The Awkward Silence

12:53 AM

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Q: How to tell about a deal-breaker without it sounding like an ultimatum

I started dating someone new. It's going well, but she has one habit that's a deal-breaker for me. The actual thing is a bit more serious, but I'll make up a silly example. Say she is an hour late to every date. She knows it's bothering me and apologizes every time, but she doesn't know how much ...

dhein

4:59 AM

Morning :)

Ælis

5:12 AM

I just view the new Faq about the new CoC. Everything seems nice and quiet (and over control) on MSE. So this sounds like a good day \o/ <3

Let's have some cuteness to celebrate that! <3

avazula

@Ælis why are you awake already? :p

I just arrived to work!

Ælis

@avazula My anxiety drug makes me sleep all day, but doesn't prevent me from waking up at 6am >< Hopefully, today will be a little better since I only take half of my anxiety drugs (don't worry, the doctor said I could do so)

@avazula Also, why are you at work already! :p (just joking, I know you like to go to work early)

avazula

I'm glad to know you'll be able to take less today, in the sense that I hope it'll make things better!

I love working when there's no one there already :p

Ælis

Let's hope it does make things better. Having anxiety for mostly nothing is no fun, but sleeping all days really makes you feel like you are already dead (because you don't have time to actually live since you are too busy sleeping)

@avazula I completely understand that. I don't mind too much having some people around, but the minute they start talking, I want to kick them out. "I'M TRYING TO FOCUS HERE!!!" :p

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avazula

@Ælis Yeah, I remember being depressed and sleeping all the time, thinking my life was pretty empty. I guess it really is a matter of finding the right pills and having good healthcare support. I really hope it'll get better soon, but you know that already <3

Ælis

5:23 AM

@avazula <3 <3 <3

avazula

Does it feel good to be at home now?

Ælis

@avazula Mostly yes. I don't have to worry about feeding myself (because people are cooking for me, which makes it easier for me to actually eat something). Plus, if I want to change my mind, my family can help me do that

avazula

that's nice :)

Ælis

I hope you are good too? @ava

avazula

I'm good. I sleep better. I'm trying to find new long-term projects.

Ælis

5:34 AM

Arf, finding long-term projects sounds like a hard thing to do. Good luck with that!

avazula

I'm still figuring it out :) thanks

dhein

@Ælis: Sounds like a lot is going on on your end :o

Ælis

@dhein Yeah, switching drugs for your depression and anxiety is really not fun at all. The worst part is: the last one was working kinda-mostly but I wanted something that would work "for real" and I don't even know if this new one will do. If it doesn't, I'm pretty sure I would go back to the last one who wasn't efficient enough (in some case). So it would be like I have lived hell for a month for mostly nothing...

dhein

5:56 AM

@Ælis Well, you would have lived hell for a month, not for nothing, but for possibly finding a way to improve your life :) For my personal values, thats always worth. :)

Ælis

@dhein Thank you for this way of seeing things <3

dhein

Honestly.... I feel offended by that comment....

avazula

@dhein it's good to go. Therefore it's gone :D

dhein

Thank you :)

Ælis

@dhein As someone asocial, I would just disconnect the blo*dy doorbell (and tell people to phone me if they want in)

dhein

6:23 AM

@Ælis: Hahaha, yeah I considered that, too. But a) I don't know how that works, as the system has no to me apparent way of being turned off, and is digitally just wired into the wall. And b) remember the conversation we had like a year ago about you feeling uncomfortable about just turning off your phone, cause you could miss something? Its same for me about doorbells '^.^

You could miss a package, or the police wanting something important or something like that :P

Thanks for your edit :)

And hey Imus :) Thanks for your answer aswell. I think I will implement it the one way or the other. Just want to see if other answers are going to be suggested.

Ælis

@dhein True that! I don't have packages delivered at my home, that's why I didn't think about it

@dhein You're welcome :)

@avazula Your comment was indeed nicer than mine ^^

dhein

Hahaha now I am curious what yours would have been. But lets not get toxic and leave me with my curiosity :D

Ælis

@dhein It's not really toxic and it's in the closet if you want to: chat.stackexchange.com/transcript/message/52251783#52251783 ^^

Mine was just, not really tactful :p

dhein

hahaha well on my side it is toxic if I want to see it :P

avazula

Ugh, and now I get an unfriendly one after writing a nice answer to their question...

dhein

6:31 AM

Oh gosh... I hate it if people play moralizer...

@avazula yeah....

avazula

darn it, world! :p

Ælis

@avazula See, you should have leave my not nice one :p

dhein

I am so tempted to just respond "You see, we never learn out..." x'D

Ælis

@dhein You can do that in the closet. The bot might response to you :p (just avoid doing that on main ^^)

dhein

@Ælis How to do that? I mean for venting it might fulfill the purpose doing that '^.^

Its dead Jim :O

Ælis

6:35 AM

@dhein The closet is here: chat.stackexchange.com/rooms/63296/the-closet and, sometimes, the bot will answer when you talk to it

dhein

@Ælis But I think just having mentioned that I am tempted to write that did the venting already :3

@Ælis But hasn't the bot to first mention the comment here and then it had to be moved there before I could respond to that there?

Ælis

@dhein No, every comments are "stored" in the closet but someone of them are also displayed here

dhein

ahhhh :D

Ælis

Alright, I'm out, need to do stuff with my life (hopefully not sleeping) ^^

JAD

good morning

dhein

6:41 AM

Huh, that felt good, indeed :D

avazula

6:51 AM

@JAD Morning!

JAD

Since moving, I've been wanting to restart my model railroad, and yesterday the package finally arrived :D

imgur.com/a/h60IsrY

Tinkeringbell

They look nice!

JAD

7:12 AM

:)

The blue one are the trains that serve between Amersfoort and Ede-Wageningen. Nice close to home :)

dhein

@Ælis Enjoy your day :)

@JAD Blue is my favorite colour, so I would hop on that one :P

CaldeiraG

7:32 AM

Morning :)

Tinkeringbell

@dhein They're nice trains. Though IIRC they don't have laptop tables or contact points for your laptop charger...

CaldeiraG

Well I took the time to read the new Q&A and it's heavily based on the community one so I think it's fine. What I also think is that most people who don't take the time to read the on-topic FAQ won't take the time to read this FAQ either

And many of the users don't actually use the Meta anyways

JAD

7:45 AM

@Tinkeringbell these definitely don't. Doesn't fit ;)

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