From observing the conversations, I would say that these people are usually not skeptics, because the conversation would proceed as normal, except for the disbelief in where one claims to be from. — Flux 57 secs ago

What problem do you see in 1. telling her how your flat looks like, 2. you've got work to do and 3. being open to changes instead of precisely sticking to plans? 1. is not a problem as most of us have their little mess sometimes. You will come out with that somewhen so why not right now? 2. should be ok for her especially if you clearly mention this before. 3. doesn't hurt if the only reason to change plans is the plan itself. Here I must disagree with you. Too accurate sticking to plans can be very destructive. — puck 21 secs ago

How about simply answering the question “Where are you from?” with where he actually is from, rather than where his distant ancestors were from? If for example he was born in New York and grew up there, then just say New York. The fact that he looks Chinese is irrelevant. If people really want to know, then they should have to explicitly ask the question: “Where were your ancestors from?”. — Chris Melville 1 min ago

Am I understanding this correctly, she is upset if you go to bed if both of you are at their own home, simply because there is noone to text? You have a good reason to turn the tables and tell her she should stop putting you under such pressure for nothing. — puck 1 min ago

Ok now it's over and probably this question will be deleted. Though I'd like to know how thinks went... — puck 1 min ago