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Q: How do I ask for donations anonymously at a meeting?

user24827I co-manage a group of about 20 people, most of whom I only see once a week. Recently my partner (the other leader) fell ill and has been hospitalized with a serious illness. She will be in the hospital for a long time. Not only is this difficult, but her medical bills will be very expensive. I ...

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Q: How do you talk to someone when you know you have bad breath?

T JamesBad breath seems to be inevitable at certain times, and while it is nice to anticipate being in a social setting in order to properly prepare, sometimes it comes without notice. In my particular case, I will sometimes have individuals get very close to me while carrying on a conversation. Altho...

 
 
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3:01 AM
Don’t worry..I recorded it!
 
3:17 AM
@Firework please don't be childish... It's a bad look. And once you've reached a certain age it doesn't matter anyway.
Oh dear me, people are gonna know that the guy that created the lgbt+ tag and talks about those things openly is queer... deary deary what shall we do?
 
let's not start fighting, eh
that sounds like a good plan to me
 
@ArtOfCode no sense of humor at all :P
 
who me?
nah, mods aren't allowed those
 
@ArtOfCode mhmm
 
your sense of humour gets surgically removed when you get your diamond
 
3:32 AM
"we hate fun" except for when we don't lol
@ArtOfCode huge sacrifice... Not worth it.
 
@ArtOfCode I've told him that on several occasions and he doesn't listen.
 
@apaul eh
honestly most of us are robots anyway so we never had one in the first place
 
@Catija thought you were baking puppy kicker?
 
That's an odd thing to bake.
/comma burn.
I'm baking... got my ABBA on and crust going.
 
@Catija It's delicious though. Tastes like justice :P
No love for people eating jokes? You people are dead inside...
 
3:37 AM
that's what the lack of a sense of humour does to you
 
@ArtOfCode you know you wanna laugh. Rejoin the common folk. Take down the bourgeoisie...
 
Ha. Ha. Ha. Must--exhibit--human--emotion.
 
@ArtOfCode hopeless...
@Catija ABBA as in disco, or?
 
@apaul Yes. I'm a 35 year old with a 60 year old's listening habits. ABBA, Queen, Musicals.
 
@Catija don't talk about queen, or I will fight you...
 
3:47 AM
Queen = good or bad?
 
Why does the chat keep reloading..
 
@Catija Freddie Mercury was the man.
 
@apaul Good.
See... we can be friends. ;)
 
@Catija better be... 😒
@Firework ?
@Catija so ABBA means?
 
@apaul ?
 
3:55 AM
@Catija you got your ABBA and crust going?
 
ABBA... like the band. Dancin' Queen...
ABBA (Swedish pronunciation: [²abːa]) were a Swedish pop group, formed in Stockholm in 1972 by members Agnetha Fältskog, Björn Ulvaeus, Benny Andersson, and Anni-Frid Lyngstad: the group name derived from the first letter in their names. They became one of the most commercially successful acts in the history of popular music, topping the charts worldwide from 1974 to 1982. ABBA won the Eurovision Song Contest 1974 at The Dome in Brighton, UK, giving Sweden its first triumph in the contest. They are the most successful group to have ever taken part in the competition. ABBA's record sales figure...
 
@Catija ??? That's disco kid.
Wait, I thought you were being sarcastic earlier lol
 
....no?
 
So... I'm confused.
Abba is definitely disco. Thought you were trying to say that the implication that you were into that stuff was ridiculous.
 
I was making a joke that I'm listening to old music. :P
 
4:02 AM
@Catija ohhhh
@Catija should listen to Bikini Kill instead. Roughly the same era, but it's better for you.
 
I handed off control of the Pandora to my assistant and we're listening to the Rihanna station now. :P
 
@Catija you're fired.
 
Free labor...
 
@Catija still not worth it unless they're hot.
 
Cute Hispanic gay boy. One of my dad's exercise buddies.
 
