The Awkward Silence

dhein

6:37 AM

Hello everyone :)

Tinkeringbell

6:49 AM

Good morning!

JAD

7:01 AM

@ankii you gotta pump up those numbers, those are rookie numbers

CaldeiraG

8:12 AM

Morning :)

Extroverted Main Man

8:27 AM

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Q: How do you deal with someone who is nosy, projects their feelings about career, and gives unsolicited advice in that area?

A friend of a friend has on multiple occasions aggressively asked how my self-study for software engineering interviews is going. Most recently I answered very briefly, because I find it to nosy and the person to be arrogant and presumptuous. I don't like for example that he's convinced that I se...

boundaries

Ælis

9:02 AM

I can't wait for my parents to go home. They have been visiting me (and my 17m² appartment) for the last few days and I really want/need my privacy back! (They will leave this end of afternoon and I really can't wait)

Tinkeringbell

I understand the feeling! Mine are gone this week, and I spent all day yesterday wishing they were gone already :P

Ælis

Oh yeah, not having parents on your back is really great. Especialy when they are stessing you so much. I mean, can't they just sit, be quiet and do quiet things for just a moment??? Why do they always have to talk and do (none quiet) stuff???

Tinkeringbell

9:19 AM

Oh, mine can do that, luckily enough. Dad watches TV, mom uses the tablet.

Ælis

My dad can do that. But my mom? Not so much. She either needs to 1) talk to your or/and 2) do something that doesn't involved sitting

CaldeiraG

I will live with my parents until I get a good enough paycheck XD

That is going to take a while :)

Ælis

9:38 AM

@CaldeiraG I don't envy you. At first, I was fine leaving with my parents even though I was an adult. But at some point, I just got tired of them. I even decided to leave just because I could (even if my paycheck wasn't that good)

JAD

leaving with, or living with?

Ælis

Living with

Tinkeringbell

@CaldeiraG It took me until I was 27 to start buying a house. It might take until I'm 29 or (yikes) 30 before I'm living on my own :|

dhein

@Ælis Don't they feel a bit... constricted, too?^^ I mean.... 17m^2 with 3(?) people, isn't just causing trouble for AT's, or is it? :D

@Ælis '^.^ better you should decide very carefully, before you obtain parents /s

CaldeiraG

10:01 AM

@Tinkeringbell :|

@Ælis I got you :)

I'm already paying the internet bill and buying some stuff for the house so I would say I'm kinda used to pay stuff now

Alex Robinson

I live with my student flatmates and it works out mostly great... been a few times when they forget i need sleep but whatever

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How to stay in the present moment?

Everyone knows we should not think too much about past or present, but most of the time time many of the people find this very difficult thing to do. So, what are some tips that can help us stay in the present moment and not being absent-minded? Or, How to stop overthinking? Couldn't find approp...

self-esteem

Tinkeringbell

10:36 AM

Soo... I don't think this'll make a very great question for main but... interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/21523/… is getting a tail. I'm trying to k reduce interactions and make the interactions that we have less personal, and that went well for a while... But now there's trouble in her personal life and she's kinda clinging to me, and I'm not sure what to do :|

On the one hand this stuff doesn't class with my personal convictions, so I could be supportive... on the other, if I do so, I'm afraid it'll ruin any progress so far and perhaps pass a point of no return. :|

dhein

11:35 AM

@Tinkeringbell Tough one, I think atually your overall observation is qutie spot on. So its rather a question of what has a higher priority for you, either keep the progress going, or avoid possibly being perceived as cold (if that person doesn't understand your point, what it seems from that post like) Not really an advice, but hope it might have been of help.

Alex Robinson

honestly @Tinkeringbell it kinda sounds like she's hit the PNR already... you've done your best to explain to her that gender doesn't need to be the be all and end all she thinks it is. You can try to keep giving her validation but it kinda sounds like a "her" problem not a "you" problem

dhein

Yep

Tinkeringbell

11:47 AM

@AlexRobinson Hmm. Maybe I wasn't entirely clear but these are personal issues, unrelated to her problems with gender...

Things like stuff going bad at home/family.

