that the entire test suite took 10 hours to run

El'endia Starman

@Rainbacon Yeeeeesh. Ours takes no more than 25 minutes.

Ælis

@El'endiaStarman Wow, lucky you!

El'endia Starman

Yeah, I'm getting that sense more and more...

avazula

4:40 PM

I recently learned that in my country, cable operators are paid per operation and not per hour... which makes it difficult for them for have time to do their job

Ælis

@avazula :'(

This word is really not nice

Rainbacon

@El'endiaStarman Well, part of why it took that long is that they ran the suite 3 times. The test environment was really flaky, so they ran each test 3 times and counted it as successful if it managed to pass 1/3 times

El'endia Starman

Wh-...what???

Ælis

@El'endiaStarman Thankfully, multi-threading is a thing and it can help a lot in reducing the time that my tests take (I do end-to-end, it would probably help less with unit test though)

@Rainbacon ... This sounds terribly bad...

Rainbacon

@El'endiaStarman Did I mention that being a consultant means you get to see some really bad things?

Alex Robinson

4:43 PM

i'm excited to see if AMD can pull off 4 threads per core in x86 architecture

i know its certainly a part of their plan

avazula

@Ælis which word?

Alex Robinson

i think they meant world ^^ @avazula

avazula

@AlexRobinson ooh, okay. Slow brain tonight haha

Ælis

@avazula The one without an "L" missing in it >< (world)

@avazula Well, me too since I wrote "world" without the "l" ^^

Alex Robinson

god i love our OCR scanner's word detection sometimes... poor thing thinks we just got an invoice for... 13 figures in south african rand - about 12 figures in usd or gbp

Ælis

4:46 PM

Changing subject, I'm surprise than my newest IPS meta question hasn't spark more reactions. Maybe HNQ isn't such a hot topic anymore (tadame dum :p )

Alex Robinson

i briefly saw it earlier, could you link it again?

Ælis

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Q: Is it time to increase our number of HNQ question?

As you may know, when returning to HNQ, IPS has decided to limit itself to one HNQ question at a time (source: Let's go back to HNQ!). It has been quite some time now (6 months) and I believe that things are doing fine. In my opinion, all the most recent HNQ questions where handle nicely by the ...

discussion hot-network-questions

Alex Robinson

i think a limit of two - at minimum on a trial basis would bring more benefits than cons

its just whether it drastically reduces the moderation workload or not i think

Ælis

7:44 PM

I'm so bored, I really hope that we will have a HNQ soon that as to have an increase in activity. But maybe I should just write and post a great, HNQ potential, question myself. This way I don't have to wait for an outside event. Too bad I don't really feel inspired though

scohe001

@Ælis I'll give you a new Sandbox q to tear into in a few...if you give me good enough advice, maybe it'll hit HNQ and you'll have some entertainment :p

Ælis

@scohe001 Ah it would be nice. Having a question sandboxed is better than nothing but having it post on main is even nicer and having it hit HNQ is even nicer, nicer!

Tinkeringbell

Just one bored person doesn't really warrant that ;) If there's more people 'bored' with current levels of activity, or if people think they personally couldn't/wouldn't spend much more time and are happy with the current levels, that'd be nice to hear on meta.

Also, remember that closer to the holidays there's always a bit of a dip in activity, that's why winter bash was invented :P So think back for more than just the past few weeks when considering doing this :)

Ælis

Ah, @Rain just posted his question! Maybe we will finally have something to do (it's not controversial, so it doesn't have a great potential, but still)

Rainbacon

@Ælis I posted my question from the sandbox

@Ælis Hold on, let me go edit "what is the etiquette of" to "why do these people not act right". That should generate some controversy for you :p

Ælis

7:49 PM

@Rainbacon Ahah xD

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: What is the etiquette around greetings in online communication in India?

Background I work with people from a rather diverse set of cultures. We are spread across several cities, so most of our communication takes place on Slack. I have several co-workers who are from India, and I have noticed that they communicate a bit differently than my other co-workers. Specifi...

etiquette online-interaction india greetings

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell I would gladly hear anything on meta, that would mean more activity! :p Also, we are only in November are you saying that I have all the time to die of boredom between now and the middle of January? :'(

Tinkeringbell

You might. I don't really have any clue how long the 'dip' lasts, but I have a feeling it regularly is from somewhere around Thanksgiving all the way to New Year.

