@Shalvenay OK. My advice would be to run a few short adventures, each in a different system. Spend a few sessions trying to prep and run it exactly as it says to, as close to RAW as possible while also doing the things that you find fun.
The games I'd suggest to play would be Dungeon World, Blades in the Dark, and Golden Sky Stories. Dungeon World, because it keys into exactly what you described. Blades in the Dark, because it's an incredibly robust system of GM support. Golden Sky Stories, because it's a very different kind of game that uses very different tools to support its premise, wh…