4:08 AM
Oooo
 
Ex military... not sure which branch.
He likes Zumba
 
Probably worth it, but not for you ;)
Sorry, not sorry
@Catija I say these things sometimes... Please don't hold them against me...
 
:D
It's OK.
I'm not interested. He's a sweet guy. Not my type.
 
@Catija thought you were all married and happily monogamous over there ;)
 
Totes.
 
4:17 AM
@Catija mhmm... We'll go with that ;)
 
He's too short anyway... Andy's 6'5"... this guy's my height. :P
 
@Catija How tall are you?
 
5'8" ish.
 
Not bad, taller than me...
 
How tall are you?
 
4:19 AM
6'5" is pretty impressive though...
5'6 5'7 it's been a while since my last measure
Is he little, little? Cause that's kinda cute too... @Catija
 
Nah, about the same height as me... but his hair is about an inch high.
 
lol, we're gonna get in trouble... Behave
Still... Bad music is a huge turn off. Rihanna is pretty bad.
 
Sorry.
It's Pandora, though, so I'm getting Adele?
 
@Catija eh... Should try some Mindless Self Indulgence.
 
I was thinking of some dance music.
 
4:30 AM
MSI is danceable
Depending?
 
How about Avita? I could be very good for you
 
Combi Christ is more my style for dance stuff. Can't really dance, but it's good club fun.
 
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Q: Why does man print "gimme gimme gimme" at 00:30?

Jaroslav KuceraWe've noticed that some of our automatic tests fail when they run at 00:30 but work fine the rest of the day. They fail with the message "gimme gimme gimme" in stderr, which wasn't expected. Why are we getting this output?

947 upvotes and 200k views in just 2 days.
 
@AJ Andy told me about that yesterday.
 
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4:38 AM
Where?
 
@Jolenealaska link required
 
@AJ He saw it on a blog somewhere.
@Jolenealaska Hey, Jojo!
 
Hi Catija. Have you looked for the room yet?
 
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@Catija This question beat that covfefe question.
 
is andrew, andrew?
 
4:41 AM
@Jolenealaska Yep. I've been there.
@Jolenealaska Andy is my husband.
 
i haven't lately
 
@AJ Good. It's better.
 
That's a hoot
Ok, I'll see you there
and here :)
 
@Jolenealaska come on... Killing me without that link...
 
4:50 AM
@Jolenealaska Did Tall take that?
 
@Jolenealaska beautiful
 
yep
i'm adding access to the room as fast as I can
Lay off the noise!
 
*zips it
 
 
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6:37 AM
Good Afternoon!
 
@AJ Good morning!
 
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Howarya?
 
Sleepy :P
And you? :P
 
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@Tinkeringbell throws a bucket of water :P
 
(Just read up on what happened in here last night... Sounds like this room get's out of control a lot)....
 
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6:50 AM
@Tinkeringbell hungry
 
@AJ starts throwing pieces of bread :P
 
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Does it have jam on it?
 
@AJ If you want it to :P But that will make my fingers sticky :/
 
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@Tinkeringbell Okay, I can manage.
 
lol ;)
 
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7:01 AM
@Tinkeringbell Why fingers? Use a knife. :P
 
@AJ for throwing? That could go horribly wrong! :P
 
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@Tinkeringbell No, to apply jam.
 
@AJ That will still get my fingers sticky when throwing pieces of bread and jam ...
 
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@Tinkeringbell If you can manage to throw a knife across the continent.
 
@AJ Probably easier than pieces of bread! :P
 
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7:03 AM
or bucket of water. ;)
@Loong o/
 
@AJ hi
 
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what's up?
 
stupid snow and wind
 
morning
 
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@Loong here it's only wind.
@Magisch afternoon
 
7:07 AM
stupid rain and wind
 
@Magisch Morning
Only wind here, with a chance that this will be the hottest 23rd of November ever...
 
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@Tinkeringbell temperature?
 
