Aha. Thanks for the clarification. — virolino 27 secs ago

Actually it is offtopic to ask how you should decide. It is on iopic to ask ow to communicate the decision though. You will need to decide first and then you can ask how to communicate that decision — XtremeBaumer 15 secs ago

Just a heads up, your question is put on hold now so you can clarify the things @Ælis asked. There's plenty of people here on this site that are eager to answer your question in the best possible way, but to do that it should be narowed down a bit more first. Don't get discurraged by the "on hold" status and try to improve the question so that we can also make those other people happy when they can answer it too :) — Imus 43 secs ago

Good answer, though I wonder if OP needs to go farther than drawing back a bit? I would imagine as extreme as the situation is that "stop seeing her altogether" would probably be the only viable solution. Maybe if it hadn't progressed to wrestling, staying the in the same hotel room, talking for hours and right before bed then that would work, but this has gone so far that I can't imagine anything short of termination of the relationship would reassure most significant others. — bob 43 secs ago

Hi and welcome! I see that you're new to IPS.SE. I hope you don't mind taking quick tour of our site to understand more about it. For your answer, people, including me think that it is not a good interpersonal advice/answer about how to tackle the problem stated in the question. Please edit it appropriately to correct the mistakes suggested in How do I write a good answer? — ankii 16 secs ago

About the dress situation, instead of "it makes you look fat," I go with "I don't think the dress flatters you," which places the emphasis on the faults with the dress while implying that the person in question looks fine. Also consider whether they have ALREADY BOUGHT IT. Giving advice before a purchase is much more useful than criticizing it after they have already made a decision. — Ella 9 secs ago

FWIW, I don't think that being on the spectrum is standing in your way here. You have gotten a lot farther in expressing your attitude positive to the homeless person than many of us (myself included) would have, and that's both remarkable and commendable. Keep up the good work! — Mad Physicist 1 min ago