The Awkward Silence - 2018-04-18 (page 1 of 3)

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12:11 AM

@sgf I'm chiming in super late here but this meta post is a good starting point to understand the current state of comment moderation (and links to a bunch of previous posts)

Extroverted Main Man

12:30 AM

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Q: What are ways to avoid awkwardness on a first time phone call with someone?

The context: I have a situation with a guy who now moved to a different country, him and I are very close however I've never spoken with him on the phone. We text and I see him in person but calling/FaceTiming is not something we've ever done. AND he hates calling and FaceTiming, and he's always...

Extroverted Main Man

12:47 AM

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Q: experienced introverts + notintroverts

How does a multi-generational loner make beneficial contact with potential beneficial individuals..and how should the potentially non-loner benefiters make contact with the MGloner

4 hours later…

4:43 AM

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@Magisch Are you going to write a new answer? interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13194/… ... nobody else has bothered to challenge the frame. If you don't then I will

Extroverted Main Man

4:57 AM

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Q: Should propose again

Just a little back story: I met this girl Amy, during my undergrad. We were in the same batch and also used to be play mixed double badminton for our college team. She was a really good player and even a better human being. We really hit it off from the beginning, we came really close and I thou...

relationships friendship

IPS Comment Bot

5:39 AM

I'd say that it's pretty hard to "disagree with a sexual orientation" without being a bigot, given that whether or not someone has a sexual orientation isn't an opinion and denying people the opportunity to love another is pretty much always "threating them with hatred or intolerance" — Erik 47 secs ago

#13198 Erik (5868 rep) | A: Politely refusing to validate veiled bigotry (score: 69) | posted 47 hours ago by Clay07g (1620 rep) | edited 40 hours ago by Malandy (119 rep)

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Good morning :)

Slow night eh?

6:32 AM

@Tinkeringbell good afternoon. :)

@Tinkeringbell dunno. I was sleeping. ;)

The chat transcript is kinda empty ;)

the last few questions have had such appalling english I did not really feel like bothering to try and fix them :/ far too much effort when it affects even the paragraph structure

6:54 AM

That moment when you have spent a whole week searching for roommates and when you finally get one, the people who said no, come back to you for being roommates... :P

@Tinkeringbell lol

7:07 AM

@Tinkeringbell There's a disproportionate amount of chat users in timezones that lend themselves to being awake now.

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7:18 AM

@DoritoStyle the oral agreement clearly stated that I'd write the article if I had the time — avazula 40 secs ago

#13283 avazula (3979 rep) | A: How can I tactfully tell my ex-superior that I don't owe him anything? (score: 47) | posted 15 hours ago by Link0352 (2515 rep)

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@Jesse You have to.. that's what being nice is. Although if they're on hold, don't until the necessary details are added or provided in comments, so they don't end up in the reopen queue still in bad shape

@Mithrandir How come a bot get to talk with two rep only? It's a user after all.

@AJ Explicit write access. Room owners can grant that, just like mods.

Go to room, manage access and you'll see ;)

7:45 AM

No, only mods can grant if the user has less than 20 rep.

Really? I'm going to try :P

On the meta bot ;-)

I've tried ;)

With one sock as RO and another with no rep.

Oh... That's kinda disappointing ;-)

@Tinkeringbell I have to ehh? Editing every single word of a question may be a nice thing, but its not mutually exclusive :D I can not do it and still be nice

@Jesse :) Just saying :P We kinda could use more people doing those edits

You've always been nice as far as I'm concerned, although if new people drop in here and see someone calling their English appalling it might not be very inviting ;-) If you think something needs a spell-check and you don't have the time/will to do so, it might be better to drop a link and ask someone to do it ;-)

For those that hadn't figured it out already: I'm really nitpicky on the chat culture right now, and I realise I've often make the same mistakes myself... Feel free to mention my faults to me too!

7:58 AM

To ask, or not to ask... That is the question.

Huh? Toying with a question for main?