Ælis

😭😭😭

scohe001

Welcome to the "holiday season" in the US. The lights go up. The music starts. People stand on corners holding buckets ringing bells.

Madness. The lot of it. :p

Rainbacon

7:58 PM

@scohe001 I stood on a corner ringing a bell once. That was the day I first had coffee because it was so cold

Ælis

Oh, we have a HNQ! \o/

(that would explain the two~three most recent comments)

scohe001

@Rainbacon dang. I've always wondered how that is. Was it worth it?

Rainbacon

The coffee or the bell ringing?

Ælis

@Rainbacon Why would you do that? (stood on a corner, ringing a bell)

scohe001

Lol the whole experience I guess

Ælis

8:00 PM

Also, go moderate (or vote, or whatever) this answer people!

scohe001

@Ælis it's usually for charity I believe. People are more likely to give around this season.

Rainbacon

@Ælis This is why

@scohe001 Well, I still drink coffee. I do not still stand on street corners ringing bells

scohe001

Fair enough

Ælis

@Rainbacon Oh, we don't have those in France, that's nice

Rainbacon

It was an ok experience. It's definitely always nice to do something for others.

Ælis

8:05 PM

Do you all want to know the latest "complot" theory? Apparently, this tweet is "not nice"...

scohe001

Whoa hey. How do you think Snow feels about that post?

flagged R/A

avazula

@scohe001 I'd star this but I think we've had enough oil put on that fire ;)

#wishItdStoppedAlready

OTOH, fire is good against snow

scohe001

Lol yea plz don't. No reason to draw more attention to that

avazula

Oh, and we made that christmas tree

Ælis

@scohe001 Hey well, everyone knows that Snow is just a snowflake who takes offense at everything!

scohe001

8:08 PM

Gah now I want to star your fire vs. snow lol stop being witty here

Ælis

@avazula Picture! Picture! Picture!

Also, I love snow (and strongly disagree with that tweet!). Just seeing snow makes me happy :D

Rainbacon

@Ælis I like how pretty snow is, I just wish it were warmer

avazula

please be aware that a- this is my slipper in that tree, and b- I wasn't the one putting it in here

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Ælis

@avazula Is it Fedora? xD

avazula

Rainbacon

8:11 PM

@avazula Did Fedora put it there or Mr Ava?

avazula

Fedora has nothing to do with this

She's an angel

In fact, she just be put on top of that tree

#brb

Ælis

xD

avazula

soooo ...

Apparently she doesn't want to cooperate with my angelic plans

sad

Ælis

At least you still have a Christmas Tree some cat's gardens can't say the same (according to facebook) :p

Rainbacon

@avazula I'm not surprised. I think Giselle would claw my arm off if I tried to put her on top of a tree

avazula

8:14 PM

@Ælis why do you think it's on a table? :p

Ælis

@Rainbacon I don't know. Snow always feels warmer than rain to me (no offense :p). What I really like about it though, is have quiet it makes everything

@avazula Well, that doesn't sound like a very strong protection. I wouldn't be surprised if something happened to that poor tree ^^

chumpbot

@MonkeyZeus As a verb, "#metoo" has replaced "Kafkatrapping" as a reference to, well, the thing "Kafkatrapping" referenced. — No U 2 mins ago

Rainbacon

@Ælis Mrs Bacon says that I'm warm, so that's enough for me :)

Ælis

Awww <3

avazula

Aaaaaaw

scohe001

8:21 PM

@Ælis You've clearly never been in a hot and humid rain O_O

@chumpbot tp

chumpbot

Marked this comment as caught correctly (tp). Currently marked 2tps/0fps. beep boop My human overlords won't let me flag that, so you'll have to do it yourself.

avazula

@chumpbot gnu gnu gnu do it yourself

Ælis

@scohe001 I was thinking specifically about the winter rain but, yeah, I don't experience hot rain often :)

@avazula x)

scohe001

@avazula better be careful there, or I'll up the bot's sass :p

Ælis

/me read the newest question title Oh dear...

