Iuann, I have to admit, the way that you describe him, I think you have a real treasure in that son of yours. If you want me to elaborate why I believe he will do great things, just comment.

Did the other kids donate their right shoes as well? Or just him? Why? Is there some sort of mobbing going on?

...looks like someone likes to try and impress girls.. at 13, I'm not suprised

Thank you he is very good its just me and him ,yes he is spoiled but this is not him he takes very good care of his things I guess the problem I'm having is he is like mom its just right shoes its not a big deal I like being different anyway He has all ways been the kid that likes to do things that make him stand out but there has to be Consequences for his actions the school principle said that going with one shoe should be the consequence but that does not seem to bother him

I think going without right shoes for even a few days is going to drive the point home.

@SaturnsEye I'm pretty sure that at 13 a pretty girl asking me to do something had the effect of approximately halving my IQ for all intents and purposes.

You should donate his laptop or phone or gaming console to show him how you feel. Or you could hide them and then tell him that you donated it and that is no big deal.

@one2three that is a terrible idea: you really don't want to be the one depriving him of his possession! It's quite different from him doing it himself. Doesn't make any sense at all. It's, like, the worst suggestion I've ever read in the past months, overall.

Well, first he has to admit that there is a problem. Second, let him come forward with a solution to that problem. Have you considered throwing a letter that says sth like "Our son donated all his eight right shoes. Call 0123456789 if we can make it four pairs instead." into the donation box?

At thirteen years old, he's young enough to make stupid choices, but old enough to understand when he's being punished for making a stupid choice. Don't make him suffer - get him a pair of shoes he can actually use - but punish him and make it clear he is being punished, as well as why he's being punished.

@Stephie the kids all think it's cool already

Make him track down where the shoes end up and buy them back (assuming it's a thrift store).

May I suggest (in the short-term) do nothing? He has presumably impressed the girl. Let him go without and he'll eventually ponder the notion. I wish I was 13 again.

I might suggest that until your son has proven that he's become more aware of the cost and value of things, you NOT stock him back up to $1,000+ in shoes. To be honest, I'm not entirely sure why any 13 y/o needs that much in shoes, but maybe that's just me.