The Awkward Silence

avazula

5:32 AM

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CaldeiraG

7:35 AM

Morning :)

IPS Comment Bot

8:13 AM

@Imus - I'm male, so no difference on that score. I also don't feel there's any significant difference between physical and emotional comfort in the situation. To argue essentially "well it's only emotional comfort so it matters less", and be dismissive on that basis, suggests a lack of basic empathy for others with different backgrounds and experiences to your own, that I would not like to think of you as having. — Stilez 1 min ago

Matched regex(es) ["chatty"]

Ælis

9:02 AM

Ah, the joys of working with someone who doesn't get along with anyone... Right now, this person is complaining that they weren't put in the loop sooner but no one wants to put them in the loop sooner because, as soon as they are, they start complaining (so the more you wait to inform they, the less complain you have)

Imus

take turns tricking him into some "really important thing you want them to be with from the start" that turns out to be a bad idea after a couple of days so it gets tossed

when he gets mad at that make it clear that from then on you'll only get him into the loop AFTER it's shown to be promissing and catch him up to speed

<\joke>

CaldeiraG

XD

Ælis

Thanks for the idea but don't worry, I'll manage ^^ (also, I was just complaining, no need to help me problem solve that)

Imus

Figured as much. Hence replied with a joke to lighten your mood hopefully ^^,

Ælis

Thanks :p

CaldeiraG

9:32 AM

https://interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/3809/why-were-my-two-comments-censored

The OP deleted his account but the comments on The Closet linking to the question have their username in

is that a issue?

Imus

9:57 AM

the irony when the comments under this answer on a question about comment moderation take up more space than the already long answer ... (I know it's meta so doesn't matter as much, but still funny)

(urgh, I keep swapping the () and [] when trying to link -.-)

IPS Comment Bot

10:11 AM

Great answer, but I just think it's worth pointing out that (1) of course it's not like that for every man, but (2) that might be the main reason why most men don't behave like that. As usual it's the ones who do who get noticed. — Hans Adler 1 min ago

Matched regex(es) ["chatty-no-doubt(@Noon)", "chatty"]

Extroverted Main Man

10:47 AM

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Q: Why So Serious?

This is my first post here. I would like to be serious in life. In my thoughts, I am serious, and funny as hell too. But in reality, whenever I am having a conversation with someone, my mind starts to crack a joke. Conversation could be either personal talk to family, communication with colleag...

verbal-communication

avazula

11:35 AM

@CaldeiraG not really

People are told everything they post on SE is then public and may be used by anyone, and that includes publicly available info

However, should someone wants something to be anonymized, mods may do the necessary, if it doesn't induce any confusion in the data

There was a chat flag a few weeks ago; a user asked a question that hit HNQ and they answered clarification requests in comments. Many comments, that were then moved to chat. Once everything was clarified, the user asked for deletion of all of their comments. We had to decide whether such action would mess with the conversational flow and understanding of anyone who would drop by this chatroom

So long story short, it's not an issue, but: we can do something if asked to and if needed :)

Imus

Curious: If someone asks for all their stored data (GDPR complience) would stackoverflow also check chats?

avazula

@Imus I guess so, yes. Maybe there's a meta post about it?

That might help:

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Q: Will Stack Exchange respect EU's "right to be forgotten"?

If a citizen of EU would request all his questions and answers to be deleted from all Stack Exchange sites, would that request be carried out? I'm not just talking about account deletion, where questions and answers by the user are being anonymized. I'm talking about the case where the user dema...

discussion legal privacy gdpr

From what I understand: everything you post on SE is then licensed under CC, so it can't be removed. If there's private info in what you post, well, then you shouldn't do this. As I said there are extreme situations in which mods do delete info but it's very rare and under exceptional circumstances.

CaldeiraG

@avazula Ok, thanks for the explanation :)

This looks very weird o_o

this is the question stackoverflow.com/questions/4642016/…

"Your answer is here, please click now!" kinda of vibe XD

avazula

12:04 PM

@CaldeiraG lol

Rainbacon

12:57 PM

I think this project is going to drive me to insanity

Mithrandir

Wait, I thought that happened a long time ago.

JAD

@Mithrandir :flags as not nice:

Rainbacon

Did it? How like me to miss a detail like that

Rainbacon

2:39 PM

Fun interpersonal story: I got an email this morning from a recruiter asking to set up time to talk to me about a position as an "benefits advisor" (basically just a sales rep) for an insurance company. I wanted to respond and tell them off about how I'm an engineer not a salesman, but the IPS user in me just couldn't be rude like that.

So, instead I responded to tell them that I wasn't interested, an asked what about my resume I needed to change so as to not give them the wrong impression in the future.

tl;dr - I let them know that I knew they didn't really read my resume, without actually accusing them of such

scohe001

Ooh smort

Rainbacon

According to the internet, this particular company is well known to scrape job boards looking for resumes that are "old" (thus indicating that you still haven't found a job) and then poke you to try and get you into insurance sales, so I didn't feel bad about wasting a few minutes of their time

avazula

3:00 PM

@Rainbacon it'll be a waste of time if they actually do let you know "what was wrong with your resume" :p

I don't think such recruiters would do so, given the fact that they scrape-hunt

Rainbacon

I know, but it provided me a little catharsis

avazula

3:25 PM

:)

Rainbacon

@avazula can you hammer this

avazula

@Rainbacon sure thing. Woop! Gone.

I'm Hammer Ava

Rainbacon

Thanks :)

Extroverted Main Man

-1

Q: What do you think about global warming?

Climate experts are formal: the earth is warming up at a steady pace. The reason for this is the increase in human-caused greenhouse gases, which has led to health, ecological and humanitarian crises.

politeness

Rainbacon

I'm sad, apaul deleted their (very good) answer to my first question

scohe001

3:28 PM

MC Hammer - U Can't Touch This (Official Video)

►

Mithrandir

@ExtrovertedMainMan "Please fix it. Quickly."

avazula

@Rainbacon huh, weird... not sure why

Rainbacon

yeah, idk either

scohe001

That's a bummer @Rain :/

Rainbacon

I saw it last night when I was showing my wife the question

Mithrandir

3:29 PM

@scohe001 Take an umbrella

scohe001

Ha. Funnily enough we're about to be hit by a big storm for the next three days starting in a few hrs

Extroverted Main Man

3:48 PM

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Q: Convincing a Principle Investigator to listen to me about my data analysis

all! I'm a student in the UK about to start university this year, who's really interested in a particular area of physics. Last year I spent two weeks shadowing people in a laboratory, and I asked if I could work there this year again for 4 weeks, carrying out actual research. After multiple se...

work-environment

Ælis

4:28 PM

comment-needed | need backup | interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/22991/21067

Em C

@Ælis hm, they do mention experience using the suggested line, is there something specific there you think needs it?

Ælis

@EmC Are they a man or a woman?

What are "they experience" exactly? Is it just asking something politely? Or asking someone to move because they are taking too much place?

Have they experience using that in the subway?

Em C

thanks, now I know what to ask in comments :) they did mention in an earlier revision they're a college-age woman but I don't know about the other parts

Ælis

4:43 PM

Sorry I wasn't clearer earlier ^^

And it's good to know that they are a woman, I was afraid it was another man answer (which is fine but don't really help me assess if it's safe to use the same technic since I'm perceived as a woman)

Ælis

5:06 PM

Thanks for the comment @EmC :)

Em C

np :)

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