Or do you want to ask someone out? :P

@Tinkeringbell That's commendable. Keeping the chat friendly at all times is a must if we want to encourage new users to participate more here. I've also seen you welcoming lurkers with a ping, I like that ( I used to lurk here for more than a week before I wrote my first line here )

Yeah, the one I mentioned about declining food and Russian culture.

@Tinkeringbell gaaaaccckkk

@Mithrandir Better? :P

@Mithrandir I ... must have missed that ;)

@Cashbee Yeah, I try to... You don't think it's too intimidating?

@Tinkeringbell No I would have loved it if I were being welcomed before I said anything. I did not know if it was ok for me to participate in chat, or if I was even allowed here

(I have not participated in any chat on other stacks)

8:03 AM

Apr 12 at 13:25, by Mithrandir

I forget: are "what is the Russian etiquette for declining food when visiting people for their birthdays" type questions on topic here?

Everyone is allowed on a site's main chatroom, provided they have 20 reputation points.

@Mithrandir I'd go with ... 'Is there' first. What makes you think there is one?

I'm just not sure I can ask the question in a way that it would meet my own standards :P

Apr 12 at 13:32, by Cashbee

@Mithrandir maybe don't ask what the etiquette is, but rather if there is one.

That sounds familiar. I have noticed the same problem here lately ;-)

Apr 12 at 13:33, by Cashbee

@Mithrandir and if there is no russian etiquette, what is the "standard" etiquette for such a case

what are your standards then? :D

8:08 AM

(Oh, and considering that question prompted my new meta question.)

@Cashbee very strict. For answers as well.

...I've cast over 800 downvotes, that should prove my point :P

@Mithrandir I like that

Introverted Meta Man.

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Q: Should we rename our country tags to be cultural tags?

We have several country or location tags - e.g. india, russia - as an attempt to get questions to specify what culture they're from, because cultural norms are inherently relevant to interpersonal issues. But we also encourage using these tags when it's not taking place in, e.g., India, but thos...

discussion tags

(Side note: It'd be nice if some more of the answers I downvote could get deleted. As it is, I'm going to lose my rep :P)

That's ... unsettling. You want everything that's downvote worthy to be deleted? Or you only downvote stuff that's deletable?

The vast majority of what I downvote I also flag.

8:17 AM

@Mithrandir I can't see your votes. :P

No, but you can see the LQP queue ;)

There is nothing in the queue for the moment.

Right, and I've got a pile of disputed flags.

Did you flag this?

This I'm not entirely sure is delete worthy, but it might be - interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13221/…

@AJ it's possible

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13221/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13221/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/9852/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13210/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13221/… ..

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13210/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13210/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13210/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/3914/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/3914/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/3914/… .

To list a few.

(I've got more if you want.)

This is what prompted my message last night about being annoyed at the LQP queue.

...I'm monologuing again.

8:26 AM

Then I guess we need more info on what can be put in the queue, and what is expected in that queue? Outreach?

(I'm also listening to someone giving a presentation, so I'm a bit too busy to click the links)

I am outta votes.

@Tinkeringbell Perhaps a meta post would be in order.

@Tinkeringbell Well, when you're available ;)

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/31/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13120/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/3944/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/4045/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/12296/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/11871/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/30/… .

...I would eventually like to be able to VTD answers, but that's still far off at the moment.

IPS Comment Bot

9:00 AM

@Catija: I strongly disagree with your comment. What should I do? — Eric Duminil 28 secs ago

#13224 Eric Duminil (244 rep) | A: How can I tactfully refuse to switch seats on flights? (score: 116) | posted 35 hours ago by baldPrussian (11947 rep) | edited 21 hours ago by baldPrussian (11947 rep)

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@Mithrandir i provided a yes-answer for your meta question ;)

I stated a fact that I don't know if it's true :O

> The main reason why the country tags exist is for the answerers to deduce the culture from it.

if that is not the case please tell me :)

9:25 AM

@Cashbee I think this has been true for a long time, but I like what OldPadawan said too... and personally, I don't give that much about tags as about a description of the cultural/societal norms involved :D

Because 'deduce' leaves a lot of room for interpretation, and it can vary across 1 country a lot. Should I raise a 'Gelderland' tag, just because norms here may be different from the 'Randstad'?

