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Q: Politely tell a female friend to stop lying

Carlos AnyonaI have this female friend who likes hanging with me. She even comes at my place to spend sometime. She's my good friend. Sometimes back, she had a heartbreak and she's been telling me she is not ready for relationships or roll with any guy. Some few days ago, I was at her place then she got a cal...

 
 
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6:21 AM
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6:45 AM
ola
 
Morning
 
morning!
 
7:04 AM
Can someone please explain to me why my question has close votes, I don't understand and people are not giving a reason in the comments?
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Q: When your crush shows you texts of another person asking her out and tells you how irritating that guy is, is that a no-go for a relationship?

TermatinatorPlease reword if necessary My crush (same one as in one of my other questions) is now a good friend of mine. She certainly does like me as a friend, and I want to remain as her friend but I also have romantic feelings for her. I am not asking how I should ask her (that was the previous question,...

 
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7:16 AM
@Termatinator there's two things: first is that you're asking us to interpret what your crush is thinking based on your observations. We can't read minds, especially not over the internet. The second issue is that you're asking "what should I do?" See the information in the close reason:
> Questions should ask for help achieving a specific goal. Your question is asking for personal advice on "what to do" without defining a goal; this is too subjective. Edit your question to explain what you hope to achieve and how you would like to interact with the others involved.
 
7:27 AM
@Termatinator It's extremely subjective
Too subjective to be answerable with any consistency. The context is everything for such an action. And every person will view that differently.
 
is there any way to make it a valid question on this site, could I edit it in such a way
 
I don't know, but I don't think so. We don't really do "Is this ok?" type questions here. Maybe you could come from the "How to I use interpersonal skills to interpret this situation that my crush has confided in me" which is basically what Kate is answering anyways
@Termatinator the question is what kind of advice do you actually want out of it
Imagine ideally what a good answer would posit, and then work from that
 
7:51 AM
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Q: How do I conclude a date without sounding rude or abrupt?

LampPostI don't know how to end a date that is mostly about conversing. Example: long conversations where the only reason the date concluded was last call for a train or the place we were at was closing. I enjoy most of the dates I have so I don't want sound abrupt in closing the date or give off the imp...

 
8:01 AM
the most ideal answer would be the answer to the question: should I lay low about my feelings to her. or another is: When do I confess my feelings towards her
 
Now that's an entirely different question from the one you asked
"Should I" is off topic here. You could get useful answers by asking some variant of "how given this behavior can I judge if I should make a move or not"
 
the should I lay low is exactly the same question, the when do I confess question sounds different, but is sort of the same question. With that you ask if you should lay low, if so when do I confess, if not then should I confess at the next given time
 
8:18 AM
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Hey there! :)
 
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@avazula Hello!
 
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Q: How to tell acquaintance that I don't endorse his reckless habits?

user90580For two years, we have been renting out part of our house to a family who we were introduced to through church. Our family is no longer part of said church, but we are still on friendly terms due to them having no other place to go. Now their son in particular, is nothing short of rebellious. He ...

 
How are you guys today? :) I'm about to leave to visit a nearby island with my best friend. Hope the weather will be nice!
 
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@avazula Doing good. To an island? Sounds cool!
 
Glad to hear it :) yeah, I love my place, it's beautiful. I could send you guys a picture during the day!
 
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8:30 AM
@avazula will be waiting. ;)
 
interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/18727/… I slightly changed the question, seriously hope it will be valid now
or is it still invalid?
 
9:29 AM
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Q: How to respond to someone who wants to know my dark side and wild things that I have done?

Aquarius_GirlI met a person online. After some conversation I asked him the kind of books he prefers. He told me he likes "Penthouse forums" and reading about sadistic side of humans (one side dominating the other vulnerable one in sexual terms). Some time later he asked me to tell him my dark side. Then he ...

 
 
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11:50 AM
We're on the island, having lunch on the beach!
 
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@avazula Looks cool :) but empty too. I don't see you there. :P
 
There's a bunch of people around here:
 
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@avazula zooms in to see :P
@avazula Oh.
 
We made a new friend:
 
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What's that bird?
 
12:06 PM
@AJ I wanna say seagull?
 
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@avazula Oh. We don't get them here.
 
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Q: How to move forward from being bullied severely as freshman?

anonymousFirst of all,thanks for reading this extremely rambling question.This is a highly personal scenario I've wanted to get help with, and frankly couldn't work up the guts to talk to someone,not even my guardians.So I'd really appreciate it if you'd bear with me. An extremely close relative passed a...

 
12:54 PM
@avazula Seagulls are so annoying when I go to the beach. One time, I was eating a sandwich and a seagull swooped down and snatched the sandwich out of my hand
 
1:10 PM
 
I mostly just stood there in shock while the seagulls fought over it
laughed it off and got my mom to make me another one, and I guarded it well that time
 
1:32 PM
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Q: How to turn down a promotion in new job?