But they are prediciting a max of only 7 degrees C here for the weekend, and wind/rain/wet snow
@AJ It has to be warmer than 14.6 degrees C for it to be the hottest ever
 
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14.6 degrees C is hot? Nice!! If we get 42 degrees C in summer, then we call it hot. 14.6 degrees are chilling enough here.
 
@AJ No no, 14,6 is the hottest ever :P
for 23rd of November
 
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7:10 AM
@Tinkeringbell No, 42
:P
 
If we get over 25 C here, we start complaining about hot :P
 
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We start this at 42 C
 
and if it's 5 c here, we start complaining about the cold
 
@Termatinator Ugh, yeah :P
Or if it rains for a week, or if it's too windy, or or or ... we basically always complain :P
 
I made a pretty big edit here, I'd like some second eyes on it: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/posts/7100/revisions
 
7:15 AM
(Your German is showing :P )
 
@Tinkeringbell Where?
 
Title :) Partner can be without a capital ;)
Rest looks good :)
 
@Magisch I thought about the nicks yesterday, Would you like to be called mag or mags :P
 
you can call me whatever you want
 
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@Magisch I thought your name is Magic at first.
 
7:23 AM
@AJ It's the german word for "magical" (adjective)
 
@Magisch and the dutch
 
can also be used adverbial
 
[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Bad keyword in body: How can I help my partner with her body image without offending her? by SomeoneElse on interpersonal.SE (@Tinkeringbell @dhein)
 
Another big edit: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/7084/… (I also cast the 5th reopen vote)
 
@Tinkeringbell ugh, my train was cancelled, so I had to take the next one 3 minutes later
 
7:32 AM
@JarkoDubbeldam Aahhh... poor you! 3 or 30? :P
 
3
Sounds ok you would think, but that one was only 3 carriages long, instead of 7. Plus there was the other train worth of passengers waiting
 
@JarkoDubbeldam Yeah, that actually sounds familiar... that is bad!
 
There is this point where you have to tell people trying to enter, 'yo, its full'. We reached and passed that
 
What's with that keyword? I can't get into Charcoal...
 
@JarkoDubbeldam leaf on the railway?
 
7:36 AM
@Tinkeringbell weight loss is a bad keyword
 
@Magisch Ah... figures :P
 
@Termatinator idk why, all I know is that the sprinter in the other direction was cancelled as well
Prolly something between Gouda and Rotterdam
 
@Magisch why is that a bad word? how should you call it?
 
@Termatinator It's related to products that tend to spam a lot, would be my guess
 
@Termatinator And just keep calling it weight loss... they'll mark it false positive in Charcoal
 
7:39 AM
@JarkoDubbeldam one time I missed the first train, and the second and third were cancelled, I had to wait for 1.5 hours
 
ouch
I once took the train to london, with an interchange at Rosendaal and Brussels. Not wanting to miss the train at brussels, and having a 5 minute change at Rosendaal, I ended up taking a train earlier to there.
 
@Termatinator On almost any stack site, when the word "weight loss" is in somewhere it's some guy spamming for diet pills
 
Actually, a train to the hague, where the train to brussels was supposed to start
 
in Charcoal HQ, 9 mins ago, by Magisch
@SmokeDetector f
I already fed back as false positive
 
and it was on my parents wedding anniversary
 
7:41 AM
ended up being cancelled and only starting from rosendaal, forcing me to take that initial train to Rosendaal anyways
and guess what.
It was delayed
 
With that weight loss question btw
The OP tripped the most ancient tripwire of them all
Instead of listening going into problem solving mode immediately
 
Ended up not missing the connection, because that one was delayed by 30 minutes as well :/
 
@Magisch Uhuh..... At least, now there's a question... the way it was written yesterday made me think it was trolling..
 
@Tinkeringbell Nah I can totally empathize with the guy
It's an almost instinctual thing for most guys to respond to people venting by offering solutions
This multiplies when you're used to spending most of your day thinking up solutions to problems
 
@Magisch Even when they know those people are vegetarian, they will just suggest 'eat meat'? :P
 
7:48 AM
Some people can be dense
 
@Tinkeringbell sometimes
 
@Magisch I don't exactly see that at my family, the women in my family have that solution problem
 
 
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Q: How to deal with someone who won't leave me alone?