(And hello @avazula, nice to see you found the chatroom! Welcome, this is the place where you can chat and discuss stuff with other users from this community. If it's important though, please put it on meta. You'll also see people practicing smalltalk from time to time ;) )

@Tinkeringbell this is a completely different issue. (Are the country/culture tags too general? should we split them up more?)

True, true ;) I'm just worried OldPadawan's answer might be interpreted as something that'll fix that :P

It's a caveat to culture/location tags in general :)

I find his solution to be too complicated and no user will know the difference between the two tags, they will always use the wrong one

@Cashbee That's true...

I just think that the actual location is less important than the culture. And if OP deems his location to be important, he can still mention it in hie Q

9:31 AM

(Which is why it's best to put it in the question :P) But like you said, that's a different issue. Although it might be an argument to do nothing about the tags :P

@Tinkeringbell nicely done btw ;) sad that it didnt work

but they will be back

@Cashbee Yeah, that's why I think it might be too intimidating... I see a lot of people drop out after pinging em.

I tried to keep in mind what you said earlier :D

@Cashbee I hope so :)

@Tinkeringbell yes i could see that. If your experience tells you otherwise, don't listen to me and don't ping ^^

Mithrandir24601

9:45 AM

@Tinkeringbell A lot of people maybe just like to hover, waiting to get used to it and for something they feel qualified to jump in on - I mean, I'm around a reasonable amount but (relatively) rarely actively participate

@Mithrandir24601 When someone greets you directly, is that not something they feel qualified to jump in on ?

Mithrandir24601

@Cashbee Well, I'd tend to be like "aaahh, someone I've never spoken to before in an environment I don't really know!" run away, over "Oh, new person - hello new person!"

(I'm exaggerating for effect, but hopefully that gets the gist across :P)

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: Tips to maintain composure and be there for my dad

Just over a year ago, my mum rung me during my lecture, I ignored her thinking she's just trying her luck if it's important she'll ring back. I rung her back at the end of lecture heard 'Can you meet me at the hospital, it's your Dad' I was still in my lecture room, I couldn't talk, I wanted to t...

ok, so it kind of forces the person to either respond or go away. I see how that prevents them from just lurking and deciding for themselves when the time is right to jump in. Could indeed be counterproductive, but it depends on the said person.

Hi @Tinkeringbell! I'm glad to be here! I've already seen it before but I didn't know how to use the chatroom, so I didn't dare talking :)

9:54 AM

hi @avazula don't be afraid we don't bite :)

hahaaa see

Ahah, hi @Cashbee :)

That's very nice to have an opportunity to talk with people who offer excellent answers and advice oftentimes!

I've been around IPS for almost a year now and it's impressive how my vision of social life has changed! I now have way more resources to remain nice when getting annoyed :)

This site can certainly change people.

@avazula yeah I know what you mean!

I often ask myself what would @Tinkeringbell do :D

what happened to anongoodnurse anyway? i always found her answers to be very good

Yeah, that's so sad we don't see activity from anongoodnurse or threetimes anymore!

She's still around, I believe, just less active.

10:00 AM

Oh ok, nice to know.

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I read your comment as "people see the word manipulative as Evil / Machiavellian, i don't think she is doing it on purpose so don't think she is manipulative". It appears that wasn't what you were saying so we agree. — WendyG 41 secs ago

She's on the French SE at least, I can see her questions from time to time :)

IPS Comment Bot

#13266 WendyG (522 rep) | A: How do I tell a relative that I don't want them to spend their vacations in my house (score: 2) | posted 20 hours ago by Astralbee (10098 rep)

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@avazula I've seen that remark made more often. I'll consider changing the room description from funny quote to actually useful ;)

