@Rithaniel I don't think you need to work with an orthonormal basis for that problem. Just manipulate the inner products a little bit: $\langle \langle x,u\rangle v,w\rangle=\langle x, u\rangle\langle v,w\rangle=\langle x,\overline{\langle v,w\rangle}u\rangle=\langle x,\langle w,v\rangle u\rangle$
this shows that $w \mapsto \langle w,v\rangle u$ is the adjoint