Rainbacon

8:25 PM

I'd like to go moderate that question, but I think it would be best not to click that link on my work computer

avazula

@Ælis you mean Rain's one?

Rainbacon

Based solely on the title, I think that there is potential for a good IPS question, but it will need some work

Ælis

@avazula Nope

Rainbacon

@avazula There's a new one

scohe001

@avazula 23478

Rainbacon

8:28 PM

I have a sprint retro in 3 minutes, so I'll let those of you who are on your personal computers moderate it

avazula

huh, funny, it doesn't appear on my newspage

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: I desire to try intercourse with a sex worker. How do I bring this up with my partner?

I would like to try intercourse with a sex worker. How can I bring this up with my partner without damaging the relationship? I am curious what it is like to have sex with another person than my partner. I am curious what it is like to pay for sex or to attend a sex-oriented entertainment venu...

conversations relationships sex

Ælis

@ExtrovertedMainMan Sooooo, I don't want to be a coward, but I think I'll pass and let other people moderate this one ^^ (I'm thinking that we are maybe missing details or that it could be a phrasing request, but I'm not sure so... I guess I'll just for other people to "show me the way" ^^)

scohe001

Is that one pointing up and one smiley face? Now we're mixing them in the same message?!

Rainbacon

@ExtrovertedMainMan Good first edit to the title, but I think we may want to edit it it further

avazula

8:36 PM

@Rainbacon what do you think?

Ælis

@scohe001 Don't worry, I'll always use them as smiley :p

scohe001

Haha I'm just teasing. Use them how you like to, just don't be surprised if I poke fun :p

Tinkeringbell

@ExtrovertedMainMan This has all the wrong details :/ I hope OP responds to the comment and add the 'right' ones ;)

(in the meanwhile... perhaps that's a reason to vtc?)

Ælis

@scohe001 Oh don't worry, I was just afraid that this was a genuine question that I had to answer genuinely ^^

Rainbacon

I think we may want to remove the reference to sex workers, seems like it could be a problem starter

scohe001

8:40 PM

@ExtrovertedMainMan maybe someone could make this "Discussing bedroom fantasies with my partner" or something similar and a little more generic?

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell Ah yes, definitively! That's why I like people asking for clarification in comments. If there are enough questions, you know the post is lacking details/is unclear

Tinkeringbell

@scohe001 That's definitely a good direction if OP adds the details about how they already did the previous ones ;)

avazula

@scohe001 seems like their goal truly is about having sex with someone else though ... seems like more than bedroom fantasies to me ...

AGirlHasNoName

Is it a dupe of the polyamory question?

Rainbacon

@Tinkeringbell Agreed

@AGirlHasNoName Which one? I think we've had a few

Ælis

8:41 PM

@AGirlHasNoName Link?

AGirlHasNoName

let me find it

Tinkeringbell

I'd not make it too generic probably... there's a whole 'range' of fantasies out there if I trust my sex-ed, and some of them require much more specific talking skills/careful talking as others...

AGirlHasNoName

nvm. The answer would help the OP but the question is entirely about approaching the other person.

Ælis

@AGirlHasNoName Maybe you could post it as "related" then?

scohe001

@Tinkeringbell oh I mean by all means go into more detail in the Q itself. But I think a little less brazen a title might be nice

Tinkeringbell

8:46 PM

@scohe001 Ehh. Sure? Though too obfuscated and they'll all look alike and people won't know what they're getting themselves into...

They might expect something 'more innocent' when opening the question...

Ælis

So, people are asking for clarification under our current HNQ and it makes me think that it might be too broad? What do you think? interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/23474/21067

avazula

#offtopic I'm trying to build a vision board ... darn that's not easy haha

I have to know what I want to achieve in life in the first place o_o

scohe001

@Tinkeringbell meh, fair enough. Idk what our title policy is

Tinkeringbell

Something in between, I guess... lemme look ;)

interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/a/2220/1599 comes to mind

I'm almost tempted to leave the word 'sex' in there, as I'm 90 percent sure that's filtered out by a blacklist for HNQ titles.

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell I was wondering if "suicide" was in there too, which would have explained why the "Sunday question" didn't hit HNQ? (or was it just because it was Sunday, so bad timing?)

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