Oh no @Tinkeringbell, I actually assumed that because of the conversations that were going on. I like that quote :)

10:10 AM

@Cashbee she moderates one of the SE sites with me. It does take up some time that otherwise could be used to answer questions

Fair enough @RoryAlsop

Being active on a SE site actually takes some time :)

It does seem to, yes :-)

I have a question on a recent post where the OP is quite talkative about the problem that motivates him/her to ask on IPS:

@avazula That's essentially what I'm asking for, I went into detail to give an idea of how I normally react to this sort of bad news, and to say what the bad news that I'm expecting is. Should I cut most of this out? — Violet Flare 1 min ago

IMHO, her explanation is very detailed but seems to shade his/her actual question. I asked OP to clarify, and now he/she asks me if the explanation should be cut off for most of it.

Could narrowing down the explanation help making the question more on-topic ?

Mithrandir24601

@Cashbee yup, I'd agree with that :)

Yeah - I'd delete 90% of that. Sure, it's very distressing, but to ask the question it just isn't needed

IPS Comment Bot

10:20 AM

@DoritoStyle There is a cultural context BTW. From my own experience in French workplaces, oral agreements don't worth much. An agreement is written or does not really exist. — Berthim 1 min ago

#13283 Berthim (1806 rep) | A: How can I tactfully tell my ex-superior that I don't owe him anything? (score: 57) | posted 18 hours ago by Link0352 (2615 rep)

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10:30 AM

@Cashbee Close vote? :p

@avazula Maybe just keep the quote and add some explanation then ;)

I'm attempting an edit :)

Oh no jeez, we're not talking about the same thing! Sorry @Tinkeringbell haha

I'm focusing on the question I've mentioned before, OP is clearly in pain facing their father's disease, I'm trying to make their question on topic

@avazula Hahaha. Pro-tip? If you click the little arrow in front of a message, it will link you to the message someone replied to :) I'm thinking the guidance you already got on that question was perfect ;)

@Tinkeringbell I'm learning everyday! :)

room topic changed to The Awkward Silence: Welcome to The Awkward Silence! Here, you can find the general discussion for interpersonal.stackexchange.com. Feel free to ask your questions about the site, or participate when people are practicing their smalltalk skills! "True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable." ― David Tyson. (no tags)

Are there two or three people available to help flag comments I've already flagged in an attempt to delete them?

10:44 AM

@Mithrandir I'm coming!

I'm dropping links one at a time because I'm on mobile. interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/1333/…

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/12435/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13194/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13194/… .

(I'm going to go through them once I'm home. Right now, internet is way too slow when loading pages ;))

(and essentially all the ones under that)

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13282/… and all under

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/2006/… and under

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13268/… .

R/A interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13268/…

Haha, that's mine, so I just deleted it! :D

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13242/… .

@avazula Which?

10:52 AM

@Mithrandir on that question: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13268/…

(the thanks to sphennings to tell me about the singular they)

Ah

Otherwise I've flagged all comments you've asked for

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13221/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/2632/… .

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13194/… and the one under, and the one agreeing with Tink

(I'm out of flags! haha)

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13236/… .

@avazula ^this one's yours again ;)

And don't worry, the more helpful flags you raise, the more flags you get to use per day, up to 100 a day. Right now I'm trying to get the community to help flag and delete because the mods are swamped.

10:58 AM

It's true that we don't have much mods

@avazula There's three... like every beta site gets ;)

@Mithrandir this room should host some kind of Spring cleaning event. An hour or so where everyone can just dump their links and flag :P

And ocmment writing tutorial sessions :P

@Tinkeringbell That would be awesome haha

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13221/… and interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13221/…

@avazula I'm afraid you'll have to self-educate for now :P But this meta is a good place to start: interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/a/2147/1599

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13169/… and interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13169/…

11:03 AM

Hello @HalfOfCharcoal :P

\o

Wait

Are those flaggable?