PhillMy partner works in a book store. Because of the way the company is set up, she mostly works alone (95% of the working day). She has a regular "customer" (I use inverted commas because he never buys anything) who will come in and hang around trying to talk to her. She's been working in book stor...

 
Hi @AnkitSharma :) Are you chasing after @AJ?
 
Morning
 
@ExtrovertedMainMan I don't like this one :( --> Happened years ago, is resolved now...
 
in The Screening Room, 6 mins ago, by Ankit Sharma
@steelersquirrel that reminded me where is @AJ
 
Sorta like the 'hypothetical' questions?
 
9:44 AM
in The Screening Room, 4 mins ago, by Nog Shine
@AnkitSharma In charcoal HQ, Awkward Silence and The Junk Drawer
so, yes
 
@AnkitSharma You're too predictable :P
 
(But always welcome here, btw :) )
 
I rarely comes in this room and mostly it's due to @AJ only
@Tinkeringbell thanks
 
@AnkitSharma You don't like Awkward Silence?
we're extra awkward here
 
9:47 AM
I am way too awkward to fit here :P
I am so awkward that they call awkward people ankit here
 
@AnkitSharma Nah.... I don't allow name-calling in here :P
 
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Gheez!! What happened?
 
@AJ You're MIA :P
 
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7 pings
 
@AJ you ditched us and now I am stalking you in revenge
@Tinkeringbell wow really, I like her songs
Mathangi "Maya" Arulpragasam (born 18 July 1975), better known by her stage name M.I.A., is a British rapper, singer-songwriter, record producer, and activist. She is of Sri Lankan Tamil origin. "M.I.A." is a play on her own name and a reference to the abbreviation of Missing in Action. Her compositions combine elements of alternative, dance, electronic, hip hop and world music. M.I.A. began her career in 2000 as a visual artist, filmmaker and designer in west London before beginning her recording career in 2002. Since rising to prominence in early 2004 for her singles "Sunshowers" and "Galang...
 
9:50 AM
@AnkitSharma You should participate on IPS
get some of that awkward off yourself
 
@Magisch I did, I did
 
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@AnkitSharma lol. Buddy I am busy at work.
 
@AnkitSharma Didn't know that was a thing.... I don't often listen to rap ;)
 
@Tinkeringbell they used her song in Slumdog millenir
 
@AnkitSharma I only know that movie title, never watched it... I'm sorry :P
 
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9:52 AM
@Tinkeringbell Thank God! You didn't keep only first letter capital.
 
@Tinkeringbell I despise that film but love the songs
 
@AnkitSharma I never have the patience to watch films :P So when I watch one, I'm sure to pick something good :P
 
@Tinkeringbell then you probably never watch a TV serie
 
@Termatinator Weirdly, yes I do... Those episodes mostly only take 45 minutes
I can endure that ;)
And series have the added benefit of being able to crochet... it's not so bad to sometimes miss a few minutes because you're looking at a pattern... Movies often get confusing way too fast if you miss a few minutes.
 
Well, I know a TV serie that will get a special episode of 2 hours
 
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10:00 AM
Watch Stranger Things. 2 seasons with 8 and 9 episodes respectively.
Running time: 45 minutes
 
currently, I'm watching agents of shield
 
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Black Mirror and Young Sheldon here.
 
I also watch game of thrones
 
@AJ Almost done :P
 
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Great
 
10:02 AM
and designated survivor
 
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I despise GoT.
 
and orange is the new black
 
@Termatinator Do you have time to do something else than watching tv series? :P
 
@AJ why?
 
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@Termatinator because of messed up sex scenes.
 
10:03 AM
@Tinkeringbell yep, playing with my pets, gaming, watching movies, working
 
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I don't get time to watch TV series that much. So I try to watch all episodes in one or two days.
 
