DECLARE @x XML = '<xml>
<customer name="Max"><email address="mvernon@mvct.com" /></customer>
<customer name="Erik"><email address="erik@your-mom.com" /></customer>
<customer name="Brent"><email address="brentcom" /></customer>
</xml>';
SELECT FullXML = @x
, WithValidEmail = @x.query('/xml/customer/email[contains(@address, "@")]')
, WithInvalidEmail = @x.query('/xml/customer/email[contains(@address, "@")] = False');