The Awkward Silence

ElizB

12:47 AM

oy yi yi yi i'm tackling some of these comments here

ElizB

1:04 AM

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sigh much better. Have a good night y'all :)

avazula

5:29 AM

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Morning everyone!

A J

@avazula morning!

avazula

@AJ how's it going today?

A J

6:02 AM

@avazula Okaish. how about you?

avazula

@AJ oh? What's happening? :/

I'm good :)

A J

@avazula more busy at workplace.

Imus

6:56 AM

o/

Pseudohuman

\o

avazula

@AJ oh no :(

IPS Comment Bot

7:14 AM

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Tinkeringbell

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7:49 AM

I don't really agree with this approach, as it is still conveying the message that a woman is only worthy of respect if they're personally related to him, it will not fix the problem in the long run. Another important part of it is that he might not even be THAT aware of the experiences of his female relations. I did have a run-in with a colleague (that worked on HR, that's even worse) that was making sexist comments and would be completely immune to this. In the end I just point-blank stated that the comments were really sexist and he should stop. He's from HR, he knows the consequences. — Juliana Karasawa Souza 1 min ago

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avazula

Calling IPS people to the rescue: we have some issues evaluating whether this answer should remain, as it may look quite violent to allies and people concerned to be compared to maintainers of oppressives regimes. Could you tell us what you think about it? interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/22414/…

Tinkeringbell

Eeeeehhhh. @Imus as much as I appreciate this... perhaps it's better to focus that kind of stuff on recent questions, not the ones that are almost a year old, posted by now deleted user accounts :P All those comments to clean up!

Imus

@Tinkeringbell Hmm, Sorry about that, was in a slightly bad mood yesterday and thought I'd fix that with some badge hunting

Considered that post and edit rather harmless ... didn't think about the work it would cause you :) my sincerest appologies.

On the plus side, it did get me my excavator badge XD

Nog Shine

@Imus I hope you're ok now. :)

Imus

Doing great :)

Especially now that I know I gave Tink more work :p (those appologies were never sincere! muahahaha!)

Nog Shine

8:04 AM

You can never get an Archeologist and Copy Editor badge without a ping in a chat room about your edits. ;)

Imus

@NogShine Not sure if you read the discussion yesterday about how I deal with things: Not my problem :p

Nog Shine

No, I haven't read your discussion. Are you saying discussion about badges?

Imus

8:19 AM

No, the discussion with Tink before she asked the question about the aftermath of gossip

A big point in that discussion was that I'm really good at annoying people with my indifference :)

Mostly meant as a joke, and ofcourse it was never my intention to give Tink work as a result of my badge hunt. yet at the same time it's true. I'm good at ignoring things people accuse me of without feeling bad about it

On the plus side: if you ever feel like insulting someone as a way to vent, it's preferable you pick me :) I don't care and those that would care don't have to deal with it ^^,

disclaimer: might not work as you intended if you expect any sort of serious response from me if you do though ...

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ankiiiiiii

@avazula It does include unnecessary details even though question clarifies that there's no such highly valued agenda.

Feel free to delete my comment if you can include the message in yours/other mod's.
https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/22414/how-to-ask-my-office-to-remove-the-pride-decorations-without-appearing-anti-lgbt#comment89440_22424

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Tinkeringbell

8:34 AM

@Imus It's okay, I understand people like their badges :P

Imus

8:46 AM

<rant> I don't like the LGBTQ question anymore. I understand that in certain places it's a real issue in how LGBTQ or otherwise are treated with a lack of respect. But is that really a reason to go on a witchhunt agains anyone who might give the smallest hint of oposition? When people have to be afraid to even propose to remove decorations several weeks after pride month, aren't we taking things a bit too far in the other direction? </rant>

Tinkeringbell

I don't like the question anymore because I answered it and now I can't be a helicoptermod fixing problems there... LGBTQ questions are always going to get like that, along with anything mentioning veganism or religion :/ People have opinions, you know :P

Imus

@Tinkeringbell At least on veganism the consensus is that "yes you're allowed to be vegan, and some accomodation should be made to make you comfortable, but if you start dictating how others should be treating you, you should expect some pushback from the community"

on LGBTQ it's: "yes you're allowed to not be straight, and if anyone dares mention anything that isn't putting you on a pedestal we're going to try to get him fired over it"

Tinkeringbell

Oh, you haven't seen the stuff about 'found the vegan!' then.