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13070/… and all under

I'm awkwardly silent

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ yes

11:04 AM

@avazula I am not. :P

All no-longer-needed and chatty. Yep. Strict comment standards on IPS

@Tinkeringbell maybe you could explain my how to obtain a comment's URL? I've got a French-speakings user that keeps asking me things in French under my questions ( fed up )

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13041/… and interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13041/…

@Tinkeringbell nice, I can actually flag comments here

@avazula I've flagged those.

11:05 AM

You can get a comment's URL by clicking its timestamp.

@avazula Right-click on the timestamp, and do 'copy link address'

@avazula the timestamp

Thanks guys!

@Mithrandir when you're linking these things i'm not sure if you're directing us to the whole comment thread or just those specific comments

@doppelgreener I think he's not sure either

11:06 AM

@doppelgreener He says 'and all under' if there's more than one ;)

Here's the new peregrination of Mr I-speak-French: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13282/…

Specific comments being linked to are the ones I've flagged.

@avazula you should have said "que"

That's prolly French

@Mithrandir I think you're just stopping people from getting pundit

So flaggers - I've been linking from chat.stackexchange.com/transcript/message/44076232#44076232 and down

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ I'm sorry, is this a joke? I don't get what you mean ._."

(Main reason for me to be on IPS is to train my irony - I have zero second degree haha)

11:10 AM

Copy paste fail.

@Mithrandir you're getting old

@avazula Tiny warning: I'm okay with that, as long as it isn't related to users/posts on this site. We're trying to get this room as nice as possible, sarcasm/irony related to site activities might not be that inviting...

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13282/… and the three under will probably need more flags than we have here because of score

@avazula well, there are people who chatted with me for months and still don't get my humor

Twenty comment flags are still waiting for review.

11:12 AM

@Tinkeringbell Oh no, don't worry: I wanted to say that I don't get it when people do jokes that are based on irony or 2nd degree. I don't want to disrespect anybody

Twenty?!

These four interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/12655/…

@avazula Perfect :D

@Tinkeringbell just kick me out now while you have the chance

Some of these are upvoted quite a bit.. Its almost like meta posts with comments :p

11:14 AM

^

@SurajRao Yeah sure, rub the problem in :P Thanks for helping out though, all of you!

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Why do you think that chance will pass?

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ that's spanish :)

Are there enough people to flag delete interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13194/…?

I will be very mean to @Mithrandir

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ go for it

11:16 AM

I'm out of flags already. Should help a bit though

well ping 12 hrs later according to flag count

He didn't get Bilbo to throw the ring in the lava and all that shitsto@m happened

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ He probs had a higher plan: some highly amusing books and movies :P

@Tinkeringbell I will be like a plague in your . . . Ah forget it. I was actually planning not to be around much, let alone frequent yet another chat

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ I should censor the poop part but I'll pass

Thanks for the help, Charcoal! I believe we deleted about 25 comments.

11:20 AM

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Ah well, this is a nice room to frequent! So, if there's any chance of changing your mind, lemme know ;)

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ psst. Lots of stuff to flag appears here

Ooooh flag

@Mithrandir Waaait! Let me get the van first... It's van, bait, abduct... not throwing out the bait first! :P

@Mithrandir Yeah, your messages usually violate Be Nice

Hmm, I expected this to be deleted interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/12655/…

11:24 AM

@Mithrandir I just put a flag on it, but it didn't go

This too, isn't very highly scored interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13194/…

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/11682/… .

I'm guessing Charcoal is out of flags though, so you might want to keep some for when there's fresh flags around in chat ;)

@Tinkeringbell @AJ, have any flags to spare?

@Mithrandir I have :) But we need an extra one of both of those ;-)

Anyway, that was good. Got a bunch of them deleted. Thanks everyone!

11:28 AM

@Mithrandir I just flagged those two

@Mithrandir yes, 51

Wait a second

WAIT A DANG SECOND

It says "Daily comment flag limit reached"

HOW DARE YOU IPS. HOW DARE YOU

Well, apparently, it's not afraid of you

@Tinkeringbell so it's the guy that says "hey, there's a creepy noise coming from over the bushes. Let's go check it out"

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Well, the guy will probably find two hedgehogs mating or something... I mean, how often is there actually anything creepy in bushes?

