@FrankFYC If it relates to the workplace and it's an answerable question. Just because it's a workplace question doesn't mean that we can answer it. I can tell you now from the topic, the end result will be "they're anonymous, there's really nothing you can do"
yes, I realised I was just in agony coz of the way my team works
I am dreaded by things I cannot do now for the new job as I continue to learn, and stuck on a thing but going over it again and again each day and days r passing while I am griped in fear
but what I see is someone who has been ground down by misfortune to the point of questioning themselves into paralysis by analysis. Think less, do more.
@Nofel It's the panic shutting you down. When you find you're having a problem learning something and start to feel frustrated. Close the book, turn off the computer, and walk away. If you can go for an actual walk around the neighborhood, even better. You need to get out of that panic mode before you continue.
@theonlydanever then you need to press the issue with the manager. You're not going to destroy your career by being insistent. He either doesn't want to deal with it or he is busy, either way, you need to confront him as it effects your notice period.
@theonlydanever Very simple. Physically go and find them. Say "Hey, I need to talk to you, it's urgent". If they tell you they're busy/not free that second, make it clear that you need to see them today, and organise a time for whenever their current thing is finished.
If you get to the end of the day without that meeting, put your resignation in an email, ask to discuss it in person first thing tomorrow, and send it to them.
@theonlydanever If you're going to be doing interviews with him, I would probably take him aside before, and just say "Hey, once we're done with the interviews, I need to talk to you about something". Having that discussion before a scheduled meeting is only going to cause problems. But you also don't want to spring it on them immediately afterwards, in case they have urgent plans.
My opinion is that they're all know-it-alls, regardless of life experience. Just like most people I've known under 25 (including myself).
I always told my kids when they were teens, "in 5 years when you're 20, you'll look back and say "I was such an idiot at 15 and 5 years after that you'll say, "I can't believe how stupid I was at 20"
For me, I was about 27 before I wasn't an idiot (relative to getting older)
@ChrisE truer words were never spoken. My old coworker always used to say about a younger coworker "don't try to tell him anything, he's at the 'stupid age'" and he was right.
Something my mom told me growing up that I never understood until later (obv) is, "It was amazing to me how much smarter my parents got from the time I was 17 to 25. Remarkable, really." :)
@TheSnarkKnight you were learning. Edison said his 10,000 unsuccessful attempts to create a light bulb weren't failures at all. He learned 10,000 things that wouldn't work.
@TheSnarkKnight My 22 yo just last month decided "maybe I need my ADD medicine after all" because he hated it as a teen. "My friends think I'm more fun without it"
People with ADD are always more fun off their meds. They're flighty, spontaneous, uncontrolled and reckless. They take risks that their friends don't which improves their social standing.
@ChrisE Aspergers is often misdiagnosed as ADHD. We can go off the rails too. If I didn't take Ativan, my brain would be going faster than I could handle it. I'm funny as hell though.
I like it here, much calmer
The difference between a wise man and a fool is that a wise man has doubts
How this bonus will get paid out should have been explain during the onboarding/orientation process. Most if not all sign on bonuses are paid out in increments. You will not get it in a lump sum. NICE!! if so, but NOT!. Since you share that you are getting a $5,000 bonus. It is likely that it wil...
that person really has a lot of specific facts for something totally vague from the OP, lol
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