Imus

That's exactly the kind of pushback I meant

Tinkeringbell

There's sides to everything, and they bring out the worst in people...

It's okay though, I think things will slow down there soon enough.

It has a controversial notice and has been taken out of HNQ due to the amount of answers it now has that all lack quality.

Imus

8:53 AM

On the question yes, I'm sure of it. On the topic in general I got the impression that it's going to end up similar to the whole feminism thing

Tinkeringbell

@Imus We'll see. Not on my watch ;)

IPS needs to be a place where people can ask to navigate awkward situations, even if they're stemming from having an unpopular opinion.

Imus

@Tinkeringbell noble goal and you guys (we as a community?) are mostly doing a great job at that

Tinkeringbell

I think what went wrong here is that I failed to realize the implications of the language in that post, and was too enthusiastic about answering it... It should've been edited a lot, maybe even closed. But it feels like a conflict of interest to do so now, to moderate the kind of language that answers reacted too, because I have my own answer and 'invalidating' others is never nice, but certainly not if that only makes your own answer look better.

@Imus Everyone does :)

Imus

@Tinkeringbell The language of the post is needed to show what exactly is OP's problem, I think

It could very well be possible that OP isn't really pro-LGBTQ but he's also not against it. There shouldn't be anything wrong with such a neutral standpoint in the workplace, so why can't het just ask to get those decorations removed without fearing a huge backlash

And the way it's answered or an answer like mine is treated are exactly validating that fear for backlash which isn't fitting in a workplace. Hence why I don't like the question anymore :)

Anyway, I'm done ranting about it now. Thanks for listening, and I know we wont be able to change anything here anyway ^^,

Tinkeringbell

@Imus Do note that Netherlands/Belgium differ a huge amount with e.g. America. In America, you probably really would have to fear for your life :/ But OP is from the UK, so I think it's more reasonable to assume a Dutch/Belgian POV ;)

@Imus It's an international site, so yeah... this is probably never going to really change, only moderated ;)

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/3215/1599 < My run in with that ;)

It is an approach I regularly use, to jokingly tell people that there's a reason I didn't become a teacher and that their questions are boring me. It works fine. Yet America finds it rude :P

Imus

9:10 AM

@Tinkeringbell I think the rudeness is because it's only written down and misses the joking body language to go along with it.

Tinkeringbell

Perhaps... I clearly did mention it with a 'joke' prefix though ;)

Imus

only in your last "quote"

Tinkeringbell

But hey, can't appease everyone. That's kinda the point I was trying to make.

Yeah, the first one I only mentioned a 'pleasant' joke.

Imus

Guess it's partly a phrasing issue and mostly a cultural difference

For me it would work perfectly as well here

Tinkeringbell

@Imus Yep, but people saw mostly the same in your latest answer: the phrasing was interpreted differently because of a cultural issue.

Imus

9:14 AM

that makes a lot of sense :)

Tinkeringbell

I even had a (now deleted, not suggesting improvement) comment on mine saying that asking about removing stuff was arrogant and snarky...

