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12:28 AM
@Catija how should I flag for close for a question where they're asking "what should I do?"
(I flagged as "Too Broad" but just want to be sure for next time)
 
Welcome. Thank you for sharing this. I do not have a complete answer, but it sounds like you and your brother have been through a lot as well. You are not responsible for anyone's actions but your own. Perhaps it would help to talk with your brother about what you and he need the most, and then try to be an advocate for those things. — cactus_pardner 1 min ago
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Q: How to respond to a family member relying on me for support after their partner has committed suicide?

benEmotional context This family member is going through a divorce with their ex dragging this divorce out as painfully long as possible so that by the time the divorce is finished they do not have to pay a penny towards child support. In addition to attempting this they have also been stealing t...

 
12:48 AM
@scohe001 I think people have been voting those as Off Topic with a custom reason like this: interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/a/2682/3171
 
1:16 AM
@EmC Do you think your question could benefit from the ? I don't know how much formal research has gone into NVC, but perhaps there's some.
 
this one needs to be shut down fast
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Q: How to respond to a family member relying on me for support after their partner has committed suicide?

benEmotional context This family member is going through a divorce with their ex dragging this divorce out as painfully long as possible so that by the time the divorce is finished they do not have to pay a penny towards child support. In addition to attempting this they have also been stealing t...

Can we get some close votes before this goes to HNQ?
@Rainbacon bump ^^^^^
 
 
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2:57 AM
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Q: Apologies and parting notes

apaulI've given this a lot of thought over the last month or so. Initially this was going to be a heated rant about how awful the minority experience on Interpersonal Skills is, and how that's the reason I'm leaving, but if I'm really honest with myself, there's a lot more to it than that. That's not...

 
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@RichardU I did what I could
It needs one more VTC
@Catija Yeah, that's always been my understanding, that it's intended more as a mediation sort of thing more than anything
 
3:28 AM
Whats the symbol for small-text?
in an answer, I want to add some smaller text down the bottom and have forgotten :D
 
either <sup>text</sup> or the same thing but sub.
 
3:42 AM
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Q: Apologies and parting notes

apaulI've given this a lot of thought over the last month or so. Initially this was going to be a heated rant about how awful the minority experience on Interpersonal Skills is, and how that's the reason I'm leaving, but if I'm really honest with myself, there's a lot more to it than that. That's not...

 
interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13548/… Anyone else find it odd that a user who has been a member for all of 15 minutes is welcoming people to IPS?
 
4:04 AM
@Rainbacon Eh, not necessarily. If they've been avoiding joining but just found something that really spoke to them... or if that's what they do on the sites they're active on... it could just be habit.
 
4:38 AM
I had a 4 of older-ish custom flags that weren't necessarily flagging for deletion all declined at once and now im banned from flagging :(
I thought we encouraged custom flags for tricky situations...
 
@Jesse If you're not flagging for deletion, then why? I'm sorry you're flag banned but other than deleting something or commenting on it, the mods don't really have any tools. We're not going to mod message someone for a single bad answer, which some of your flags were for.
You can write a comment to encourage the user to improve the post. That doesn't require our attention.
 
@Catija It was more that I wasn't sure what to do, I just wanted to bring the issue to the attention of someone who might understand protocol better than me
 
If you're not sure what to do, ask on meta. That's what it's for.
We don't necessarily have the answers and we don't have a way to respond if we do.
 
But does that mean that I should never raise negative issues via custom flag?
 
What do you mean by "negative issues"?
 
4:47 AM
there are a number of metas with "raise a custom flag" as a (what i thought was widely accepted) way of potentially dealing with similar things
 
It's almost midnight for me and you're talking in generic terms. I'm not sure how to answer your question.
There's nothing wrong with raising a custom flag but if you honestly don't know what to do and there's no specific advice about what to do... ask in here or on meta.
 
in which they say "custom flag it"... im just trying to understand the ban
 
The ban is automatic. If you have under a certain percentage of your flags marked helpful, you get a 7 day ban. We can't control that.
 
The negative issues were: 2x dup, 1x content issues, 1x NAA but I felt they needed some more context so I turned it to custom flag
87 helpful, 1 retracted, 1 disputed and 8 declined I don't really see a percentage issue. I guess if its "recent declined" since they were a build up of pending ones that got declined just today i think
 
But one of the "dupe" answers you marked was older than the others, including the ones you didn't mark... but, again... what do you want us to do with "dupes"? If you haven't tried a NAA flag and a comment first, please don't custom flag something for us as NAA. NAA flags go to the community, not the moderators.
@Jesse It's within the last week, I think.
All of this is explained in the flag decline reasons you were given, though... have you looked at them?
 
4:59 AM
@Catija that dup is the reason i used a custom flag, to give the context because there were a large number of dups on one question
 
yeah, but only recently
only once i noticed i was banned
 
Did you see the discussion Shog had with Mith when he got flag banned a few weeks ago? It's directly relevant here.
Mar 27 at 20:54, by Shog9
@Mithrandir I declined all of those flags.
Start there. I'm going to bed.
 
@Catija Sleep well!
 
5:31 AM
And in case someone is wondering why they can no longer see a 'comment' option on main: interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/a/2839/1599.
 
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I almost forgot about it.
 
I just caught up on meta ;)
 
 
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6:51 AM
@Jesse 10% of flags handled in the last week will earn you a ban
 
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Q: How to advice someone that I've thrown away a project they were helping me with, without offending them?

InterpersonalLoserA couple of months ago I undertook a long term household project to build a large outdoor entertainment area including a deck, pergola and various other niceties. I did not have the all the skills necessary to complete this project all on my own, and had planned to contract out a professional to ...

 
Heh, 2222 helpful flags.
Opinions? Flag was disputed.
 
@Mithrandir The question is basically a phrasing request. It's hard to control answer quality like that if the question is basically asking for sentences?
 
@Tinkeringbell hahaha yesss
 
@Cashbee Stick to it :P We need to mess up the statistics so that it looks like it's working :P
And we only have 30 days for that!
 
6:59 AM
what do you mean, stick to it?
 
@Tinkeringbell ehhhh... I interpret it more as asking for methods, not phrasing
Also, opinions on this?
(flag was also disputed there)
 
@Cashbee Only write very, very nice comments asking for clarification :P
 
aha. well yes, naturally
 
7:20 AM
@ExtrovertedMainMan phrasing request?
 
7:33 AM
How do you hope people would respond to your „I feel“ statements, and if they do, what will that make possible for you? — michi 1 min ago
#13547 michi (2784 rep) | Q: In non-violent communication, what to do when "I feel..." statements fail? (score: 10) | posted 9 hours ago by Em C (6099 rep)
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8:20 AM
@Henders o/
Didn't see you in a while.
 
@AJ Yeah, I went on holiday for a few days :)
 
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@Henders Cool! How did it go?
 
Very nice, thanks
 
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with friends?
 
So I didn't log in the whole time, which was a nice break
 

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