Ms.TamilI'm a software developer with 4+ years of experience. I'm moving out of my current company and get a better offer(both in pay and role) from another company. I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment. Now I get a huge hike with my new job offer with a role...

 
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@ExtrovertedMainMan what? no daily meetings but working agile?
 
1:48 PM
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Q: How to ask my ex if she has a dependence relationship with me?

nameemailBackground: I had a friend with benefit for almost one year who eventually became my girlfriend even though I didn't see her as so, I could say it was just by routine, we were seeing just each her and doing "couple" things so we started dating, even though we never talked about it. Let's call he...

 
2:21 PM
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Q: How to find the right words for what im trying to say?

Marie Si have some bad mental health issues that often gives me trouble. When ever i try to tell/explain someone whats in my mind, why i did something or why not, i can't find the right words to do so. For example: I once got into a massive fight with my partner. The topic was the typical "I would die ...

 
3:09 PM
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Q: Coming clean to my girlfriend

user22026My girlfriend and I are both in our early 20's in the US. We have been together for almost 3 years and have been living together for a few months now. While I've been with other girls before her, I am her first for everything. First kiss, first boyfriend, first everything. This has been a sore p...

 
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3:41 PM
pretty quiet here. Happy monday. (yawns)
 
yay someones here
Hi @ElizB!
 
hi haha
 
@ElizB /grumbles/ happy monday
 
i'm trying to resist distraction because my presentation is NEXT WEEK and i'm putting on finishing touches to my powerpoint
i did a lot of edits the last three hours so feels like i need a break
 
Have you heard about the new firealarm system for deaf people @ElizB?
it sprays some kind of wasabi xD
 
3:43 PM
@Cashbee oh my goodness... i would hate that. I prefer the flashing strobe lights over wasabi in my eyes
 
link to an article about it in 'the guardian': theguardian.com/science/2011/sep/30/…
@ElizB the wasabi wakes you up though!
I mean, yea i wouldnt like it either but still
 
@Cashbee ugh lol i guess... but my eyes would be blurry and irritated the rest of the day. that's no good for productivity
 
@ElizB its better for productivity than getting burnt (too) heavily
 
@Cashbee Ahhh Ig Nobel prizes!
 
@Cashbee yeah
 
3:46 PM
but yes it's only an IG nobel prize, not a real one
 
> [Wasabi's] active ingredient, allyl isothiocyanate, acts as an irritant in the nose that works even when someone is asleep.
 
I can imagine...
 
> Karl Teigen of the University of Oslo, winner of this year's Ig Nobel in psychology, was celebrated for a paper that considered the question: why do we sigh? He wanted to give his students a project that would teach them about the research method. "We decided to choose a theme where we could do original work, and it turned out – to our surprise – that in psychology there were no empirical studies on sighs and sighing."

They discovered that most people believe others' sighs are a sign of sadness or disappointment. But they reported that their own feeling when they sighed was more often re
It's funny sometimes what sorts of things have never been researched in decades or centuries.
 
yeah
 
The third Ig Nobel in that article involved training a tortoise to yawn on command to see if yawning is contagious among tortoises. It's not, which lends credence to the idea that it's a result of empathy in humans.
See @ElizB, it ain't my fault when you yawn because I do!
 
3:54 PM
> Other winners included a team of French and Dutch researchers who were given the physics Ig Nobel for studying why discus throwers become dizzy whereas hammer throwers do not
:D
gotta respect the creativity of some researchers xD
 
my tablet won't let me upload a gif of the "heh" reaction from Robin Hood:Men In Tights movie. -_-
way too late in conversation to add that in
 
Achoo
 
bless you!
 
love that movie
 
@Cashbee Yeah, that intrigued me too. ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10894415
 
3:55 PM
yeah gosh I love it too. so clever and just so. many. puns.
 
This is probably one of my favorite Ig Nobels though:
> Peace
Arturas Zuokas, the mayor of Vilnius, Lithuania, for demonstrating that the problem of illegally parked luxury cars can be solved by running over them with a tank.
 
@ElizB to be honest, I love all the Mel Brooks films
@El'endiaStarman o.O wat
hahaha
 
Yeah, I remember reading about it a while ago.
 
@Cashbee i wasn't sure about Blazing Saddles, on one hand i realize it is funny, but the other hand it's pretty racist... and note that this is only from what i've heard about it.
i have not seen it yet.
 
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@El'endiaStarman punished on the spot. I love it
 
3:58 PM
From what I've seen of Blazing Saddles via memes, I'll bet it was very racist on purpose as part of the humor.
 
yeah, i guess.
 