It's... difficult. And why I always try to mention a cultural background if I feel it might help people interpret my answer as coming from my culture. Not that it helps :P

Imus

Please don't anymore. It might convince even more people to migrate here and we are already running out of room to build houses -.-

:p

Tinkeringbell

Same here... though I believe it's not so much the room to build stuff (Plenty of room in Flevoland, I think), but the people to build stuff and the materials to build stuff, and people willing to live somewhere besides the Randstad :)

Imus

Was thinking Belgium was more densely populated than the Netherlands. Found out Belgium is #33 on this list whereas Netherlands is 29

Then realised that Wallonia is way less densely populated. So looking only at Flanders we'd be #24 instead

Brussels would be #4 o.O

Tinkeringbell

9:29 AM

Woah...

Imus

and still the #1 is 3 times as densely populated. Pure madness XD

Mithrandir24601

Oooh nice - the Lion King soundtrack is on Youtube :)

Pretty good :)

Tinkeringbell

Sounds good! I've been looking for the Hairspray soundtrack on Spotify (the movie one), but can't find it :(

Imus

One of my coworkers has sent a meeting invite to someone from another hospital with topic "Sh*t happens"

auch XD

context: we're playing boardgames during our lunch brake, the one we're playing today is actually called "Sh*t happens". The meeting request was sent to the wrong person with the same name as one of the players ...

avazula

@Imus you work in a hospital?

Tinkeringbell

9:34 AM

Oof.

Well, at least it's 'explainable' :P

Imus

@avazula Yes, as a programmer :)

avazula

@Imus that is so cool!

I used to do this

Tinkeringbell

He makes sure the heart monitors don't crash :P

Mithrandir24601

@Imus bahaha!

Imus

I'm not touching heart monitors, that's another firm

Tinkeringbell

9:35 AM

@Imus Philips? :P

Imus

what we do is making sure that the results of those heart monitors are available to anyone that is involved with said patient :)

Tinkeringbell

Ooh, nice!

Imus

I donno what firm they bought the heart monitors from. But probably philips yes :p

Tinkeringbell

Way better than my 'I make sure the application automatically draws new electricity cables' :P

avazula

@Imus either Philips or siemens :p

Imus

9:38 AM

Latest addition to our software was integrating new speechrecognition software. On the one hand really cool, on the other a real pain to get working correctly cause our workflow is slightly different from what the company that wrote that software is used to

Those stupid Dutch with their different workflows :p

That's probably also as much details as I'm allowed to say to random strangers on the interwebs XD

Anyone in the loop can probably already tell exactly where I work, and if they work here as well, can also tell exactly who I am now ... woops :p

Tinkeringbell

hahaha Quick, different topic again! :P

ankiiiiiii

Against the grain by Hudson and Troop

Imus

I'm amazed at how many votes my answer on workplace has received: workplace.stackexchange.com/a/133017/98893

Tinkeringbell

Thinking about putting up a question: How to have a cup of coffee with a complete stranger that's not awkward :P

@Imus It's workplace :P Everything I see from that site that hits HNQ has at least 1 answer scoring 300 :P

Imus

@Tinkeringbell hmm, more interesting one: How to make having a cup of coffee with a complete stranger just awkward enough that they don't run away?

more my kind of thing ^^,

avazula

9:42 AM

@Imus yea, I UVed that one.

Tinkeringbell

@Imus XD. We're having someone over to put new tiles in our hallway/toilet. I promised my mom I'd make sure he'd get some coffee and a cookie at 10-ish... but it's kinda really awkward to make someone coffee, and have a cup of tea, and then sit at the same table and trying to talk about stuff :P

Imus

@Tinkeringbell The thing about it is that it was my first ever answer posted on that stack. Didn't think much about it at the time

ankiiiiiii

@Tinkeringbell askdiff.Se has HNQ below 10 votes :( nobody votes there.

Imus

@Tinkeringbell I would ask him "So, what do you do for a living?" :p

Tinkeringbell

@Imus lolbroek.

avazula

9:43 AM

@Imus "Duh, I do works in toilets."

ankiiiiiii

@Tinkeringbell so do you like our toilet?

