The Awkward Silence

Q: How to approach being rejected without even having asked out and knowing about it from a third party?

1:31 AM

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Apparently, I have been rejected being romantic partners. The problem is that I haven't ask her out and didn't have plans in the near term. Which would be fine, but it seems that she informed a friend of mine of said rejection, therefore being a lie. My go to behavior would be to confront the ot...

relationships school approach

Q: Is there a subtle way to confront someone?

1:48 AM

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I joined some friends one night for a dance social. After the lights came on and the social was closing up, I was put in charge of making sure one of my friends made it home safely since he'd been drinking a bit. While getting him something to eat and verifying he got home, I remembered I forgot ...

social-event

6:59 AM

Derp. Bot's down, and I can't start another instance at the moment.

7:11 AM

@Mithrandir who do I blame? ;)

I managed to spin up an instance, trying to figure out how to get the regxes on my instance.

Oh.

@Mithrandir seriously, I started to think that either something is wrong or there is really no activity on the main site. :P

7:39 AM

!!/alive

!!/alive @IPSCommentBot

...nu

!!/alive ips

so you're listening but not talking

lurkerbot

flag-pls, del-pls | NaA | How can I politely find out the gender of a potential roommate via email?

flag-pls, del-pls | VLQ / NaA | How can I politely find out the gender of a potential roommate via email?

flag-pls, del-pls | VLQ | How can I politely find out the gender of a potential roommate via email?

...there's only one answer that I don't think is delete-worthy, and that just barely.

flag-pls, del-pls | VLQ | Friend is having a hard time, but resists emotional support

This is interesting.

8:17 AM

@Mithrandir I am very mean ;-)

not mean enough

:P

8:32 AM

For those curious, When should I use Mrs. or Ms. in emails? is the shortest currently standing answer on the site.

10:06 AM

@Mithrandir that's really an ELL question

@Tinkeringbell I am more average

10:54 AM

flag-pls, del-pls | VLQ / NaA | Friend wants rare vinyl record collection back after 7 years

11:15 AM

@Astralbee I'm saying that in my opinion, this answer doesn't really answers the question as I understood it. That is the reason why I downvoted. If that depends entirely on a single word in the whole post that I didn't even register when I read the answer, then chances are high that the mother will also not understand it correctly either. Hence my downvote and comment on my reasoning. Other people can still upvote proving me wrong. You can ignore my comment if you don't agree with it. I'm just giving a different point of view, feel free to do with it as you see fit. — Imus 1 min ago

#13440 Imus (373 rep) | A: Establishing expectations with my parents about visiting after I give birth (score: 3) | posted 2 days ago by Astralbee (10876 rep)

Matched regex(es) ["chatty"]

It's alive!!! :)

who/what is?

The comment bot ;)

But I still am too :P

in The Closet, 1 hour ago, by thesecretmaster

I fix now

11:47 AM

+1 for that last paragraph. I suggest you put some emphasize on it. — Martijn 1 min ago

#13518 Martijn (2606 rep) | A: How to hide panic attacks? (score: 12) | posted 12 hours ago by Sophie (175 rep)

Matched regex(es) ["+1"]

11:59 AM

These medicines made me sleep like for more than 4 hours and skip lunch.

Did I miss anything?

@Tinkeringbell Yay!

Q: Is my friend in love with me?

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First of all sorry for the extension but I want to give great details so you know the context better. I have a friend of my age (25 years old right now) who I met around 3 years ago during an exchange which lasted 6 months. During that time we were really close friends. At the beginning we we...

friends relationships online-interaction romance

1:17 PM

Anyone in the mood to flag some comments?

@Mithrandir hit me

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13517/… and the one under; interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/12652/… ; interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13282/… and under

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13221/… ; interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13402/… ; interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13441/… and above

all except 2 were already gone

Rainbacon

They were all there when I went through

Wow, the questions in there are.... interesting today

1:23 PM

all except one was gone when I went through

BTW, all. How is hiding panic attacks a social skill?

I have severe panic disorder. The answer is you don't hide them, you get treatment.

shouldn't we VTC that one?

I've been debating that.

@Mithrandir the amount of armchair psychology questions we are getting is disturbing me.

The potential for damage is immense.

Rainbacon

@Tinkeringbell I read that article you linked this weekend. It was very good. I think it makes my question a moot point though. It would seem that had I asked it the correct answer would have been "you are interpreting this situation wrong"

@Rainbacon Which can still be a useful answer ;-) I had actually hoped that the article would give you some ideas on how to phrase stuff, not answer the question entirely ;)

1:29 PM

@Tinkeringbell do you think we're getting too many questions that would be best suited for a psychiatric professional??

@RichardU Actually, I'm not thinking much right at the moment. I'm quite tied up, getting used to mod tools, reading stuff on meta and trying to get used to making decisions, in combination with a training in real life ;-)

the mods aren't thinking?! sounds the alarms ALERT ALERT... oh that's what you mean

Rainbacon

That's true, it would still be useful. I may still post it knowing what the answer is going to be. It could still be useful to future readers.

