Good answer, though I wonder if OP needs to go farther than drawing back a bit? I would imagine as extreme as the situation is that "stop seeing her altogether" would probably be the only viable solution. Maybe if it hadn't progressed to wrestling, staying the in the same hotel room, talking for hours and right before bed then that would work, but this has gone
so far that I can't imagine anything short of termination of the relationship would reassure most significant others. —
bob 43 secs ago