Tinkeringbell

We talked a bit about programming :P

Mithrandir24601

@Imus Yikes, scary question. I know someone who'd probably have told me to go to the manager's boss about something like that...

Tinkeringbell

@ankiiiiiii Well, he sure should like his own work, I'd say!

Imus

@Tinkeringbell kinda the same thing no? We both deal with other peoples shit all day ...

@ankiiiiiii response "No, it's a pain to install this model -.-"

Mithrandir24601

9:45 AM

@Tinkeringbell step 1: Taste the coffee. Step 2: be like 'ugh, I hate coffee'. Step 3: Make some tea or hot chocolate. Step 4: You're now both drinking either tea or hot chocolate, so conversation is unable to be awkward

ankiiiiiii

@Imus I'll break it again and again to have you over again and again .. Uhh

Has nobody seen sex ed on Netflix?

Mithrandir24601

nope

Tinkeringbell

@Imus XD. I don't know, I think he only deals with tiles and porcelain thrones, not shit :P

@Mithrandir24601 I do dislike coffee, so I made a cup of tea immediately, skipping step 1 and 2 :P

Mithrandir24601

@Tinkeringbell So how can the conversation be awkward if you're drinking tea? Such a thing is impossible!

ankiiiiiii

@Tinkeringbell Do you use salt in tea?

Tinkeringbell

9:50 AM

@ankiiiiiii Ehh... no.

ankiiiiiii

Ice in espresso?

Tinkeringbell

I did have an iced coffee once, but didn't like it all that much :)

Mithrandir24601

Suutei tsai

Suutei tsai (Mongolian: сүүтэй цай, ᠰᠦᠨ ᠲᠡᠢ ᠴᠠᠢ, Turkish: sütlü çay) (literally "tea with milk") is a traditional Mongolian beverage. The name suutei tsai in Mongolian means milk tea. The drink is also known as süütei tsai, tsutai tsai, or Mongolian salty tea. == Preparation == The ingredients to suutei tsai are typically water, milk, tea leaves and salt. A simple recipe might call for one quart of water, one quart of milk, a tablespoon of green tea, and one teaspoon of salt. But the ingredients often vary. Some recipes use green tea while others use black tea. Some recipes even include butter...

Never tried it, but I've heard of it before

ankiiiiiii

@Mithrandir24601 I had it once or twice, when I had cold. I found it nice. It was a simple milk ,water, cardamom, ginger, salt, sugar and tea ofc.

The wiki article exaggerates a simple thing to sound exotic

Mithrandir24601

@ankiiiiiii Hmm... Sounds nice actually - like a ginger-y masala chai. Nice

@ankiiiiiii Good tea feels very exotic when done right :P

ankiiiiiii

10:00 AM

@Mithrandir24601 Ohh UK and tea ofc

@Mithrandir24601 I read that pouring height can change flavour due to aeration.

I am sending the article to my mother

Mithrandir24601

You'll be hard pressed to find someone on SE who's more obsessed about tea than I am... I tend to get obsessed about stuff

@ankiiiiiii I know they do this in e.g. China, although I didn't know that's the reason. It does make for a more enjoyable pouring experience though :)

ankiiiiiii

haha okay, but I haven't had tea since February. It's all Cafe latte and iced espresso for now, since then

@Mithrandir24601 Like a bartender

Mithrandir24601

February?? :O

ankiiiiiii

juggling bottles and glasses

@Mithrandir24601 Winter got over, so did craving

Mithrandir24601

Dear goodness, I'd be dead if I didn't have tea in that long

But, what about bubble tea? Perfect on a hot summers day

ankiiiiiii

10:05 AM

@Mithrandir24601 Not available around :( photos seem interesting :)

Mithrandir24601

@ankiiiiiii this is something I really want to learn someday. The real application of martial arts

ankiiiiiii

Okay multiple things:

1. The closest I have gone to martial arts is kung fu panda series

2. that is really a very interesting to way of passing time when there's no real threat around or one has reached all levels of the art

*Okay what do we do now*
*Your method of tea serving is too normal*

3. Imagine it being poked in the eyes of the person sitting or the nozzle breaking to hit the man with the pot LOL

4. I'd sure be entertained by it and it would be fun to learn too!

You'd be like dr strange: TeaCh Me

Over

and out

Magisch

10:35 AM

@Mithrandir24601 isn't bubble tea basically sugar water?