I'm still figuring out what to do with the privileges I have suddenly acquired around here. There's a protect button now?!

@Stacey This protect button will appear when there are more than one low quality answers from 1-rep users or at least one spam or R/A answer. If you see a question getting LQPs or attracting Spam or R/A answers, feel free to hit that Protect button. Though automated script also works in case when there are more than one Spam or R/A answers on a question.

1:41 PM

What's R/A mean? and LQP = low quality posts?

R/A=> Rude/Abusive and yes.

ok

Now that you have the power, abuse it at will

grr

@AJ This place is lucky that I no longer use my powers for the forces of evil (often)

2:28 PM

Clearly some of us agree with your moral stance, but quality standards still apply. Stripped of meta-commentary and profanity this is a one-line answer: "Tell him his behavior is repugnant and he can't attend." To improve it you would need to expand and provide reasoning, explanation of how to implement it, etc. — Em C 17 secs ago

#13534 Em C (6050 rep) | A: How do I approach telling someone that they are not invited to an event that I am having? (score: -8) | posted 23 minutes ago by Geoff Kendall (85 rep) | edited 38 seconds ago by Geoff Kendall (85 rep)

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3:13 PM

Expert answer and I upvote: I thinks, maybe you are psychologist! The only 2 points that remain: if there was no historical precedent for American men to hug unrelated women, when and how did this enter popular culture and become an accepted practice; and why do men seemingly prefer not to shake hands with women? — English Student 1 min ago

#13533 English Student (7730 rep) | A: Why do men shake hands with each other but hug women? (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by OldPadawan (9456 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by OldPadawan (9456 rep)

Matched regex(es) ["chatty"]

4:30 PM

+1 for "male-order" — forresthopkinsa 1 min ago

#13381 forresthopkinsa (101 rep) | A: How do I politely decline a request for a contract marriage? (score: 147) | posted 4 days ago by baldPrussian (13047 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by baldPrussian (13047 rep)

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4:48 PM

"But there are seven billion people in the world! I can't possibly stop to consider how ALL of them might interpret something!" "Ah, yes, there's no middle ground between 'taking personal responsibility for the thoughts and feelings of every single person on Earth' and 'covering your eyes and ears and yelling logically correct statements into the void.' That's a very insightful point and not at all inane."

sphennings

@Mithrandir You beat me by seconds.

Damn you.

;)

5:23 PM

I feel like tormenting some individual who is severely worthy of it. Time to visit a "Scam baiter" website, I think

6:53 PM

@RichardU go to metasmoke, find a "do you need a hacker" spam, and pull the spammer's leg

7:31 PM

Hey, how do you guys feel about the color scheme here: pheoonewhomade.github.io. Don't worry about the content and such, unless you have real questions. I am asking this here because I know and trust you guys. I am just asking about the color scheme.

@Pheo I was expecting a rainbow, and wanted to say "reminds me of the last time I ate too much candy" Nicely done

Although I like it blacker

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ I would too, but the only "blacker" theme is a mockup of a computer terminal... not very user-friendly.

But thanks!

@Pheo Is that just a veiled attempt to push your bot again? :P That site is using the Jekyll slate theme, so you don't have direct control of the color scheme without changing the theme entirely.

@ArtOfCode No it is not. I am genuinely asking about the color scheme. I thought about pinging you without welcome to tell you that, but figured that would look suspicious.

@Pheo note the tongue, he was kidding

7:38 PM

@ArtOfCode And as for the "direct control of the color theme" I have that. Doesn't matter that it is Jekyll

And talking with his tongue out

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ :P

So it'd be more realistically "ith thath jutht a vellld attempth tho push youaaa both agai"

@Pheo You can change the theme, sure, but you can't directly edit CSS and get total control of every instance of every color... unless I'm missing something really big about Pages' Jekyll

I know Charcoal's site uses Jekyll and has a totally custom design and CSS, but that's because it doesn't use themes.

@ArtOfCode I can do better. I can extract the result and reverse engineer it and change the css.

7:40 PM

or rather, uses a custom theme

@ArtOfCode all I need is right here... view-source:pheoonewhomade.github.io

facepalm copy that view-source: part too

eeeeh

probably mostly works in this case, but reverse-engineering from HTML source doesn't, in general, get you the server source

@ArtOfCode Every instance of color? Oh look: pheoonewhomade.github.io/assets/css/style.css its right there!

But I'm done arguing that point for now.

...you're not arguing that point, you're completely missing it

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Keep that site open. I'm going to change the site and I want you to see the difference.

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ M'kay reload it now.

7:55 PM

@Pheo noice. Now feels like it needs more content

Yeh it does feel skinnyer

8:10 PM

And flatter verticaly.

8:29 PM

Well, bye guys.

9:29 PM

+1 for pointing out the disingenuousness pretending they were offering to do a favor. — stannius 39 secs ago

#13252 stannius (101 rep) | A: How can I tactfully refuse to switch seats on flights? (score: 20) | posted 6 days ago by Ben (399 rep) | edited 3 days ago by mattdm (310 rep)

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