11:33 AM

@AJ Did you check out all the links I posted?

@Tinkeringbell I've found spiders

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Cute :D

BIG spiders. Like, 3 cms long

Unfortunately, only boring house spiders can be found in these areas

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ I cuddled tarantulas... like more than 10 cms long

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ There's not much exciting wildlife here too ;)

And ... since when do spiders make noise :/

@Tinkeringbell since Hobbit

11:37 AM

Ah... alternate realities can be confusing at times ;)

Apr 13 at 10:47, by A J

Administrative note: Due to recent events, the "Be Nice" policy will be strictly enforced, dangerous or inappropriate conversations will be shut down and offenders will be kicked from the room. Please respect room owners who are trying to enforce this; moderators will step in if necessary. This isn't directed at any specific user(s), just a general reminder.

Holy crap

Yeah...

Thats.. strong interpersonal skills.

@Tinkeringbell which one are you in? I'm in the one when two kings act like nincompoops and threaten to attack each other with strong gunpowder

@SurajRao setting boundaries :)

11:39 AM

One has Cheetos for hair and the other looks like he has an allergy to peanuts at all times

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ One in which my train is almost at the station and I'm going to close the laptop :) Talk to you later!

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How to deal with moody friend?

I have one friend whom I get along with great ... most of the time. We see each other about 1-3 times per week, sometimes together with other friends and he is generally a pleasant person to be around - even if he is also generally quite self-centered and does not take critique too well. Problem...

friends conflict-aversion difficult-people

Gross, you have newest question feeds as messages

@Mithrandir yes

@AJ no

11:46 AM

Who's that handsome extroverted man? My intuition tells me he's not that ... human ...

@avazula no, I'm usually a chemical

hah

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ She might be talking about @CalvT. :P

@avazula Extroverted Main Man, and Introverted Meta Man are two feeds that notify chat of new posts on the main and meta sites respectively.

@AJ she? OK, will get a while to get genders right

11:50 AM

@sphennings Hi! Thanks for the answer ... So my intuition was right aha

Are there any posts on meta about deescalating chat?

@AJ he looks like a nerd, come on

@sphennings Aside from timeout the room or kick mute people.. not really I guess

@avazula we also have IPS comment bot that posts comments that it identifies as potentially unnecessary, based on some very simple patterns matching.

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ use they and dont bother is what I learnt

11:52 AM

@SurajRao Just learnt about singular they couple of days ago! Don't think it's pretty but it's so useful!

@SurajRao I do use singular they a lot, but not with people I chat a lot, mister . . . Um . . . Miss Suraj Rao

@Tinkeringbell sorry I meant comments.

Is Suraj a boy name or a girl?

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ boy.. Common one in India

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Maybe we're not binary humans, but a superior intelligence who doesn't get the concept of genders? :O

11:54 AM

@avazula huh.. didnt know it was called that. I assumed the pronoun would be 'it'.

We've had a lot of massive comment threads recently. I'm thinking of what non mods can do to deescalate them.

Nope, not on meta yet.... Although de-escalate sounds a bit like they're very nasty too

@SurajRao I'd thought the same, but someone (I'm wondering if it was @sphennings actually?) told me that it's called that way

@avazula it's awesome once they . . . you get used to it

hic they

hic hic

it is very derogatory when used as a pronoun for a human, no matter what gender they are.

11:56 AM

Wiki: singular they

Wait, what was the syntax?

@SurajRao "it" is generally used for non humans. Calling someone it can be a very dehumanizing speech act.

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ You got it right, it's singular they

No, I mean the chatbot's syntax

@Cashbee There are exceptions I know one person who requests it as a pronoun.

@sphennings ohk... Good to know

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@sphennings Does it have problems when marking captchas with "I am not a robot?"

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