I currently like to brew 2-3 cans of mint tea, let them sit overnight to cool, then chill them in the fridge and drink then

Nog Shine

@Imus Thanks but I never felt of insulting people to vent out my anger. I have other ways :)

@Tinkeringbell I noticed Parenting also has answers with huge number of upvotes.

Mithrandir24601

11:16 AM

@Magisch well, tea, milk, fruit, sugar (or a ton of honey), some more sugar, so... Why else d'you think it tastes so good?

Magisch

@Mithrandir24601 I don't know, I never liked bubble tea

I like tea plain and unsweetened generally

Mithrandir24601

@Magisch depends - I've had both good and not-so-good bubble tea before, so it depends where you get it from, I think

Although plain tea is just as good, in a different way :)

IPS Comment Bot

11:33 AM

A moderator could perhaps edit the OP's question and add his comment somewhere, which would make it more accessible than here: "I really like this answer because it mirrors what I actually did. Sitting here at this moment, I just conversed with my fiancee and revealed everything. She was thankful not to be left in the dark. However, there is a key element of timing with that: I only shared this information with my fiancee AFTER the bachelorette party. If I had shared this information before that party, it would have been "let out of the bag." Cheers, and thanks for the advice! – typewriter" — Tim 39 secs ago

Magisch

@Mithrandir24601 I have a psychological aversion to sugar sweetened beverages. I like all my drinks to be calorie free because I've found it's way too easy to overeat when you drink things with calories in them

Mithrandir24601

@Magisch fair - if I overeat, this isn't a bad thing - I'm super thin and light

Magisch

@Mithrandir24601 I have to be conscious of my calorie intake as I put on weight easily and am fairly sedentary.

Tinkeringbell

@IPSCommentBot @Tim Ehh, that's not really what we want: Questions should be as self-sustaining as possible. If OP really did this and it worked, leaving a comment like they did is okay enough (it would be best if they accepted the answer, but we can't force that)...

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Tinkeringbell

11:41 AM

Also, hi :) This is a chatroom filled with wonderful people, you might be interested in asking any questions you have about the site here :)

Journeyman Geek

11:57 AM

@Magisch eh, most stuff with artificial sweetener tastes terrible to me ;p

If I wanted something with no calories, no caffeine... I'd go with water ;)

avazula

@Magisch I too have an aversion for sweetened beverages but not for the same reasons ;) I hate the taste. There's a sour taste lasting after you drank the stuff, I can't stand it.

Magisch

@JourneymanGeek or just plain tea

avazula

@JourneymanGeek I'm trying to watch my caffein intake. Started yesterday, trying to restrain to 4 coffees a day. Honestly, it's hard, and realizing it's hard scares me a bit :p I drink way too much (unsweetened) coffee.

Magisch

plain mint tea has less then 1kcal per 100ml even if you make it strong

Journeyman Geek

@Magisch I can't stand tea tea

Magisch

12:00 PM

I can't stand coffee

Journeyman Geek

I need my one cup, indian style

no more

And that's cause ~~I would bring dishonour to my family if I hated coffee~~ I actually like the taste.

