The Awkward Silence

@Ash does it show up in your que? Or do you manualy have to look at it?

Catija

Ash isn't a mod on IPS... they don't have a flag queue.

I should write a list of the mods and what sites they are mod on...

Mithrandir24601

@Pheo If you go to users -> moderators, it gives a list of the mods on that site

Oh. I believe I know most of them.

12:08 AM

Not an answer, but you should not do it not just because it is a fraud, but also because marrying implies a series of consequences that may force you to have to support her financially for the rest of your life. — user 1 min ago

#13379 user (109 rep) | Q: How do I politely decline a request for a contract marriage? (score: 33) | posted 10 hours ago by sleepytime (166 rep) | edited 8 hours ago by Kat (1768 rep)

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Uh... Why is it telling us 10 hours after?

Mithrandir24601

@Pheo So, the question was posted 10 hours ago, but the comment was only posted a minute before the bot posted it here

@Mithrandir24601 So it waits 10 hours on answers and a minute on comments?

Catija

... no. It's just linking to the question. The bot has nothing to do with questions, only comments.

@ExtrovertedMainMan What do we do? this question needs a lot of clarification but it looks like the author is mia

can I just guess at what the author was intending and amend the question?

12:14 AM

Why do you guys ping a feed?

it links to the question

if you click the arrow it will show you which feed i was talking about

Cascabel

@Jesse usually the answer is close it and you can always reopen but that'd reject the migration, sigh. So there's more incentive to try to fix in this case.

It actually seemed clear enough to me though?

@Jesse but why ping the feed? I understand how a feed works, but why ping it?

Cascabel

@Pheo so that we can see which message it's about.

Oh. So other users have some context to go by.

Cascabel

12:17 AM

Otherwise everyone would have to relink the question manually, or say "the roommate question", or whatever.

yes

(Just working some stuff out here)

Well, gotta sleep sometime. See ya'll tomorrow!

Q: How do I found 0ut who is the moderator who is deleting my comments?

12:39 AM

Not an answer, but important to mention. Marrying will also imply you may have to legally support this person indefinitely, so that is something else for you to keep in mind. — user 1 min ago

#13379 user (109 rep) | Q: How do I politely decline a request for a contract marriage? (score: 33) | posted 10 hours ago by sleepytime (166 rep) | edited 9 hours ago by Kat (1768 rep)

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Introverted Meta Man.

12:57 AM

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I have posted a comment on a question. The comment was deleted twice. The first time I thought I forgot to press enter, I re-posted it. In less than 10 minutes it was deleted again, clearly not because it was flagged. The comment was not rude, inappropriate or out of context. How can I find out w...

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1:46 AM

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Q: How to deal with my math professor?

I am a university student, in my current group we are only 5 students (2 women and 3 men). One of my teachers has been discriminating me since the course started (approximately 2 weeks ago), that is, he never looks at me when he gives his class, he looks at all my classmates during the whole cla...

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4:36 AM

You're getting downvoted because this is blatantly breaching the BNP. I will not be surprised if you get multiple flags for rude/abusive either. — Nij 1 min ago

#13398 Nij (107 rep) | A: How do I politely decline a request for a contract marriage? (score: -6) | posted 8 hours ago by justniz (7 rep) | edited 7 hours ago by justniz (7 rep)

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5:28 AM

Does anyone have an example of a question about "understanding social norms as they relate to interpersonal interactions - why do we interact the way we do?"

I have an idea but would love to see an example of a successful question in this context before I ask it

@Clay07g Yes, you are partly right. The younger the receiver is, the more acceptable giving the advice is. I would be okay giving my sons behavioral advice, but I wouldn't do the same to my parents. — Peter Abolins 47 secs ago

#13368 Peter Abolins (542 rep) | Q: How to talk to family member about their spending? (score: 14) | posted 18 hours ago by Psirus (171 rep)

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5:54 AM

I'm surprised to see atleast two people upvote such a blatantly rude answer. I haven't flagged as R/A because a heavily-downvoted answers teaches new users a thing or two about good answer vs bad answer, rather than a deleted post which becomes invisible. — Simpleton 35 secs ago

#13398 Simpleton (317 rep) | A: How do I politely decline a request for a contract marriage? (score: -8) | posted 9 hours ago by justniz (31 rep) | edited 8 hours ago by justniz (31 rep)

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6:28 AM

@Jesse I think this one works? interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/2298/1599. Or interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/1960/1599. Just make sure you're asking about a behavior that's general enough to have an explanation, I guess...

I might ask an IPS question.

@AJ I'm not ruling out I might ask another question too :P Just not saying when ;-)

I am looking into old questions if they can address my issue.

I too was thinking of another Q, something about elevator etiquette. But there are several things to ask there and I don't know what exactly..

@Cashbee We could hold a brainstorm session in chat ;-)

6:37 AM

haha I would be into that :D

my initial thoughts were something similar to this Q

but I want to distinct it more, and center the Q more around Skills

@Cashbee That one is old and would probs be closed as 'what should I do' now ;-)

@Tinkeringbell yes I am aware of that

If it's about an elevator, I'd say you might need etiquette more than skills?

its just a similar situation. But in the elevator there are more things to adress than on an open road. And yes it's going to be more about etiquette than skills yes

So, you're trying to not be in the way when leaving/entering an elevator? :P

Here, the proper etiquette would be 'A good shove works, if no-one moves' :P

6:42 AM

@Tinkeringbell That's one of the possible questions yes. I could also (instead) maybe ask about about the awkwardness inside the elevator, or about waiting for others (keeping the door open), ....

"excuse me, coming through, let me come through." If no one moves, then tap on the shoulder of that person and say "is that $20 yours". ;)

@Cashbee I don't really know what you could do about awkwardness, because it's often 'greet people when you get in, greet them when you get out' over here...

But it would be interesting I guess ;)

Have you googled already? I think keeping the door open has the most chance of actually having some form of etiquette related to it

no I haven't googled yet, that is beside the point :)
and yes I think too that holding the door open would be best fit. I will try to formulate a Q about that

Make sure to mention culture etc... you don't want the wrong etiquette :P

@Tinkeringbell I am aware of how to ask here :)

6:53 AM

Mine would be about declining people asking me for my future plans.

I have a tendency not to tell anybody my future plans, because if I do tell, they will not success. There have been cases where I didn't tell the plan and it was successful.

@AJ is lying an option? (e.g. "I don't know yet")

lying can be an option. And saying "I don't know yet" might not work out in job interviews.

NVZ

hello AJ

How are you?

Hi

I am good. how about you?

NVZ

Yea, I'm doing well. :)

7:04 AM

-1 for 1) trying to guilt-trip/create bad conscience and 2) not being upfront with what the intention of the guilt-trip is. Trying to achieve compliance by making people feel bad about what they do seldom works. The need that drives them to do it is still there and pushing them in that direction. All you do with actions like this is making them feel bad for fulfilling that need. Rock & A Hard Place. Either you take away the need.... or you make sure they can fulfil the need without bad consequences. — MichaelK 19 secs ago

#13378 MichaelK (222 rep) | A: How to talk to family member about their spending? (score: 18) | posted 17 hours ago by Astralbee (10669 rep)

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@Tinkeringbell hmmmm, they don't quite emulate the sort of thing i had in mind

My question essentially was going to be: "In order to save face, why are people often willing to use methods that lose them more face than was lost to begin with?"

are why-questions on topic?

@Cashbee the on-topic i was trying to emulate was this: understanding social norms as they relate to interpersonal interactions - why do we interact the way we do?

but the examples currently active are not quite the same style to what i just said... so I figured id bring it up here first