Like, I'm not saying it isn't work
But I was brought up to accommodate people
(also I think I had a natural inclination to as well)
So when I finally learned what was going on I climbed out of the pit
I probably fell down several times (or possibly more)
And I probably will fall in there occasionally still
But I climb out again because I don't want to be in that pit
Or drag other people in there
That last thing especially is what scares me
Because lying in the pit and yelling at people is like dragging them in there with you