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Magisch

@avazula Eh, too much caffeine is one of the lesser substance addictions :p

I've been drinking mint tea almost every day since I found this really good spearmint tea for cheap

Tim

@Tinkeringbell Thanks, I understand.

avazula

@Magisch I don't think I'm addicted, since I have no issues not drinking coffee in certain circumstances, e.g. on weekends. It's just the work situation: I drink too much coffee, and drink too much in general (I'm at like 3+ liters of water a day...). Drinking is a stress reaction for me

Magisch

I used the term addiction very loosely there

a lot of people like the energy caffeine consumption gives them, and some have a psychological addiction, but even people who consume too much usually do so out of habit not a real dependance

unless you're chaining like a gram and a half of caffeine shots or tablets each day in which case you may get heart problems sooner rather then later

avazula

12:05 PM

@Magisch it's indeed more of an habit for me

Tinkeringbell

@Tim Cool! Sorry, this was about the only way I could think of to contact you ;) Comment flags don't allow us to put reasons in them for declining :/

Tim

@Tinkeringbell This is quite nice, though. I've just acquired another SE skill.

Tinkeringbell

@Tim Yep! Chat is a good place to talk about coffee, tea, and moderating IPS ;)

Magisch

@Imus Neutral isn't really neutral anymore at any point these days

Just today I saw someone I follow on twitter say essentially that if you're neutral/not political on any issue, you're essentially endorsing the status quo on it

@Tinkeringbell And parrots. Especially green ones :p

Tinkeringbell

Red is best! :D

Mithrandir24601

12:35 PM

@JourneymanGeek then you've clearly never had good tea

Journeyman Geek

@Mithrandir24601 there's a particular taste I seem sensitive to

so ironically I can totally stand tea with lemon in it

but not proper tea

Mithrandir24601

@JourneymanGeek but tea = proper tea => tea with lemon = proper tea

Journeyman Geek

proper tea is brewed properlike (not boiled with water or worse milk)

and has cream or double boiled milk (the latter cause of my culture) added to it

Mithrandir24601

@JourneymanGeek wot. That doesn't sound like proper tea...

I mean... tea with cream?? What is this?

Journeyman Geek

I donno wat you brits do ;p

We do double boiled milk

like we do coffee

(heated once, despite the name, in a double boiler)

Mithrandir24601

12:40 PM

@JourneymanGeek the horror

@JourneymanGeek ahh, no OK, that much is still tea. But with cream?

Journeyman Geek

SOmeone told me brits do that.

I donno.

I don't drink the stuff much, so I don't know what anyone else does ;p

Magisch

Lots of people drink their tea with milk or cream

I disagree personally

Mithrandir24601

With milk, yeah. Cream in tea is something I've never heard of

But cold milk in tea often means it's not good tea

Hot milk tends to be e.g. Masala chai

Journeyman Geek

There's only two things cold milk is good for

iced milo (and some people mix it hot and chill it) and drinking straight up

TheTinyMan

2:30 PM

@JourneymanGeek Does 'adding chocolate to it' count as the latter? :-D

oh wait no we do that hot, pardon me

Just woke up, at least that's my excuse. ;-) Hi, everyone!.

Journeyman Geek

@TheTinyMan Milo is a malted chocolate drink

TheTinyMan

Ooooohhh that does sound better

Journeyman Geek

So... Back when I was conscript, military food was terrible and I used to drink half liter bottles of the stuff from the canteen every me

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TheTinyMan

I can imagine!

Journeyman Geek

It's good stuff. Luckily one of the bottled varients they sell here tastes the same

CaldeiraG

3:02 PM

o/ all

Tinkeringbell

Hello!

CaldeiraG

how are we today?

Tinkeringbell

Busy... but a good kind of busy!

CaldeiraG

good :p

Tinkeringbell

How about you?

CaldeiraG

3:05 PM

I'm good :p heading home from work

Tinkeringbell

Nice :) I've been working from home today :D

CaldeiraG

nice :)

TheTinyMan

3:27 PM

Hiya, Tink!

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How can I encourage cleaner habits to my partner?