Alex Robinson

then the slightly more blunt answer is that she probably needs to talk to a therapist and that there isn't a good substitute for it

Tinkeringbell

Yeah, probably... It just feels bad to not hug her right now though :(

JAD

@AlexRobinson Or a good friend. Which I think is part of the problem

user58

What does "getting a tail" mean? I suppose you don't mean an appendage growing from her bottom?

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Alex Robinson

don't get me wrong. getting things off your chest to a good friend is usually a good thing

however, it is no substitute for a proffessional

Tinkeringbell

11:52 AM

@user58 Oh... is that too Dutch? :P It means a story has new developments that keep it from being finished. :)

JAD

I only realised it was a Dutchism when user58 asked :P

user58

Ah. Never heard that before, so I'll assume it's Dutch ;)

JAD

A story that grows a tail is a story that has an unexpected sequel or follow-up

Alex Robinson

i'm not sure the direct translation is either as accurate or eloquent

JAD

:>

Tinkeringbell

11:54 AM

And an action that will get a tail is something that will have (unexpected) consequences

JAD

And then you have a sleepover in a monkey

Alex Robinson

I don't think it translates particularly well, which is a shame because i like the usage

Tinkeringbell

@AlexRobinson If enough English speaking people start using it, it might end up in the English dictionaries as well ;)

Alex Robinson

thats true, though I think we'd say something along the lines of "the story is unfolding"

JAD

The plot is thickening

Tinkeringbell

11:58 AM

I like that one ^

'unfolding' sounds a bit more in the moment, like when the Notre Dame is on fire and news outlets are reporting and you're getting a little bit of info at a time... while mine was more like 'this is over and done, oh wait, no not yet'.

Alex Robinson

i wonder if its to do with a story being a "tale" and the "tail/tale" unfolding...

Tinkeringbell

@AlexRobinson Probably not in Dutch :) A story is 'een verhaal', a tail is 'een staart' ;)

Alex Robinson

i can't remember where i saw it recently, but someone on SE said something along the lines of "English is not a language, it is 3 languages under a trenchcoat trying to pass as one" or words to that effect

JAD

lol

Tinkeringbell

@AlexRobinson @JourneymanGeek has that in his list of favorite sentences I believe ;)

SmokeDetector

12:47 PM

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Bad keyword in answer, potentially bad ns for domain in answer (87): How can I politely refuse to help classmates with their work? by Alex Ng'ang'a Mwangi on interpersonal.SE

Tinkeringbell

^^ Free spam flags anyone?

Alex Robinson

i'll take your entire stock

Tinkeringbell

Well, the rest of you is too late ;)

It's gone :)

JAD

:'(

CaldeiraG

1:29 PM

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Q: Remedies for eye strain and good eye health

I just wants to know about the best foods for maintaining good eye health. Please also discuss that how to avoid the situation of eye strain.

eye-strain

gotta love spam on SU :D

Alex Robinson

its not even spam

its just off topic af

M.A.R.

Spam seed most probably. So spam.

ankii

@JAD it did go upto 3.5g, 1.4g, ~400mb etc after which I let go of my code and force quit the stupid app

reduced the sizes of the plots and then it was fine..

CaldeiraG

@ankii ♪ "don't you know pump it up you've got to pump it up" (the numbers) ♪

lmao XD

ankii

I will not burn up my poor i5 5th gen over it... ;)

CaldeiraG

1:38 PM

:p

ankii

are you not migrating that eye question ? eye.SE or something

Alex Robinson

its on -9... god damn

CaldeiraG

@AlexRobinson still live though XD

Alex Robinson

maybe all the super user mods are still asleep

CaldeiraG

@ankii health would be good but it's too vague

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A: How can I protect my eyesight when using computers?

20-20-20 Rule Every 20 minutes of looking at the screen, look at something 20 feet away for 20 seconds. Also, try to blink a lot. Adjusting settings Using a larger font to read helps to reduce eye strain. Adjusting your brightness helps, usually brighter screens are better in brighter rooms, d...

now I realized health.SE is redirected to medicalsciences.SE

JAD

1:46 PM

@CaldeiraG AFAIK they changed names to get rid of the self-diagnosing type questions

CaldeiraG

@JAD Ah, makes sense

Alex Robinson

2:02 PM

poor medical sciences SE... like 75% of the most recent questions are closed or on hold

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