@ElizB uhm, never heard about that one
 
Blazing Saddles is a 1974 American satirical Western film directed by Mel Brooks. Starring Cleavon Little and Gene Wilder, the film was written by Brooks, Andrew Bergman, Richard Pryor, Norman Steinberg, and Al Uger, and was based on Bergman's story and draft. The film received generally positive reviews from critics and audiences, was nominated for three Academy Awards, and is ranked No. 6 on the American Film Institute's 100 Years...100 Laughs list. Brooks appears in three supporting roles, Governor William J. Le Petomane, a Yiddish-speaking Indian chief and “a director” in line to help invade...
 
the only two i know of were Robin Hood and Blazing saddles. Blazing Saddles came out... ^ well, beat me to it. There ya go
There's quite a few movies by mel brooks, apparently.
 
I just know spaceballs, men in tights, history of the world part 1, young frankenstein, dracula, and the producers
 
4:00 PM
out of these, I only knew the blazing saddles and men in tights
 
I know see that he has some others. I think I'll have to see them now
 
Looks like i have some catching up to do!
 
I've seen Spaceballs, though that was a while ago. (And it shows up often in memes.)
 
spaceballs is by far the best
 
sounds like i'm gonna see that lol
 
4:01 PM
only works if you know starwars. ^^
 
Would you say it's accurate to say that Spaceballs is Star Wars but with wacky humor dialed to 11?
 
That i have to see... :P
 
it's starwars alright with the humor of men in tights
 
That sounds like a good time :P
 
sure does. haha now I'm rewatching that one too
It's time to go now, see you guys
 
4:06 PM
@Cashbee See ya! Thanks for enriching us with more Mel Brooks movies :D
 
always a pleasure :)
 
:)
 
4:19 PM
Heading out now, gonna eat lunch then work on some statistics, then do some half-life equations and such, then go to my 2 hour 45 minute class on Public health basics... then gotta do my stats homework tonight. due tomorrow. Crunch time! :P
 
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@ElizB good luck! Enjoy your ... Evening? :p
 
5:11 PM
@avazula thanks
 
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Q: Is it wrong to lunch outside during break time?

Do0msDayFor 3 weeks I've been doing a project with my schoolteam for another company (it's unpaid). We make biweekly (twice a week) visits to the company. It's a company with around 8 employees. The way lunch works at that company is that they put everyones name in a randomizer. The one who gets chosen...

 
 
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8:17 PM
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Q: Co-worker constantly thinks I'm slacking off

Henry A.I work as the sole web developer in my department doing back end work. As I'm sure many of the developers here will attest to, a large portion of the time spent programming is spent on thinking how you're going to write the next class, function, etc.. I have a co-worker who is not savvy in softwa...

 
 
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9:52 PM
Home from classes. Wow, it's a quiet day. Gonna plow forward with statistics homework using R programming
 
@ElizB ayyy R is a fun one! I'm surprised they're having you use that over Matlab though. I thought Matlab was what everyone loved in Academics
 
@scohe001 I was given the option of either R or SAS
I know zero about it....
R is free so I went that way
 
Matlab is more general-purpose whereas R is focused on stats.
 
@ElizB huh I've never heard of SAS
outside of all the SAS I get from my SO :P
@El'endiaStarman gotcha. I've spent a little time in both but it was years ago and definitely not enough to fully understand the languages
 
@scohe001 snicker I give a lot of SAS to hubby when he says something like "oh, that's easy!" about something related to math or an unknown subject i'm trying to learn....
@El'endiaStarman you know it.
 
9:59 PM
@ElizB he has it coming then! Haha my SO just enjoys being a butt
 
@scohe001 hmm, should I take that literally?
I know what you mean, but if I did take that literally, that would be funny.
 
@ElizB thankfully they don't make fart noises like a middle schooler, so I don't think it's too literally :P
 
@scohe001 hahaha good
If i have any issues relating to R, can I ping you, @scohe001 ?
 
@ElizB My #1 character flaw: saying stuff like that. :P
 
The teacher basically assumes that everyone took a data analysis course when I didn't... so that's one annoying thing about the homework, she assumes too much
 
10:03 PM
@ElizB You can always ping me! I make no promises of how helpful I'll be though haha it's been awhile. I'd be happy to try to help if I'm around tho :)
 
@scohe001 Okay, we'll see how it goes. I think i'm gonna have more trouble with the table she wants us to make... the R stuff is basically inserting the commands she gives us
 
That's how it always is when you first start learning. It'll get more fun once she makes you do more by yourself!
 
