The Awkward Silence

6:37 AM

@avazula Morning! Just two more weeks sounds great! :)

@Tinkeringbell Yes! But it's also frightening, as I don't know what to expect in my next job :)

I'm so afraid of not being up to their expectations o_o

@avazula :/ That's the hard part, yes.

But as my mom always says, "Being afraid does not prevent danger" haha

@avazula I always like to think that since I'm really bad at selling myself, I don't have to worry much about having set unrealistic expectations about myself :P

@Tinkeringbell haha! I think I might be the same :)

6:43 AM

@avazula Well, then perhaps that thought can ease your mind a little too :)

@Tinkeringbell true :)

Also, I recently realized how hard my current job is (because the person who'll take my position arrived last week and he doesn't believe such a job exist haha). I hope he'll stay anyway, I think it's a great training for becoming a project manager later on

dhein

GaMen :)

@dhein Morning!

@avazula That does mean he should want to become a project manager :P

@Tinkeringbell true xD

Well I don't really want to, but now I have this experience anyway :)

@avazula As my manager would say 'Now that you have the experience, you can decide you don't want to'. :/

Which is a really great way to push people into corners they don't want to be in :(

6:51 AM

haha true

dhein

@avazula Possession is better than need xP

@Tinkeringbell doesn't sound like a nice manager ...? :/

@avazula I'm not particularly fond of him, no. :)

@Tinkeringbell erh :(

Hello people

6:53 AM

Hi there!

@avazula Yep. So my next question on IPS is going to be something like 'how to give an inspirational talk without actually being 'an inspiration''.

It's going to be fun figuring that one out.

true haha

Hopefully I can still solve it with 'don't give the talk at all'

Today has been a bad day for me. :(

@Sid oh no! Do you want to talk about it?

6:55 AM

I wonder if it would be an interpersonal question or an intrapersonal question

I just heard an hour ago that a friend passed away. :(

oh no :( you have all my sympathies

Imus

7:14 AM

Losing someone important is never easy... Big hugs to you Sid! (if you are OK with receiving virtual hugs that is, I would never force people to hug me if they don't want to)

How to deal with the sadness -> intrapersonal
how to tell people to leave you alone -> interpersonal
how not to feel bad about pushing people away when they just intend to support you but don't know how -> intrapersonal again

how to support someone you're close to you without upsetting them because it's clear you don't know what you're doing -> interpersonal ... so many difficult questions around this topic that probably don't really have a single right answer anyway :)

Q: Seeking closure over someone I have unblocked but whom I learned have passed on

7:43 AM

@Imus Thank you for the hugs. I am holding up well so far, thanks.

Imus

8:05 AM

What helped my colleague and close friend to get through her workday after sad events was when I told her I was going to ignore any sad signals from her and just be my happy funny self until she asked me otherwise. This worked because she got some distraction while knowing that I didn't "not care about what happend" but was purposfuly trying to not remind her.
So if you want you can tell certain people around you: "thanks for trying to give me emotional support but I got plenty of other people already doing that. Could you ignore my sadness and try to compensate a bit by being happy around …

Extroverted Main Man

8:40 AM

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There was someone close to me whom I blocked for a couple of years - we used to get on really well until he confessed his feelings for me and things got messy/ ugly. Since the negative feelings have died down, I have recently unblocked him to message him with the intention to iron things out on a...

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

9:29 AM

Funeral speeches. It's always funeral speeches.

> He was a bit of a douche, but I'm crying now and so should you.

Magisch

9:48 AM

Did we get a timeline / update on HNQ re-inclusion? Is it confirmed we're waiting on the delay feature?

Ælis

in The Closet, 2 days ago, by IPS Meta Comments

@Ælis It's already written and in a PR but we're waiting on a build review before it can go live. I'm really hoping next week but it depends on a variety of things that I can't control. — Catija ♦ 1 min ago

(about the feature, not the HNQ re-inclusion)

10:13 AM

Is my sandbox question ready to be posted?

@Termatinator did you answer all questions asked in comments below?

Also, AElis edited it and asked you whether their edits match your true desire. Could you confirm it did?

yeah i believe i did via this chat @avazula

@Termatinator Okay, I wasn't there when you did then. Did you add the details they advised you to give?

"There is also a big age difference, I'm much younger than him, so I may not know what is acceptable in these situations. There is also the cultural difference since he lives in the USA and i live in the Netherlands, I don't know if this is acceptable in the US."

the part i added after that

@avazula

Okay

Well, to me you're good to go

10:26 AM

alright, shall i give it a few more hours? @avazula

gonna have to go to a condolence anyway, so not much time to look at comments then

Up to you, you may get more feedback this afternoon when our American friends arrive

ok

oh :( lots of courage

thx, luckily I'm not on the receiving part

anyway gotta go, thx for the help