Background I've been seeing my partner for a few years now. We are both young adults, have busy but stable jobs, and have our own living spaces. We have a very loving and supportive relationship. My only problem is my partner's place is usually very messy, and they have very poor cleaning and or...

ankiiiiiii

@Mithrandir24601 you steered two pages of conversation on tea. I must stay beware henceforth

@Mithrandir24601 yup! tea is supposed to be light and masaledar( masala-ed) .

@JourneymanGeek and for shakes, lot of them, @avazula might relate with the drink calories than eating them

avazula

3:52 PM

@ankiiiiiii I have been summoned?

TheTinyMan

Oh good, ava is here now! Time for the sacrifice!

Mithrandir24601

@ankiiiiiii I haven't even got started!

avazula

Please don't kill me! I have ~~a cat to feed~~ oh no wait now she hunts her food...

TheTinyMan

Well I haven't decided yet if you are the sacrifice or if we're sacrificing to you...but the stars tell me that you're involved somehow!

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan Hey! How are you? :P

(sorry, you caught me seconds before dinner ;) )

ankiiiiiii

4:08 PM

@avazula yes, we're talking about drinking calories with the help of shakes made of cold milk because it is not good for tea according to master-tea-chef @Mithrandir24601

How come I dint get any chat notifications when I was on Apple.se? Do I need to log specifically into chat.SE?

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell I'm good! Working too much as usual! ;-)

avazula

4:30 PM

@TheTinyMan haha! I'm the goddess of Non Violent Communication and cartoons! Offer me hugs and pencils :p

TheTinyMan

@avazula Guess you're the sacrifice, then! Or, wait, maybe this pencil is... either way a hug sounds excellent! :-)

avazula

yay :D

@ankiiiiiii I don't drink milk :p I only drink the sacred liquid made by Gods

But mortals just call it beer.

Tinkeringbell

4:50 PM

@TheTinyMan Bad Tinyman :P Go have some fun!

You've earned it, apparently :)

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell I should! :-p

avazula

5:42 PM

oh shoot

I was writing an article after I got what I thought to be a good idea this afternoon

And now I have no idea how to end it

lol

Tinkeringbell

5:55 PM

Oops. Perhaps finish it another day then? I'll bet that as soon as you go to bed, you'll think of an ending! :P

avazula

you're right, maybe it's like debugging, the answer comes after a break that's long enough for your brain to process the issue :p

Tinkeringbell

6:12 PM

Well, my brain has reached it's breaking point by now. I'm going to shower and read/sleep :D

avazula

have a nice evening! :)

Tinkeringbell

Thanks! If you need me, you know where to find me :P

in the bed? :p

@avazula Exactly! XD

haha

6:45 PM

I just tuned back in, are we raiding Tink's bed now? :o

Mithrandir

@avazula this happens all the time

"oh, this'd be a good topic" "okay, good start" "wait, now where am I supposed to go with this?"

@TheTinyMan It might be a cage. It could be a jailbreak attempt.

Extroverted Main Man

7:35 PM

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Q: Band mates / roommates unwilling to share our rehearsal space and equipment

I'm a member of a band, band "A", which has played together for over a year. For the past year, band "A" has been basically the only musical project for all of the members. We just started renting a house and living together primarily so that we can practice together more often and take the band ...

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ElizB

10:03 PM

kinda late to the party, but hey everyone! :) Good news today, I got the part time job I interviewed for a few weeks ago :D

user15026

@ElizB Yay! Congrats!

ElizB

@Ash Thank you! :)

It's relieving to have something now :)

still figuring out start dates, hours, etc

user15026

Yeah,I am sure it feels good to have it :)

Extroverted Main Man

11:15 PM

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Q: How to get my adult son to stop criticizing his Dad (me)

I'm married with two grown sons, 30 and 32 years old. The eldest, Seth, lives nearby, so we see each other 2 to 4 times a month and on the one hand, we are very friendly with each other, but on the other hand, Seth is able to criticize or ridicule me for just about everything that I say or do. It...

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