@AJ good point
 
I'll restart my Netflix now. I've been looking forward to season 2 of Stranger Things
 
I watched all of GoT in one week
 
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10:05 AM
@Jolenealaska Ahh... good. You'll enjoy it much if you've liked the first season.
 
I pretty much did too (not quite, but close)
 
thats over a third of an entire week
almost 50%
 
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@Termatinator for eg. breastfeeding a six years old.
 
at the time there were 5 seasons and they all had 10 episodes that where 50 minutes long
 
@AJ I don't know that I loved the first season of Stranger Things, but it intrigued me.
 
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10:07 AM
@Jolenealaska Yeah, it was more of intriguing.
 
I've seen seasons 1-6 of GoT three times just with my friend George. The seventh season is not as good (no GRRM), but I'll buy it before season 8 starts.
 
@Jolenealaska same with me for all seasons
 
I don't remember how many times I've seen them
I'm currently rewatching them with my gf, and rereading the books
 
the books and tv show are completely different
 
Stupid question, If I miss a notification because my head is turned, how do I get it back?
@JarkoDubbeldam me too
well
sortof
no girfriend ATM :)
 
10:12 AM
@Jolenealaska Chat notification? Or SE Notification?
 
chat
 
I don't want a GF ATM
 
like that
 
No idea.... Don't think you really can?
 
ok, i guess multitasking is out if I want to catch them
 
10:14 AM
You'd have to walk by every chat window you have open I guess. But don't the ones that you have ping's in have a little * in their tab window?
@Jolenealaska You can turn on sounds??? But that's very, very annoying, be warned :P
 
Aargh, cheap headphones. Battery dead
I don't know if I can make my regular phone headphones work with my Kindle (for my voice to text software AKA Dragon.
Bluetooth does not work on my old desktop HP, but it works fine on my Kindle Fire
The add-on dongles never work on my machine :(
 
@Jolenealaska I hate when that happens.... I have noise cancelling ones, and it's soo annoying when I have to turn it off..
@Jolenealaska Hmm... that's pretty weird ;)
 
I have the pair I want picked out on Amazon. Maybe I can hit my dad up to buy my cart.
 
10:30 AM
@Tinkeringbell I watch way more films
 
@AnkitSharma Predictable, as always :P
 
@Tinkeringbell but those shows last fro decades
 
@AnkitSharma I watch a season or two and start something new :P
Series don't ever really finish, so if I decide I'm finished with it, that's just as good :P
 
There are shows that have a clear closure
they're rare, but they do exist
Like scrubs, before they decided to add another season
ohwait
 
10:33 AM
Breaking Bad
 
yeah ^^
 
@Tinkeringbell do you sometimes recontinue with watching tv shows
 
Arguably HouseMD
 
@Termatinator Not often... most of the times if I'm done, I'm done...
 
although in many cases it is just going on and on and at some point the writers write an end to it
 
10:34 AM
And, if I want to pick things up, I have to rewatch some episodes to remember where I left of.
 
Game of Thrones might have qualified but novel writer is way to slow and show quality falling lately
 
Regardless of the speed of the books being written though
Deviations and such happened before that became relevant already
 
the tv show is ahead of the books right now
 
I am aware
 
@JarkoDubbeldam but those deviations didn't harmed the show but in absence of books the show is struggling and being inconsistent
 
10:36 AM
@AnkitSharma Some didn't, some did
Most of the times I didn't really mind as much
But there is one thing in S3 that really really annoys me
but spoilers
 
Best example of show surpassing book is "Fullmetal Alchemist", where anime surpassed the manga and made up tehre own story which didn't went well and later on new show came "Fullmetal Alchemist brotherhood" which worked way batter and followed manga way way more
Only the original creator can give justifying end to his creation
 
I liked both, shoot me
 
Honestly, I liked the theory about homunculi being created by the taboo better than some maniac just creating them as he pleased
Plus the powercreep at the end of brotherhood made the end a bit.... uh
 
11:03 AM
ohh
 
11:15 AM
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Q: How can I get my sister to stop asking me to help her do something I don’t agree with?