Yeah, that's probably what she's doing with the data analysis course she's doing
but problem is i'm not taking it
 
Ahh. Whelp.
 
so she assumes that I know some of the basics when I know NOTHING of it... just the entry stuff. :/ so... (shrugs) I haven't even started on it so we'll see how it goes the rest of tonight
 
10:10 PM
Ohhhhh boy
I mean have you ever written any programming languages before?
 
for any assignment or work or whatever? I learned a little bit of SQL but didn't utilize it, and the only experience with R is being told what to put in
that's it.
 
Hmm it's gonna take some getting used to then
 
@El'endiaStarman is a programmer, and he often tells me what he's working on and he has explained some basics of programming concepts, but that's really it
 
But I'm sure she'll start you guys off slow
You got this!
 
She did! first assignment was basically printing the first 10 observations.
that's it
 
10:12 PM
I like to say programming is like math. You can sit there and listen to explanations all day, but until you sit down and start actually solving some problems you won't learn nearly as much
 
it's now that it feels like it's getting more complicated. 1.Clean up data 2. create a table of descriptive statistics (probably the most tedious) 3. discuss problematic variables, including their usefulness and 4. run R to do a box plot and histogram.
 
The best part is that I'm sure in a month once you've had more experience, you'll look back and realize what takes you an hour now will only take you 5-10 minutes
You've just gotta power through the hard stuff to get stronger!
 
@scohe001 Yeah, that's what I'm working on.
I also found i have an anxiety thing with getting criticism and struggling with hard stuff
I think i made a major breakthrough when hubby let me work through my math last night without pushing any buttons
it's like he got what buttons not to push so I didnt get all sassy
so that helped a ton.
 
Hmm I feel like everyone does to some extent, but some people definitely have it worse
 
@scohe001 Yeah, i think it came from my dad's criticism, his extremely high expectations
impossibly high
 
10:21 PM
My ex was the same way. They wouldn't even let me see what they were working on because they knew I'd try to help and tell them how they could improve (I was an undergrad TA back in college so I have like a physical need to help lol)
@ElizB Oof I'm sorry girl :(
At least it sounds like the hubster's starting to get it tho!
 
I get it! I do want to help. I was actually trying NOT to help my little brother with a 3-d map project for 5th grade, because he was getting frustrated that me and mom were suggesting so many ideas that he felt overwhelmed haha oops
 
@ElizB oy my little sister does the same thing! Between me and my mom we make her shut down with whatever she's working on haha
 
@scohe001 Narcissist stuff. :P I'm working through it. :) Yup, hubster has been working for a while to learn how I learn and what to do to help me learn best
 
It's so hard to help when the best way to help is to stop helping :P
 
@scohe001 Yeah, me and my mom were laughing over that and we felt so bad
we had to remove ourselves from the room
Hubby was helping him though, so he wasnt all by himself. Hubby is a lot more patient than us
 
10:24 PM
Haha at least you guys stepped out! My mom lives by the motto that more help is better help which...doesn't always workout for everyone
@ElizB dang the more you talk about him the more lucky it sounds like you got! I'm jealous! :P
 
yeah, it doesn't quite work out haha
@scohe001 I love how cool as a cucumber he is when everyone was stressed out.
 
lol sounds like he's used to the stressful situations
 
thats probably the #1 thing I think of when I'm anxious, how he doesnt show stress the same way
 
I've gotta run, Monday's finally over!! Ping me if you're having trouble tonight :)
 
Okay! I should get on it :P
 
10:26 PM
@ElizB at least you have all the time to learn from him ;)
Good luck!
 
Thanks!
 
@scohe001 Hmm, honestly, I don't think I'm that used to stressful situations, actually. My reasoning is that either it's not really a big deal or stressing out will make it worse. That's 90% of my cool-headedness, I think. :)
Well, that and knowing that usually one can reason through a problem.
 
Yeah, that.
 
10:41 PM
sup dawgs
 
Homework :P That's what's up.
@scohe001 already running into my first problem. She didn't give us enough inputting info to actually do stuff and I honestly am stumped. First, cleaning the data is a must. She didn't put down anything for cleaning data.
 
homework? for what class?
 
Read the above.
 
data analysis?
tryna to find compelling structures in your data?
 
just basic statistics
 
10:49 PM
Oo nice
 
@El'endiaStarman wait...you're the hubster???
@ElizB wanna make a seperate room for this? I'll feel bad if we have a long back and forth about non-interperonal skills related stuff
 
@scohe001 you didn't realize? I revealed that not a long time ago
@scohe001 Sure, go forit
 
@ElizB maybe it was while I was offline for two weeks? But yikes. Super embarrassed about that jealous comment now. Plz ignore.
 
@scohe001 Nah no worries :P
 
@scohe001 meh, that's what the main room is for
 
11:16 PM
@scohe001 Heehee no problem.
@Mithrandir At the same time, it's usually a good idea to avoid filling a room with a conversation between two people.
 

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