Notts90My sister is in hospital. She’s a smoker and has run out of cigarettes and is asking me to bring her more. I strongly disagree agree with smoking and feel like I would be encouraging/condoning it by bringing her cigarettes and I have therefore said I won’t do it. I have already made some conces...

 
11:48 AM
In relation to what @Shog9 said here yesterday, I did this:

https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/posts/7154/revisions

Now, it's rolled back :/ Does that warrant flagging as an edit war?
 
Not sure
I'd try one more time with an even more complete edit and a more clear edit summary, and if there's another rollback, flag
 
@Magisch I already flagged... you're too slow :P
 
One rollback doesn't make a war imo
 
You try then! :P
I'll jump in one more time
 
Make sure to link to that discussion in the edit summary @Tinkeringbell
 
11:53 AM
> Titles should be as specific as possible. If it's no longer about buying cigarettes alone, but helping her smoke in general, the title should reflect that. There should be no need to read the entire body of the question to understand what the title is supposed to mean.
 
@Tinkeringbell I was mid edit when you kicked me out
>_>
 
No links, but that's my edit message
@Magisch Sorry... :/
 
Lemme get some stuff in the Q body to clarify
 
I'm a typical girl sometimes :P
 
@Tinkeringbell ask not whom the bell tolls for
it tolls for thee
 
12:00 PM
@Magisch Haha, you done editing? Can I go check? :P
 
yes
 
@Magisch I see.... I'll keep it in mind :P
Ugh... :/ Just got an e-mail from my 'new' manager (I'll meet him next week for the first time). I don't like him already! :P
 
Do you flag partial answers in comments as no longer needed or custom explaining they're answers?
@Tinkeringbell Why? That bad?
 
@Magisch No longer needed...
 
Some people come off as cold / eerie in written communication and are more personable in person
 
12:05 PM
@Magisch Yeah....
@Magisch It's not that..
He sent an e-mail reminding us of our 'referral program' here..
With the side-note that 'everybody that refers a woman will get a little extra bonus from him personally' because 'the balance between women and men isn't there'.

I hate such mails/thoughts.
 
@Tinkeringbell Their patronizing nature or the thought behind them? Or both?
 
@Magisch Both, and the idea that I'll probably turn into a 'pet project' for such managers.
 
heh
 
@Tinkeringbell Does that mean you can refer your mom?
 
12:09 PM
@JarkoDubbeldam Probably :P She has to get hired though :P
 
Well, he obviously has to hire her, the balance between women and men isn't there.
 
But yeah, it makes me worry standards are getting lax for women, like 'we need em, we can't be picky/go for quality'.
 
Gotta have balance
 
Anyways, I'm assuming an interesting chat with him next week...
 
12:48 PM
@Tinkeringbell The thing is
The few women I know who work as devs really resent that
Because of programs like this people will say "Well did you just get hired because you're a woman or are you actually good?" which I think is somewhat of the opposite of the original goal.
 
@Magisch Exactly ... I don't want to run around doubting if my work is good or my boobs are.
 
The balance not being there has many reasons very few of which can be adressed by individual employers
 
@Magisch And yet, people are setting goals, or try to hire more 'minorities'...
 
As someone not part of a minority (except maybe some health related one), diversity targets have always struck me as patronizing and belittling. "Merely being fair isn't enough, these people aren't good enough to get in otherwise, we must stack the deck in their favor"
I imagine it must feel pretty degrading even if you get an advantage from it
 
And yet, I had an interesting talk about it with my current manager (who is part of a minority)... He said he always felt like he had to work twice as hard to get higher up... Maybe, because I'm not aspiring to be a CEO I don't hit that glass ceiling?
 
12:58 PM
@Tinkeringbell Bias in both directions can coexist
It's very possible that some do gooder HR person sets these initiatives and execs and hiring managers feel like they need to compensate and end up discriminating
 
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